I personally invited the devil home.
Last June, 5438+065438+ 10, Ms. Tian gave birth to a baby boy and went to a month center to recuperate. There, she was arranged for two months of special care.
When she left, Ms. Tian was worried that her husband was busy with his career and would have to take care of the children alone in the future. She remembers taking care of herself for two months.
Among them, Xiaomou, the new moon, left a good impression on her, was very patient with herself and was very careful in doing things, so she reached a service agreement with Xiaomou privately.
At the price of 19350 yuan, Xiaomou was hired to take full-time care of the baby's life in his home.
Xiaomou not only readily agreed, but also shared a room with the children.
At first, everything went well. Xiaomou is considerate and careful to children and works neatly.
This made Ms. Tian very satisfied and expressed her gratitude to the other party on WeChat.
However, at the end of last month, Ms. Tian woke up from a nap and had nothing to do, so she picked up her mobile phone and watched the monitoring of her baby's home, which surprised her.
In the picture, Xiaomou is holding the child and squeezing it hard. The strength makes Ms. Tian heartbroken.
She rushed to question Xiaomou, but the other party argued that it was just running errands. It was not until Ms. Tian took out the surveillance video that Xiaomou had to apologize.
Ms. Tian immediately reported to the police and took her children to the hospital for examination, but the results of the examination once again frightened her:
The injury on the child is not caused by squeezing, but by the recurrence of the old injury.
In a hurry, Ms. Tian and her husband immediately went home to check the past monitoring. The pictures in those videos made them gasp.
1June 17 7: 00 1: Beat children; 65438+ 10 month 18 5: 44: Dragging the child violently; 65438+ 10 month 18 5: 45: Shake the child violently; 65438+ 10 month 18 5: 54: throwing children;
65438+ 10 month 18 6: 00 12: Drag the child's head; 65438+ 10 month 19 17: 48: Shake the child violently; 65438+1October 20th 15: 38: Hit the child on the head; 65438+1October 20th 16: 17: verbal threats to children;
65438+1October 20th 16: 13: throwing children; 65438+1October 20th 16: 18: violently squeezing and shaking, threatening and intimidating children; 65438+1October 2 1 7: 36: Shake the child violently; 65438+1October 2 1 7: 40: words threaten children;
65438+1October 2 1 22: 00 14: dragging children; 65438+1October 265438+1October 2 1: 48: Shake and hit children violently; 65438+1October 265438+1October 2 1: Shake the child violently; 1, 2 1, 22: 00, 17: Blow at children;
1, 2 1, 2 1: 49: Hit the child; 65438+10.02122: 42: Beating children; 1, 2 1, 22: 00, 2 1: Dragging and verbally threatening children; 65438+1October 2 1 22: 00 18: words threaten children;
65438+1October 22nd 14: 27: Beating children; 65438+1October 23rd 14: 28: Beating children; 65438+1October 23rd 15: 02: Shake the child violently; 65438+1October 23rd 15: 55: Beating children, shaking violently and threatening words. ...
From 65438+1October 17 to 65438+1October 23rd, the baby was abused almost every day this month. With all kinds of ugly behaviors, Xiaomou kept muttering in his mouth:
"Aunt will hit you, pinch you and throw you", "strangle you, strangle you ..."
Ms. Tian said that the reason why Xiaomou abused children was because children always cried when they were young. Xiaomou didn't want to take care of it. When he was bored with crying, he sprinkled his grievances on his children.
What she regrets most is not that she spent so much money or didn't watch the surveillance earlier, but that she personally invited the devil to her home.
She flatly refused the small request for reconciliation, hoping that the law would severely punish her! At present, the police have been involved in investigating this matter.
That thing about the midwife.
In this case, there are two biggest hidden dangers. The first is to skip the Confucius Center and sign an agreement with Yue Yue privately.
The reason is nothing more than to save some money, because according to the price of the month center, a better month costs 30,000-40,000 yuan per month.
Ms. Tian thought that she had made Xiaomou a net profit of 20,000. Both sides are suitable. The other party should be grateful and can do their best for the children.
I don't know that excessive kindness can make people get carried away and become arrogant.
Holding a lot of high salaries that white-collar workers can't get, but doing the work of serving people, and without the constraints of academic qualifications, how can hostility not last long?
What's more, Xiaomou is still facing a baby who won't cry. As the saying goes, anger starts from the heart and evil comes to the edge.
In fact, the existence of Confucius Center is also a deterrent to Yue Yue. A good Confucius Center will sign a precise and detailed contract with Yue Yue.
Once you do badly or abuse your children, Confucius Center has 100 ways to treat Yue Yue.
And most importantly, the month center will generally leave a part of the salary, and Yue Yue's next single task will also be arranged by the month center, which makes Yue Yue attach great importance to it.
However, Ms. Tian invited Yue Yue home privately, which made Yue Yue completely free from the constraints. There is neither the deterrence of contract nor the long-term effective management. It is unreliable to rely solely on personal consciousness.
Teacher Wu Zhen, the founder of Youjia Education, once talked about how to find a reliable parenting wife:
Many families need to hire a parenting sister-in-law, so how to choose a reliable parenting sister-in-law?
1, whether it is an acquaintance introduction or looking for an intermediary company, we must do a comprehensive investigation:
Find out the contact information of her former employer, and ask her about the character and work of the elder sister-in-law, especially about the nanny's family environment and whether there are any extreme people in her family;
2. Before the official service, take the child-rearing aunt to a regular hospital for a comprehensive physical examination. If I don't object, I'd better see a psychiatrist again.
3. Always pay attention to the child's emotions and see the child's attitude towards her when she is away.
If the eldest sister-in-law who raised the child is warm, patient and caring, the child will look forward to the time with her, and even when the eldest sister-in-law who raised the child is away, the child will always think about her.
Don't be a "pure good man"
The second hidden danger comes from the heart, because the root cause of believing that others will lose their defense is nothing more than good thoughts.
We all want to be a good person, a kind person, be able to help others, learn to put ourselves in the shoes, and have the ability to * * *.
But why is it so difficult to do it? Are there not many good people because human nature is evil?
There is a very popular video about Tik Tok. All these videos show that China people are working in some backward countries.
Most of them came to these barren places because of the company's dispatch, and naturally they became small leaders of local projects.
In the video, foreign workers look simple and honest, but the foreman always yells at them.
This makes many people feel disgusted. These blue-collar workers are honest people at home. How did they become this "virtue" when they went abroad?
But the foreman also has his own helplessness. The local people are simple and even warm in private. If you need help, just a word is enough.
But those people are also used to being lazy and lazy in a backward and closed environment.
For them, work is a day's work and a day's salary. As for how much work? How's it going? These problems have never been considered.
In the most impressive video, the foreman said that even if they were asked to unload bricks, if they didn't stare, the bricks would be piled up where the car was parked.
He must set rules for the workers, resolutely implement them, make them feel awe and finish the project on time.
Human nature is so complicated, simple kindness often can't get the same return, but kindness and kindness are expressed in more than one way.
One day, Xue Daoheng, assistant minister of the official department of the Sui Dynasty, came to Kaizen Temple in Zhongshan to observe a scene and a thing in the temple carefully. He deeply felt that this temple was like a pure land on earth.
However, I saw that King Kong in the temple was full of majesty and anger, while Bodhisattva was full of compassion and silence, with gentle and low eyebrows, which puzzled me.
He happened to pass by a little novice monk and asked, "Why is King Kong glaring? Why does the bodhisattva have a low eyebrow? "
Little novice monk replied, "King Kong glared, so he subdued the four demons; Bodhisattva has a low eyebrow, so there are six ways of compassion. "
The essence of both is compassion, because people's hearts are unpredictable, their roots are different, and their natural education methods are different.
Saying these things is not to persuade people to do evil. It is never a bad thing to be kind to others, but we should also divide people, things and reasons.
If we don't encounter the right and wrong, then at least we shouldn't be based on self-sacrifice, otherwise it will only make our social relations abnormal and unhealthy.
In this long-term lack of emotional response and social communication, the only one who gets hurt is yourself, because you are still an apple polisher after all.
May every child be treated well!