I am also the eldest daughter of my family. Let me tell you my opinion:
As the eldest daughter of the family, she has taken on more responsibilities than her brothers and sisters since she was a child. And this responsibility will continue in your future work and life, making you a responsible person. It also helps you to develop the spirit of hard work and stand hard work, and it is easier to become the backbone of your family after marriage.
I took care of my younger brother and sister when I was over five years old, and I also helped my mother cook. After I was seven years old, I began to learn to roll noodles. Because the chopping boards are too high, I have to stand on the stool and roll them. I also mended the inconspicuous places on my clothes. So compared with my younger brother and sister, my playing time is limited.
Especially after my father's death, almost half the responsibility in my family fell on my shoulders. I am responsible for buying rice, noodles, oil and coal at home. Later, my husband and I helped my mother cope with everything when my siblings got married and went to school.
Although I have suffered a lot, I feel lucky to be the boss of my family. Because of this, I enjoy my parents' love the longest and the most. Whenever my brothers and sisters recall the past, my stories are also the most.
My brothers and sisters all respect me after they get married. As long as my siblings take everything as their own business and do it wholeheartedly, I don't have enough money to buy a house for my son, and my siblings are fully supportive. Nephews, nieces, nephews or people who go to school or work, as long as they come home to see me for the first time. Now my brother and sister take care of my old mother together. I am very satisfied and happy.
Not every family is like this, it can only be said that this is the case, especially in the past when living conditions were not good. Not only the eldest daughter, but also the eldest son. For example, the living conditions at home are not good. As the eldest daughter, it is natural to help parents share the work and help their younger brothers and sisters. If it is a loss from the perspective of loss, they will pay more as the eldest child, but they will get less because they are older. Of course, everything can't be generalized, and the opposite family situation is not rare. As for the advantages and disadvantages, it depends on the way parents do things and the attitude between brothers and sisters. In short, people who don't care have to admit that they are suffering, no matter whether they are young or old, whether they suffer or cry because their children eat too much sugar.
To sum up, between brothers and sisters, no matter who loses cheaply, they are all milk compatriots, and there is no loss of losing there! It's not a world apart, you don't need a balance to measure!
Yes, of course, I agree and appreciate that failure is a blessing.
The eldest daughter in every family is always the hardest and the most disadvantaged? I can't say that my parents have worked hard. As the boss, a family should help their parents support their families and do housework, because they are all my relatives and there is no loss at home!
Is the eldest daughter of every family the hardest and the most disadvantaged?
That's what the title says. I support your point of view. Combined with the analysis of the family situation of the neighbors, there is indeed this tendency. This should be related to the social environment conditions at that time. It is not obvious that the eldest daughter suffers hardships now.
Combine your own situation, as the title says.
We have six brothers and sisters. I have a brother, a second brother, a sister and a younger brother. I was born in 1955.
In the 1950s and 1960s, China's national economic conditions were still relatively backward, and the living standard of the whole people was relatively difficult. In such a social environment, it is quite good for rural children to attend junior high school. Being a high school student is good! Eldest brother didn't graduate from junior high school either. Because of family difficulties, he needs to share family responsibilities. At the age of seventeen, he went out to work as a temporary worker.
Second brother also went to junior high school for several months. In order to increase family income and reduce family burden, he dropped out of school at the age of fifteen to join the production team and became a shepherd. Later, the county veterinary station recruited and trained veterinary students, and the second brother went to recruit veterinarians.
Second brother was drafted into the army at the age of eighteen. After the eldest brother got married, he lived in another house separately.
At that time, my father was the only one in the family who worked to earn centimeters. My mother is in poor health and suffers from coronary heart disease. Besides, the younger brothers and sisters are still young and need the support and care of their mothers. My mother has no time to join the production team. Although the brigade takes care of the military families, the work points of the three heads are also "a drop in the bucket" and can't solve any problems.
During this period, my sister really suffered. Because of family difficulties, she earns less work points and needs to pull money from the production team every year. When I was in my teens, my sister began to help my mother do housework and learn to make shoes, socks and clothes. My sister didn't go to school all day and has been working with my father in the production team. After many years of marriage, she still remembers to make shoes, socks and clothes for us.
When I came, my sister got married and my father earned work points at home alone. I am stupid, and my family conditions are not good. When I was fifteen, I simply dropped out of school to take part in labor to earn work points.
Later, my father was hired by the commune and took part in the catering work of the commune migrant workers who built the reservoir and governed the Haihe River construction project. I have worked for decades, earned 12 points a day, and also managed meals. I also took part in labor, became a migrant worker, and got full marks. Before the production team 18 years old, I could only earn the same centimeter as a woman, 8 cents a day.
My father and I earn 12 cents every day, so we don't have to eat for two. I'm a foodie, too. I can't get enough of a sorghum noodle for every meal. In this way, our family turned over from now on, and the production team settled at the end of the year, and our family got 200 yuan for the first time! Wow! At that time, all the people who could get the money at the end of each year were good households!
My sister and brother caught up with the good times. Both of them graduated from high school, but they didn't meet expectations and went to college without the college entrance examination. It's not because family conditions don't allow them to participate. Work hard!
In retrospect, my six brothers and sisters really belonged to my sister who suffered the most. The others were still in junior high school and high school, and they all went to school for several years. Only my sister didn't study for a day! What a sad sister!
My sister has never been to school, but she attaches great importance to children's education. My brother-in-law is a teacher (now retired). They have three children, two sons are college students, and their daughter graduated from high school. Now they are all state employees and unit cadres.
Now, my brother-in-law and sister have pensions, and their children are very filial. I wish my sister health and happiness! Happy family!
Not necessarily. My mother-in-law's elder sister is the eldest daughter, but she is a special case. Not only does she not suffer, but she always takes advantage.
My parents-in-law came to Ningxia from other places and had a hard time. My father-in-law works as a worker in a state-owned factory, doing the hardest work, while my mother-in-law has no job and often earns a little money to help farmers in the surrounding countryside subsidize their families. At that time, there were many children and the days were particularly tight. However, my in-laws have been scrimping and saving for my sister to go to school and graduate from normal school, and my sister has also become a factory primary school teacher.
In the late 1980s, under the influence of the trend of reform and opening-up, some people in the factory went to the sea to do business. My sister was eager to realize her dream, thinking that the myth of "getting rich overnight" happened to her, and even resigned to do clothing business despite her husband's opposition. At that time, my parents-in-law had 10 thousand yuan, and my eldest sister came to borrow it. Her parents-in-law lent her money and promised to pay it back when her son got married.
My sister-in-law has been doing business for several years, and I don't know if she has made any money, but when her parents-in-law asked her for money to marry her son and daughter-in-law, she kept shirking and refused to pay back the money. I can't help it. When her brother got married, he couldn't even afford the bride price, so there was always a contradiction at home. Later, when she was in her forties, her sister divorced again. She often lives in her mother's house or her married sister's house and often asks her brothers and sisters for money. Usually I only go out to play mahjong, not help my family.
Even now, she always reaches out to borrow money from home and can't pay it back. I have borrowed money from my brothers and sisters, and it has always been "the meat steamed stuffed bun hits the dog and doesn't pay it back". Therefore, in the world, not all the eldest daughters of families suffer hardships, and some regard their parents as "cash cows" and "comfort zones". However, it is not surprising that such an eldest daughter is a minority after all. Isn't there an old saying that "a loss is a blessing"? If you don't lose, you may not get the blessing!
My primary school classmate Daqin is such an eldest daughter who has paid the most for her family.
When Daqin came to our class for the third grade 16 years old. Because she is the head of the family.
After her parents gave birth to her, they gave birth to three more daughters, and finally gave birth to a boy in the fifth child.
Her parents are employees of non-agricultural units on the farm. There is a big mouth at home, a bunch of children at home, and no one cares about housework; They asked Daqin, who was only in the second grade of primary school, to drop out of school and take care of her siblings at home.
It was not until Daqin's younger brother started school that her parents asked her to go back to school. By this time, she had left school for seven years.
That day, the head teacher brought Daqin to our class and said that this classmate would come in, so you should help her more.
We were surprised to see that she grew so tall and her breasts began to develop. Such a big girl still comes to be our classmate.
At first, Daqin ran out after class. Later we learned that she had gone to see her brother. Her brother is in Grade One of our school. She wants to take care of him to go to the toilet and see if anyone bullies him.
Occasionally, her brother will come to our class to find Daqin, whining and being bored with his sister, just like a sticky child. Naughty boys booed, saying you haven't been weaned yet, so you need to nurse. ...
One day in class, Daqin's brother came again, crying at the back door of our classroom and calling my sister to say that his pants were wet.
There was a burst of laughter in the classroom. The teacher said angrily, * Daqin, are you coming to school or to take care of Ya? ? Before the teacher finished, Daqin flushed and rushed out of the classroom.
Daqin studies hard, but obviously he works hard. I guess he has forgotten all the knowledge he learned before. Although I am studious and good at asking questions, I always fall behind in every exam. Some students look down on her, saying that Daqin is only tall but not brainy, and he is a big fool!
Class is over, after school, we like to play skipping and kicking shuttlecock together, and girls like to play. I can see that Daqin wants to play, too. He will come and play with us for a while. But more often, when she was playing, she ran away as if remembering something and said she would go back to work.
In this way, Daqin finished primary school in our class. Then my family moved away from the farm and never saw Daqin again.
Until a few years ago, I ran into my primary school classmate lin li and talked about my childhood. We naturally think of our Datong University Daqin.
Daqin didn't go to school after graduating from primary school. I found a temporary job on the farm, took care of my family while making money, and married someone two or three years later.
With a heavy burden on her family and her own Daqin, she still can't live for herself. From time to time, she always asks Daqin for something, and needs their help and advice for big and small matters.
Lin li said that Daqin is the executive parent of her family and a special assistant of her parents' life. Although she is a grandmother herself now, she can't break her heart.
In the past, the eldest son and daughter of a family with many children paid a lot for the family. They are unsung heroes and heroes of the whole family.
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I am the eldest daughter of my family, and I think I am the hardest person. Can't say that you have suffered a loss. I am willing to donate money for my sister-in-law. As long as my family is good, I will be fine.
/kloc-lived in the countryside before the age of 0/5. At that time, the countryside was penniless. There is almost nothing at home except corn and clothes. I can imagine how difficult it is for a family of seven.
I have taken care of my brothers and sisters and played with them since I was a few years old. My clothes are dirty all day, because the water is far away, and I hardly wash clothes. I also help my mother cook and do farm work. I really rush to do everything.
I remember when I was at school, I was given a piece of candy. I didn't want to eat it, so I took it home and gave it to my sister. Even after work, I still take the needs of my brothers and sisters to heart. Whoever has any difficulties will help solve them, solve their problems, and let me live with peace of mind.
My life experience can be said to be no less than the story in the TV series "Silly Spring", and my suffering and sadness are no less than Silly Spring. Silly Spring is an image of a silly elder sister portrayed in TV series. It seems too common for family members to know only the eldest daughter.
This obsession with her family, regardless of gains and losses, has persisted for 50 years, and it is time to take a rest and live for herself again in the future.
It should be a common phenomenon in our 70s. Being a big sister or brother is the hardest.
First of all, in those days, most people were busy with food and clothing, and the economy was not good. In rural areas, production teams have to work hard to earn work points, and the productivity is very low. A few people in a family can't do the task of dividing the production team. Only when you are a boss can you earn work points and help your family. A family can eat enough and not be looked down upon by others.
Secondly, we didn't pay much attention to the school at that time. In the late 1970s, there were few school teachers. I remember that there are three grades in a classroom in our school, and a teacher teaches three grades in the morning. There are not many people in the village who go to school, so the idle people have to go to the countryside to work or go to the county to do bricklayers. I remember my sister couldn't go to school for a few days, and her parents didn't let her go to school. There is no shortage of farm work and hard work.
With the development of the times, the population is decreasing, and education is emphasized. The children in every family don't want to fall behind, and the education in the school has also improved. The era of rural agricultural mechanization and hard work to earn money has passed. Only by attaching importance to education can society develop. Newcomers should keep up with the pace.