Emotional intelligence is difficult to achieve quickly, and family education is the key.
Undeniably, in contemporary society, EQ plays an important role in one's life and work. However, in order to cultivate children's EQ, is it the best choice to spend a lot of money on EQ classes?
"It was originally an adult learning course. How do children learn? " Qin Xufang, a professor at the School of Preschool and Elementary Education of Shenyang Normal University, said sarcastically after reading the curriculum arrangement of some "EQ training courses for children".
"The course is expensive and unbearable for ordinary families. EQ course is still a kind of classroom education after all. The once-a-week course can only play a guiding role for children at most, and it cannot replace the emotional intelligence training in daily life. " Some children's education experts say that in the final analysis, the responsibility of cultivating children's emotional intelligence still falls on family education, and parents are their first teachers.
"Now the children's parents, grandparents and grandparents are staring at them, and they are used to being' little emperors' and' little princesses'. If you want the sun, you will give it to the moon. There is something wrong with family education itself, and it is useless to go to the training class to correct it. In addition, some parents don't set an example and have a bad temper. Parents of both sides often quarrel and feel that their children have a bad temper. It is basically impossible for him to have a good temper in the EQ class. " Qin Xufang said that the cultivation of EQ is a long-term and systematic educational process, which cannot be accomplished overnight.
In fact, although there is no separate EQ course in the school, the activity arrangement and subject setting in the school all include EQ training. "For example, kindergartens will let children dance and eat together, which will exercise their interpersonal skills; There are also children playing drama, some children playing squirrels, and some children playing trees, which exercise the children's unity and cooperation ability; Let the children talk, introduce themselves, introduce their families, hug the teacher after the end and learn to express their emotions; There are also ideological and moral classes, physical education class, chorus performances, art festivals and other activities to cultivate students' EQ all the time. "Sun Hongyang, director of the teaching department of Shenyang Tiantian Happy Kindergarten, believes that it is not necessary for parents to report classes separately for their children to learn EQ.