As you feel, this year, what has been suppressed in your heart. Although you can't touch it, it makes you fall into a pessimistic mood. And these melancholy emotions, as well as the increasing pressure in your heart, are constantly sucking up your vitality.
Want to cry, although seemingly for no reason, but I believe that somewhere in your repressed heart, this "reason" must be well hidden. When you ask why, that's exactly what you want to ask.
In your words, I saw that you "want to cry", but you didn't let yourself cry, just like you were facing something but repressed. This confrontation itself has also brought you more pressure, and even made you forget what the pain or loss was for the first time a year ago.
It has something to do with personal character. Generally, introverts think too much, and naturally they are unhappy if they have too many troubles. When they are free, they should chat more with friends and become more cheerful. Think that people in many parts of the world don't have enough to eat, and then look at yourself and be satisfied! Life is in a hurry for decades, so do what you like while you still have time and energy! For example, if you like painting, but your ability is limited, you can sign up for a training class! Or you have always wanted to travel somewhere, but you have been reluctant to take time off, or you are not well off. Then bite your teeth and indulge once and take a week off to relax. If you don't have enough money, find a part-time job in your spare time and go out when you earn enough. In short, don't just think, do something meaningful when you have time!
Tell everyone that to get out of trouble, you have to rely on yourself, and you have to rely on yourself. I am 70 years old. I grew up without a mother. I go to school at the age of 8. I have to make cornmeal, steam cakes and cook in the morning before I can go to school. I had to spend ten cents on a notebook, but I didn't have it at home. Because my mother takes medicine all the year round and gets married when she grows up, my husband is a person who doesn't like labor. The bitterness of my life has accompanied me for many years. I have studied massage and cooking, and also provided for my daughter to go to college. Now I teach in Changle No.2 Middle School, and my second child goes to school there. Everything is getting better. I listen to music, read books and learn some knowledge every night, and my life is very fulfilling.
If you feel that you are in a bad mood, unhappy and depressed every day, then the biggest reason may be that you are not satisfied with your life. I am unhappy because I am not satisfied. Because I am not satisfied, I always feel depressed.
In this case, you should look for the reasons and see where your dissatisfaction with life lies. Only by finding the reason can we really come up with a solution to the problem.
If you are lonely because you are single and have no boyfriend or girlfriend, try to expand your circle of friends, meet more people and give yourself more opportunities. Destiny must be won by ourselves.
If you are dissatisfied with your work and feel that it is too busy, too tired and unbearable, then learn to take a vacation for yourself, relax and come back, be full of blood and work hard. If you really can't adjust, don't force yourself, you can change to a job that makes you more comfortable.
If you are dissatisfied with yourself and always feel that you have no advantages and no gains, then simply calm down and improve yourself. Study when you should study, study when you should study, and there will always be times when you need it.
If you are too depressed because of economic reasons, then simply speaking, depression will not make gold fall from the sky. As long as you have sound limbs, you can always make money by your own ability. As long as you make up your mind and work hard, you can always get a higher income.
There are thousands of ways, depending on whether you can work hard. Life is my own, life is my own efforts to create. If you are really just a giant in thought and a dwarf in action, then you can't blame others for your depressed life. If it is really severe depression, you still need to seek the help of a doctor for treatment.
Because your brain has too many ideas, why are you still thinking about something unknown? Don't think about things you shouldn't think about. It's no use thinking about them! You will also make yourself unhappy! Why bother? Life is still very long. Wouldn't it be a waste of time if you dream for yourself? Therefore, life will continue, dreams will continue to be maintained, and days will continue! If you have nothing to do, go for a walk and play around to enrich your heart. If not, find a place where no one is there and yell at the sky! Those feelings can be aroused instantly!
This kind of emotion mostly happens to girls because their work or life is not satisfactory, or they have nothing to do at home after retirement, or they may suffer from depression.
I suggest you see a psychiatrist first to see if you have any disease. If nothing is found, then find something to do and adjust your mood.
If you find a job you like, travel with someone you like, choose someone who loves you when conditions permit, or chat and play cards with someone you love, you can release your depressed mood.
Can afford it, can afford it-
When people are alive, there will be many responsibilities and many desires. If these things are removed, the flow of people will become very relaxed; If you always carry them on your back, you may be exhausted during the journey. Life is simple, simple. Learn to abandon things that you don't particularly need and are not good for your life, and keep a simple and clear heart, and you will feel that life is really beautiful.
People have a lot of pain just because they don't know how to give up. When you have the wisdom to abandon and tidy up yourself, you will be suddenly enlightened, and life will immediately show you a completely different landscape.
Too much desire will give birth to a lot of troubles. In fact, life doesn't need these meaningless persistence, nothing can't be abandoned, and nothing in life can't be done without. If you want an easy life, you must learn to give up. If you can afford it and let it go, you won't suffer from persistence. Because if you have a choice, you have to give up, and giving up is the beginning of re-selection.
I, too, have lost confidence in life, and there is no one to trust around me. The person you love seems to be getting farther and farther away from you, and that person is getting farther and farther away from you. I really want to give up and find my own soul.
I was in the same mood when I asked your questions! Life is too stressful. The pain I have experienced in recent years is like a needle in my heart. It hurts! ! Some unforgettable people and things, some can't get rid of and change the status quo, and there is no clear direction for the future ... Every day, many things pile together, just like a mountain, which makes people suffocate! But what's the use of saying this? That's how you live if you're unhappy. It is better to live optimistically!
Some depression is still a problem in my heart, and someone needs to untie the bell and tie it! Find the root cause and solve it, and maybe it will suddenly become clear! Make more friends. Only by talking and laughing with them and meeting all kinds of people outside, maybe you will find that you are not the most unlucky.
People who have the most access to positive energy are excellent among people with high positive energy, and you also want to be excellent ... They invisibly provide you with a positive and optimistic influence and help you come out.
Make up your mind to do one or two things that you really want to do but haven't done yet, so that you can enrich yourself, study, make friends, exercise and arrange your time adequately. People, as long as they are enriched, have no extra time to think!
Let's cheer together!
Feeling unhappy and depressed is a kind of depression. Many people will have such an emotion, which is not terrible. If it continues to affect their work and life, it is depression.
The main causes of depression are as follows:
1. Facing major accidents: divorce/traffic accidents, etc.
2. Physical illness
3. Death of a loved one
4. The problem of money
5. Interpersonal problems, etc.
I used to be depressed for a while, and when I went to work normally, I felt unhappy, chest tightness and inexplicable pressure. It's no use trying to find an exit from home, such as asking my husband to be better to himself, not looking for me in difficult jobs, and keeping people who are difficult to talk away from me. Later, I discovered that the breakthrough was actually on myself.
In order to stay away from depression, you can try the following emotional therapy:
First, admit how you feel at the moment.
For example, you are nervous, anxious and irritable. Tell yourself you're a little upset. Although this feeling is a little uncomfortable, I can try to accept it. (Face up to emotions and give yourself positive psychological hints)
Second, ask yourself, what is good for me now?
1. Exercise. Exercise every day 15-30 minutes. Exercise can not only exercise, but also secrete dopamine, which makes you feel happy and relaxed.
2. Abdominal breathing or meditation. Can train willpower and concentration, make the mood calm and the body in a relaxed state.
Reading. Read a book you like or other books that can solve emotional problems. For example, I have read books related to regulating emotions such as Meeting Unknown Oneself, Emotional Therapy and Self-control, and there is always one for you.
4. Learn to appreciate yourself. In other words, boasting and reading by yourself is undoubtedly a good thing. If you are a boy, ask yourself, if I am a girl, will I like myself? Girls are the opposite. You can beat yourself up and praise yourself for being handsome. It can be cooking a delicious breakfast, enjoying it, boasting that your cooking has improved and so on.
5. Learn to be grateful. You can keep a gratitude diary and write down three things to be grateful for every day. For example, thank my friends for listening to my nagging, thank my mother for cooking a delicious meal, and thank my colleagues for their help and concern.
6. Give yourself a smile every day. Because people who love to laugh are not too bad luck.
7. Go out for a walk or travel. Look at the outside world, bask in the sun and breathe the fresh air.
8. Find your purpose in life. Make a small plan for your goal and reward yourself when you reach it. For example, stick to fitness for 30 days and reward yourself with a crayfish.
There are too many unpleasant things in life to live in depression all the time. Mainly because of lack of self-confidence, I feel worthless, and gradually feel that life is meaningless.
These are the methods I have used, and I can find satisfaction and a sense of accomplishment by persisting for a long time.