Second, parents in China have a serious lack of awareness of cultivating their children's independence. When it comes to cultivating children's independence from an early age, many parents think it is too early to say that their children are so young.
In fact, a child's personality is formed from an early age, and it will be very difficult to cultivate after missing the best opportunity for character formation. Many countries pay special attention to the cultivation of children's independence, but our parents have not done enough in this regard.
China Preschool Education Research Association and Family Education Research Association conducted a survey on children's independence in Beijing, Shanghai, Guangzhou and Chongqing by random sampling. The survey shows that parents have too many arrangements for their children in family education in China, and their awareness of cultivating children's independence is seriously insufficient, which is extremely unfavorable to their future development.
Third, we can cultivate children's independence in this way:
1, parents don't arrange it, let the children have a try,
When children learn to eat, they spill a lot of rice because of poor hand-eye coordination. Some parents look anxious and feed their children directly. Children lost the opportunity to explore and learn, but also hurt their interest in learning. After a long time, it is easy to form dependence. Once a child becomes dependent, it is difficult to correct it.
1 ~ 3-year-old children are particularly good at imitation. When they saw sweeping the floor, they wanted to try it themselves. They saw the folded quilt and wanted to try it. Adults are afraid that their children will make a mess, and finally they have to clean up by themselves. Usually, children are not allowed to participate. When children are curious and want to participate, adults are around to protect them and try their best to let them try. This period is the best time to cultivate their independence.
2. Let children learn to think independently.
Children are very curious, so there are many' whys' that can guide them to find their own answers. Try to tell the beginning when reading a book, let the children make up the results, and let the children learn to think independently.
3. Encourage children to solve difficulties independently.
Dressing and putting away toys are difficult challenges for children. Let children learn to overcome difficulties independently, which requires parents' patience and encouragement, affirmation and confidence in their efforts.
4. Give children the right to choose and respect their choices.
Asking children to obey, children's independence and personality can not be developed, which is an aspect that parents often ignore. Cultivate children's ability to make their own choices from an early age. One thing can give children several choices. When they choose, they will respect their choices and make them realize that they are responsible for the consequences of their choices from an early age.
5. Treat children with an equal attitude.
Don't talk to children in a commanding tone, don't scold them, don't criticize them in public, don't use insulting words, don't force them, listen carefully to their childish words, respect their personality and don't hurt their self-esteem. Facts have proved that children who are fully respected in a democratic family atmosphere are generous, friendly and independent.
6. Adults should reach an agreement and persevere.
Children's education needs the cooperation of all family members. Mothers let their children eat independently, and grandmothers love to feed their grandchildren every time. This is not conducive to the cultivation of children's independent living ability, but also makes children dependent. Adults at home need to agree on the same requirements, so that children can improve their independent ability under repeated reinforcement.