A classmate is a happy student in the class, humorous and polite, but his biggest problem is that he has no perseverance and always does things every three minutes. When others play basketball, he also buys a full set of basketball equipment and plays basketball with his classmates on the playground after class every day, but he will not go for two days.
He also rushed to sign up for the acupuncture and scraping training class reported by his classmates. After two days, he said that he had studied enough, and then he didn't want to go again. The acupuncture scraping equipment I paid for was also deposited under the bed.
A few days later, he saw others playing the guitar, and felt very handsome, so he bought a very advanced guitar. Since then, classmate A has invited a private tutor to take classes at Xi 'an Conservatory of Music on weekends, and bought a video course online during the week to follow. I think now he has finally found his hobby. I didn't expect him to leave for a month, so A gave the guitar away directly.
According to A's situation, I invited A's parents to school, and the four of us had a face-to-face conversation.
A's father first decided the sex of the child: "This baby has no sex since childhood, and no matter what he learns, he will not succeed."
A's mother also gave A a negative evaluation: "We are so disappointed in this baby. I did a little business with his parents and slept in the wind. I also feel sorry for my children. He grew up, I bought him whatever he wanted. No matter what he wants, as long as it is not illegal, his father and I have always supported it. "
"When you say support, do you mean participation with children or financial support?" I asked.
"It must be economic. His mother and I have to take care of such a big company. Where did we get the time? " His father said grumpily.
"Do you know what children really want? He just wants to be with friends and make himself look less lonely. "
Tao Xingzhi, a famous educator, once said, "We must be children before we are worthy to be children's teachers." He once said, "You shouldn't underestimate children's feelings. You gave a piece of candy to Che Wang, who donated 10 million yuan. " He made a kite that couldn't fly, because Led Zeppelin hesitated to make it. He accidentally broke a clay doll, but sadly, a widow died her only son. He didn't hit the people he hated, just as Roosevelt didn't have a chance to send troops to fight Germany. He wants you to hold him for a while, but you have to hold other children, just like a lover is taken away. "
Here, what Mr. Tao Xingzhi advocates is that parents should go into their children's inner world and read their hearts.
How should parents go into their children's inner world and get to know them?
First, exchange ideas. Strengthening ideological communication with children can not only help children understand their real thoughts and motives, but also help them understand their parents' difficulties, gradually learn to worry about their parents and assume family responsibilities.
Second, learn to observe. Children's voices, expressions and actions can reflect their thoughts, and even graffiti and an unintentional sentence are expressed, which our parents must not ignore.
Third, get along on an equal footing. When we talk to children, it is best to have a positive purpose and speak calmly, so as to achieve our dialogue purpose and achieve the communication effect in a pleasant and relaxed dialogue environment. If parents educate their children as elders everywhere, it will only get twice the result with half the effort, and even the relationship with their children will go further and further, leading to the failure of education.