Judging from your statement, you met some difficulties in getting along with your mother-in-law. You think your mother-in-law thinks you're picking on you because you don't go to see the children, but you don't want to make the relationship with your mother-in-law stiff and want to give the children to your mother, but her mother-in-law doesn't want to. You think your mother-in-law may have reached menopause, and her emotional reaction is different from that in peacetime. You are very upset about this and don't want to go to your mother-in-law's house. You feel very headache.

I think your mother-in-law is a person who is not good at communicating and expressing herself. I don't know if my mother-in-law really has menopausal reaction, but her criticism of you may be calling for a closer relationship with you and your children. She wants to get more attention from you, but she expresses this concern in a perceptual way. And you are also a person who is not good at communicating and avoiding problems. When encountering problems, I don't take the initiative to talk to my mother-in-law, but choose to avoid it. You want to take your children to your mother's house and avoid her mother-in-law's dissatisfaction and friction with you. When your mother-in-law doesn't want to go, you don't even want to go, and you enter a greater avoidance and retreat. This may be your customary way of dealing with interpersonal conflicts. There is no direct conflict of interest between you and your mother-in-law, but you lack the skills and methods of expression and communication. Therefore, I give you three suggestions:

First, calm down and ask yourself, is it really like my mother-in-law said, there are very few people going to see the children, or those who go to see the children are absent-minded; If so, my mother-in-law is not picky. She is reminding you to build more relationships with your children, which is for the sake of you and your children. If not, spend more time with your children.

Second, sit down and chat with your mother-in-law and really care about her health. Let's see what happened between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Is the mother-in-law's physical condition changed, or is the child old? My mother-in-law feels unable to take care of and educate her. I hope you can care more about your children, or your mother-in-law has other ideas to communicate.

Third, communicate with the child's father and get his support and help.

Beijing yanyuan boss Chaoyang psychological counseling center