In ancient times,' monarch' refers to kings and' ministers' refers to subjects. In modern society, the relationship between monarch and minister is the relationship between leader and led. For example, there is a relationship between managers and employees in enterprises and a relationship between principals and teachers in schools. How to get along well in these relationships is very important, the so-called' loyalty of the monarch and the minister'. The word' benevolence' is a cognitive word, with' people' on the left and' two' on the right. Who are those two people? If you think of yourself and others, you must think of others, so think of others everywhere. Ren Jun thinks of his subordinates everywhere, not only for his subordinates, but also for his family and family. When a leader has such a mind and such a kind heart, his subordinates will be very grateful and loyal to him. So' loyalty', this loyalty is loyalty to the leader, loyalty to his duties, loyalty to his duties, and loyalty to his group. This is called loyal minister. The relationship between monarch and minister is Tao, while benevolence and righteousness are virtue. (a) Ren Jun 1. Don't listen to rumors. In ancient China, even families had a relationship between monarch and minister. In the past, families were big families, and respected elders were leaders, and the decisions of the whole family had to be made by them. In the Ming Dynasty, there was a scholar named Zheng Lian. There are thousands of people in their family, seven generations live under one roof, and the family is harmonious. Compared with the ancients, today's couples can't get along with one child, even two couples can't handle it, and they often quarrel. Whether a family of 1,000 people can live in harmony is a question asked by universities. Ming Taizu admired Zheng Lian very much and asked him, "How can you manage a thousand people so well?" Zheng Lian replied:' Don't listen to women'. This sentence is not scolding women. We should listen to its true meaning, not just look at the surface of the text. In ancient times, women had fewer opportunities for education. Without education, they teach ancient sages and sages, and they don't understand the truth of being a man. If you don't know how to be a man, your vision will be short and your mind will be narrow; Like to care, make the whole heart uneven, gossip, jealousy disputes began to emerge. Now' women's words' are not necessarily what women say. Men have no real upbringing in dealing with people, and often care about gains and losses with others, and they can't listen to what others say. Therefore, we should have insight and wisdom, and don't listen to rumors. As the saying goes, "Who is right and who is wrong, who is right and who is wrong." . The motive of the rumor monger is to control you, make your family and your group at odds. Therefore, a leader should be wise and refuse to alienate slanderers. 2. Fairness Later, the emperor sent two pears to Zheng Lian to test how he distributed them to 1000 families. Zheng Lian moved out of two large water tanks, filled them with water, smashed the pears on one side, let the whole juice seep into the water tanks, and then gave everyone a bowl of pear water. In this way, it is fair to do housework. Fairness, peace of mind; Peace of mind brings harmony, and harmony and happiness are born from it. This group needs equality very much. If you have a special preference for an employee and give him a raise from time to time, give him some rewards. If other employees are not convinced, their grievances will gradually accumulate and then erupt. Therefore, equality should be treated equally not only within the family, but also within the group. Therefore, it is also based on fairness and equality to say that there must be a system in the enterprise and what kind of performance has been made, and we will give corresponding rewards. The most important thing for a leader is to set an example. A teacher was very happy after seeing the rules of his disciples. He thinks I can use this book to teach my students a good lesson. He was very excited when he went back. The next day, he began to stand guard like a policeman. When he saw the student's mistake, he immediately criticized him:' Don't run,' Don't be busy, too busy'; Why is your desk so badly arranged? Wear a crown suit and have a position. Don't screw it up, it's dirty. After more than a month, he felt very hard and tired, but he couldn't get any results. I have talked with him. As a leader and a teacher, the most important thing is not to order students to do it, but to do it first and set an example. After he changed his mind, he changed his ways when he came back, demanding that he should do everything well first. So one day, he tidied and cleaned the table himself. He looked up and found two or three children cleaning with him. Later, all the children in the class began to clean the table together. At that time, he was deeply moved and felt that the power of example was really great. Later, he took the students to a park for teaching investigation. In this park, he naturally squatted down to pick up a piece of paper and picked up almost two or three. Suddenly looking back, I found that dozens of students were picking up garbage. Seeing this scene, his tears almost fell. At the same time, he also found a truth. What is the most important thing to be a parent, a teacher and a leader? Lead by example, the power to educate, enlighten and influence others is particularly great. In fact, leaders must lead by example. Confucius has great respect for the ancient sages and kings, because the virtue of the ancient sages and kings was really created by himself. I once read a story about Yao Di. Emperor Yao once went to the countryside and happened to see two people being escorted for crimes. As soon as Emperor Yao saw it, he immediately ran over and asked,' What did you two do wrong? Why make a mistake? The two men said,' Because it hasn't rained for a long time, we have nothing to eat, and our parents at home have nothing to eat, so we have to steal from others. Hearing this, Emperor Yao immediately said to the soldiers,' Let them go and lock me up. The soldiers were stunned. How can they lock up the king? Emperor Yao said,' I made two big mistakes, and they are innocent. First, I didn't teach my children well, so they would steal from others. Second, I have no virtue, so it doesn't rain for a long time. Both these things are my fault. "Emperor Yao's sincere reflection immediately touched the world, and it began to rain on the spot. When a leader has such a mind and such an introspective attitude, he is an example for all the people. As soon as he did this, the people of the whole country immediately followed suit, and the fortune of the whole country took a turning point in an instant. Therefore, if a leader can sincerely reflect and always think of his people, this country will surely prosper. It all makes sense. In an article describing Shang Tang, it was recorded that the King of Tang was also a saint. He said, "Wan Fang is guilty, but I am guilty.". If ordinary people are guilty, it's not their fault, because I didn't educate them well, because I didn't set an example. Therefore, the king's self-reflective attitude can certainly move his subjects. These sages can touch the world with their sincerity, so have we touched the family with our sincerity? Therefore, from this story, we should not ask our families to do anything, but should first reflect on whether we have fulfilled our responsibilities. When we have this sincere and reflective attitude, even the national luck can turn, let alone a home! Many people say that these ancient stories about rain in the sky are myths. Actually, it's not. Why can't you see so many touching miracles now? What's the problem? Yes, compared with the ancient sages, our gap is too big. In ancient times, these sages always thought of their own mistakes, and their virtues became national models, such as Zhou Wenwang and Zhou Wuwang. Great men do their best to do the most fundamental things in life, and then touch the people of the whole country. Zhou Wenwang is very filial to his father. He goes to greet his father three times every morning, noon and evening. He is glad to see his father in good health. Seeing that his father was unwell, he felt very sad. He personally checked the food for three meals. Zhou Wenwang has really achieved the goal of "saving money in the morning and deciding when you are sleepy". Filial piety is human nature. When a king does this, he will touch the kindness of the people of the whole country and promote the filial piety of a country. "University" says that "the benevolence of one family is the prosperity of a country", and the benevolence of one family will drive the benevolence of the whole society. Therefore, to lead a country or a group, we must start with self-cultivation and housekeeping, and naturally we can rule the country and level the world. "University" said:' One family is benevolent, one country is benevolent, one country is benevolent, one country is greedy, and one country is chaotic'. People will support you, enterprises will develop, and the country will prosper. When you are so violent that there is nothing you can do, you will eventually betray your relatives and friends. Therefore, whether employees can support leaders depends on their attitudes and practices. Therefore, Mencius has a very incisive teaching on the relationship between monarch and minister. Mencius said:' If you regard me as a brother, I will regard you as my confidant; If you treat me like a dog or a horse, then I will treat you like a Chinese; If you regard your minister as dirt, then I regard you as Zhou. From here, we can realize that the attitude of subordinates to leaders depends on the attitude of leaders, so if a group does not take good care of an enterprise, who should bear the greatest responsibility? Leadership. Therefore, when our organization and our enterprise are poorly managed, we can't blame our subordinates and employees. First of all, we should reflect on ourselves, and think about Tang Wang's words,' If ten thousand people are guilty, they are guilty of themselves'. This is your monarch's attitude towards your minister. 4. Care about the moral education of employees. An entrepreneur once encountered great setbacks and lost almost 700 million yuan. Such setbacks did not discourage the entrepreneur, and the employees were United with him, finally bringing the enterprise back to life, not only pulling up the cause, but also doing it well. In the most difficult time, why did the employee not leave him, but he was willing to pay like this? Later, we learned that the entrepreneur was very concerned about the education of employees, and he used Disciple Rules and Saint Amethyst as teaching materials. Rather than simply training marketing skills. As a leader, he realized that today's employees don't know how to be human. If a person doesn't know how to be a man, life will be full of thorns, and he will certainly walk very rough. He took into account the growth of employees and the happiness in life. It is because he has the kindness to care for employees that he naturally gets the love of employees. During traditional festivals such as Tomb-Sweeping Day and Spring Festival, all descendants of this entrepreneur should worship their parents and be grateful for their parenting. He is a good family who manages his family with filial piety. Leaders have this filial piety, and the following subordinates will be very moved and follow suit. Employees know how to govern their families with filial piety, and their families can be happy, and their mentality will be very peaceful and their work will be done well. Therefore, leaders should not only consider their own pockets, but also consider the growth of employees and their families. As long as the leader has such mind and tolerance, the enterprise will surely lead well. (2) Loyalty of ministers 1. Persuading ministers to be loyal means that subordinates should be loyal to their duties, their leaders and their work. I have a very important job to do my best, that is, to know how to convince leaders when they are at fault. Therefore, there is a very important teaching in the book of filial piety, which mentions that' the son of heaven has seven contending ministers'. At that time, as long as the son of heaven had seven ministers willing to persuade him, even if he didn't have good moral knowledge, his world could still maintain' the princes had five competing ministers'. The vassal is the king of the ancient emperors. Although there is no way, doctors are people with official positions. A doctor has three ministers fighting for power and profit. As long as there are three subordinates around him who are willing to persuade him, he will not lose his family business, even though his moral knowledge is poor. Whether a leader has sincere subordinates is very important for the success or failure of his career. So many good officials and loyal ministers in ancient times were very dutiful. As long as the king is wrong, he immediately gives advice to the king. The most famous is Wei Zhi in the Tang Dynasty. But can you persuade others to be outspoken? We must also observe the words and deeds. Wei Zhi is very wise. When he served emperor Taizong for the first time, he said to the emperor,' I want to be a good minister and never be a loyal minister.' Wei Zheng wants to guide Tang Taizong to think through this sentence. Emperor Taizong asked curiously,' Why should we be a good minister instead of a loyal one?' Wei Zhi said to Emperor Taizong,' All loyal ministers will be beheaded, and some will be gouged out, so I won't be a loyal minister, I want to be a good one. After hearing what Wei Zhi said, Emperor Taizong burst out laughing, but in the process of laughing, Emperor Taizong would think that the loyal minister was persuaded to die by the emperor. The emperor must be a tyrant. If I kill the loyal minister, I will become a tyrant. Therefore, Wei Zhi made it clear to Emperor Taizong that he wanted to be a wise king, and he was willing to give advice, so that he and other loyal officials would not have to worry about their own lives when making suggestions. The wisdom of Wei Zhi's speech is quite high, so as a leader, the art of speech should be constantly improved. Later, Wei Zhi persuaded Emperor Taizong, very fiercely. Emperor Taizong couldn't accept it for a while, so he walked back to his bedroom angrily and shouted,' I'm so angry! I am so angry! I have to kill him. The angry words were just heard by the queen. Seeing that the emperor was so angry, the queen thought that Wei Zhi must have been too strict with Emperor Taizong, which made him so talented. The queen didn't directly ask the emperor what he was angry about, but got on the bus and said,' Congratulations to the emperor! "Congratulations to the emperor!" When Emperor Taizong was puzzled, I was so angry that I was half dead. Do you still congratulate me? He asked inexplicably,' What did you congratulate me on? The queen said,' Your Majesty, there must be a holy king, so people dare to be so outspoken.' Emperor Taizong was very angry and immediately became happy. It can be seen that the queen's wisdom in advising the emperor and protecting loyal subjects is also very high. We can learn from this story, whether an emperor or a person, what is the most indispensable thing for success in life and career? Is there anyone around who can really convince him? Can Emperor Taizong still work without Wei Zhi and Empress? It's too difficult! When Wei Zhi died, Emperor Taizong was very sad and said,' Look in the mirror and you can dress yourself up; Taking history as a mirror, we can know the rise and fall; Looking at people as a mirror, we can see the gains and losses. Wei Zhi's death made Emperor Taizong lose a mirror. As a leader, Wei Zhi set a good example for us. If you have ever had a close relationship, admonition will make you feel better. Please be soft on me. Subordinates advise leaders and bosses to be gentle,' please make a suggestion if you don't', and then advise them when the leaders are in a better mood. Even if he can't accept it, we don't complain, because we are doing what we should do, so we have a clear conscience. The premise of persuasion is that leaders must have enough trust in us to convince us. Now many subordinates are afraid to persuade the section chief, for fear that they will lose their seats after persuasion. Therefore, when people are suffering from gains and losses, they cannot follow reason and righteousness. The ancients said that' no desire is just', and this' desire' is selfishness. Man is selfish and his heart is unjust. So now many employees in public institutions are worried about which boss to follow every day. If they follow the wrong boss and vote for the wrong boss, they may lose all their efforts. The so-called "once every emperor is a courtier." If you follow the leader with such a mentality, will life feel very practical? No, in this mentality, we don't work hard every day, but try to figure out the boss's mentality. If he likes what we say, we will say those flattering words; Just like we did, we went to kiss up. This life is exhausting. In fact, when you need such flattery to appreciate your boss, can he last long? So think deep and think far. On the contrary, there are some honest people who do these public things every day, only thinking that I am responsible for the people and the country, so no matter who is the boss, I will do my best to do the work well, and because of this attitude, his working ability will be improved day by day. Because he worked hard, his ability was improved. When a good official comes, you must use staff who can handle things properly and satisfactorily. At this time, the opportunity comes uninvited. So as long as we are not selfish, but do our duty, I believe that our life should have a good development. 2. In the whole work process, I believe that there are many bosses and many officers who take care of us and promote us. Therefore, meeting a good boss in the process of work will not only guide us in our work ability, but also care about our family life. Therefore, in the whole process of life and work, we should always remember these leaders and bosses who have taken care of us and promoted us. This grace cannot be forgotten. In the real world, there is a company that has been in business for 20 or 30 years, and it just happened that there was an enterprise crisis. In two or three months, the company could not pay wages, and many employees immediately surrounded the company. Who will benefit at this time? No one benefits. Do things on a whim, regardless of the long term. As soon as the company was surrounded, the company's operation came down, the boss could not continue to operate, and the employees themselves lost their jobs. Therefore, if you are often impulsive, you will make some regrets that are not good for anyone. Actually, let's think about it. How many risks and responsibilities does this boss have to bear in 20 or 30 years? Have subordinates ever thought about it? The staff just want me to get paid every month. However, when some economic crisis occurs in the enterprise, these bosses have to make plans for the operation of the company every day. Maybe when all the employees are sleeping, the bosses are still thinking hard about raising funds to get out of trouble. All employees can have a stable family life in the past twenty or thirty years, and a contribution must be recorded on the leader's head. But in twenty or thirty years, people turned against their bosses because they couldn't pay for two or three months. People really can't do such immoral things and ungrateful things. There is a saying, "Don't pity each other with small grievances, and don't forget the old gratitude with new grievances." A person should not alienate our closest relatives because of a little resentment and a little friction, and should not forget the kindness that may last for decades because of a little new resentment. So the boss's life also has ups and downs. When he is at a low ebb, you stab him with a knife. This is inhuman. At this rate, we are bound to lose both sides. I once saw on the news that the Korean people had a financial storm more than ten years ago. At that time, the economies of many countries in Southeast Asia collapsed instantly. Many Korean employees took their own money and ran to the boss and said, "Boss, you can't go out of business. You have gone out of business and hundreds of families are in trouble. You must take our money to work first, and the company must continue to operate. " This is the attitude of being in the same boat. Who did Koreans learn from this attitude towards leaders? I learned it from our sages in China. Can China society see such a scene now? Where have China people learned now? Learn from the selfishness of the west before you think of yourself. If this goes on, the country can't unite, enterprises can't unite, and families can't unite. Therefore, as a subordinate, you should be rational and be able to unite and help each other. We should cherish our China culture and rebuild a more satisfactory relationship between monarch and minister.