Part I: Who are we? How do we build our energy field?
Story case: photo-grandma is praying
? There are many continuous mountains at the junction of Tibet and Xikang. There is a Lama who wants to practice in Tibet. On the way, he saw something shining across the street. He carefully looked at it as a thatched cottage, so he went over the mountains to the thatched cottage because he wanted to see why it was shining with golden light. He knocked on the door and found an ugly grandmother. She was very old. He asked his grandmother, do you live here alone?
? Grandma invited him into the house for tea. Grandma chatted with Lama and said that she was unlucky when she was a child. Her children and husband died young. Originally, she wanted to go with them. Later, on the road, she saw many women chanting scriptures, six characters and incantations. Later, she learned that because grandma couldn't read, she went home behind her back. She found herself calm when reading the Bible. She thinks that the scripture she read can make her children and her husband go to the western paradise. So she gives herself a lesson every day: take two bowls, one filled with sharp red beans, and read a six-character mantra. She puts one red bean in the other bowl. This situation lasted for more than 30 years until the Lama came to visit her today. The Lama was very surprised and said, Wow, you are really spiritual. Read it. what do you think? Grandma read: Hmmm (not ng)(ma)(nρ)Ba(bēI)? (mēi) Bē (cow). The Lama was startled and immediately stopped saying, "You are mistaken. Is it (not ng) (ma) or (nρ) beep (bēi)? " (mēI)ē(hūng)。 Grandma knelt on the ground and cried. She thought that her idea of more than 30 years was broken and she didn't know what to do. After thanking the Lama, she closed the door. When the Lama looked back at the thatched cottage reluctantly, he found that the thatched cottage had lost its glittering light.
Do you know why? Lama knows why. He immediately knocked at the door and said to his grandmother, I just want to test your sincerity. What you just read is correct. You are really sincere. God will bless you, bless you, your children and your husband. Grandma regained her smile and closed the door.
? What does this story mean to us? Everything is made by the mind. The heart is our energy field. "Tao Te Ching" says: Man should be on the ground, the ground should be on the sky, the sky should be on the road, and the road is natural. Living is a breath, and the greatest energy is qi. The energy field will affect others and make them stable. After the coach has settled his body and mind, he will expand our field, influence the people around him and let the people around him settle down with us.
Reference book: There are many experiments in Mr. Jiang Bensheng's Water Know the Answer.
Hawkins field, 250 is the beginning of a person's smooth and confident life.
? Besides investing in yourself and your children, the best people in the world can invest in tourism, so that your body and mind can be integrated with the environment, absorb energy and empower yourself. According to the book, 78% people's energy level is below 200, and most people will find it difficult to improve it all their lives.
? Often in a beautiful environment, in fact, he uses external forms to enhance our energy. However, there is another good way to change your mind. For example, when you listen with 3F, you can have an emotional buffer when you face a negative thing or emotion. Let's think about the positive intention behind it. What is the gift that brings us the future? When we think like this, we will find that God has tried, robbed us and become a better self. With this vision, this energy field can become better.
? The inner part of the energy field has returned to my original intention of helping others and helping others. The first condition of communication abroad is to remain neutral in everything, especially when you meet many customers. We should not criticize and remain neutral. We are beneficial to others. We should be sympathetic and give each other warmth and support. Then we can feel safe with the same party.
Part II: How to start the process of coaching dialogue?
? When communicating with the coachee, we will use many tools. Take it to help the coachee identify some gifts behind behaviors and emotions, which requires a strong sense. Even our customers don't see where the problem lies, and they are entangled in their own negative energy. Coaches should use their own perception to show their clients what the truth is. We may use some powerful questions in the middle. After asking these powerful questions, we need to leave blank-give the customer some time to talk. In the meantime, when he is not talking, he should give his customers some warm eyes and encouragement, help him inspire and empower him. After empowerment, he will look at his problems with a very positive attitude and his position will become more objective than subjective.
? Coach dialogue must be effective and reliable. So you must have an action plan after you finally find the problem.
? The difference between consultant dialogue and coach dialogue: the consultant gives the answer and the coach inspires the other party. Pay special attention to the negative energy of customers and carry out catharsis treatment. When you find a problem, you should have an action plan.
Dialogue process: 1, prepare in advance? Tell the trainees when to start. Please prepare three different pens and 3-5 sheets of white paper. Time may time out. You should be prepared for the time.
Preview today's schedule and make a statement.
3. Choose counseling tools and use powerful questions to dig deep into the problems that plague him. We should use our counseling tools flexibly. Use different tools for problem points.
4, customers will steal our positive energy, so we should take the lead, let the other side see each other's negative emotions in hell, and see the essence of his intention in life.
Part three? Application of two-wheel matrix
? Many people also call it the balance wheel. Corresponding to the way our left brain and right brain are used together. It can make the coachee have a good cognition and feeling. The left brain is good at logic and analysis. The right brain tends to be emotional.
The two-wheel matrix takes stock of the current state and the future action plan, which needs to be improved, falling on our time axis and needing to be improved. Technical process-1. What is the most desired goal at present? -Is there a problem with the setup? Clear goal
One more question: why do you think this thing is so important if you want to achieve this goal? He is usually asked to write down his goals on white paper.
2. Next, draw the first wheel: you become a similar goal. What can you do now? After counting the things he wants to do and thinking about eight things, he will confirm everything. Possible problem: he only thinks of three goals, so it is easy to freeze. -Give him time and encourage him: What else can I do?
3. Do you think these eight things will give you a score? They are quality, effective and satisfactory. For example, you think you can become a popular lecturer after buying clothes. Please grade this project. There is a gap between them.
According to your eight things, how many points do you think you need to achieve your goal? Draw his score in color. dye
What will you find? Ask more: Really? How do you feel? What else do you think you can do? Dig deep into the motivation behind it. You found the gap between your goals. What do you think should be done to narrow the gap? We need to authorize him. Help him distinguish between facts and explanations. Empowerment is to make him feel great.
5. The second round is the action plan. What shall we do in the next week or two in order to do these eight things well? Write eight action plans. Step by step, how to do the first step and how to do the second step. . . There must be a timetable.
6. For each action, how many points do you need to achieve to be satisfied? Please use another color to show your satisfaction. What will you do when you see the gap? If there is a big gap, it is necessary to empower. Painting makes him a very important part of the whole balance wheel.
7. What did you feel or learn from our conversation after you finished speaking? There are at least three questions to ask.
Summary: 1, first determine the goal, ask the goal twice, and find out the goal that you want to realize the value most; 2. When making the first wheel to evaluate the current situation, all the problems should be dug out according to the problems, and then marked with pens of different colors to stimulate his vision;
3. With the awareness of the first round, gather the action plan of the second round and stimulate the action plan with color;
I can't think of a plan. I have to go back to the first round to see if there are any fish that have escaped from the net;
5. The gap in the second round should be reviewed with different colors; Will use powerful questions, review the facts, but also empower; Let the other party feel hopeful;
To be a trainer, we must educate people by Tao. It is important to do everything with your heart, which will leave a mark on the energy level. Don't forget your innovative spirit, so as to achieve your ultimate goal.
Liu Xiaoou —— Sharing with the Head of the Five-dimensional General Education Assistant Group
1, two-wheel matrix is mainly used to create cognition and improve performance, especially performance coaching.
2. When doing two rounds, it is best to have a very focused goal. Review and reflect on last week's behavior and make actions for the next cycle. The two wheels should also be combined with the left and right brains, and the left brain should be combined first for logical analysis. When we grade ourselves, the left brain is activated at this moment. After scoring, we painted on the wheel with colored pens of different colors, and saw that the image had some perception, and the graphics presented by different scores were very intuitive. When you see a dark color, you will also have great consciousness and give yourself some inspiration. This tool can make full use of our left and right brains.
3. For example, when we see that the eight quadrants of this wheel are full of colors, as a coach, we can ask: When you see this picture and see that this wheel has such a score, what new discoveries and insights do you have at this moment? What do you want to change most? Then you can ask what changes you want to make. How many points do you expect to reach in the future? Where do you think the gap is in the process of changing this score? You can describe this expected score in detail. At this time, our consciousness slowly came out.
4. Of course, let's not dwell on the score. Grades are not important, what matters is creative consciousness. With awareness, we will think and judge the gap between our actions and our goals.
5. Prepare paper and pen and draw a big circle on the paper. A circle is a wheel. Then divide it into eight quadrants, that is, draw one meter and divide it into eight quadrants.
6. For example, the goal is to complete five coaching conversations before the end of March.
The first wheel
(1) In the first quadrant, I filled in the reading, I scored five points for myself, and then I scored five points with a red pen.
(2) In the second quadrant, I watched a TV series last week, which has nothing to do with my goal of completing five coaching conversations at the end of March, so I give myself a score. Basically, the lowest score starts from 1
(3) In the third quadrant, I went to the course of retraining coaches, and I gave myself eight points. I use coaching skills to coach them quickly in class, which is related to my goal.
(4) In the fourth quadrant, I modified the tweet of the coaching camp. I gave myself four points.
(5) In the fifth and sixth quadrants, I gave myself three points.
(6) In the seventh quadrant, I finished a coach dialogue, which is closely related to the goal. I gave myself 10.
(7) The eighth quadrant, listening to micro-lessons, 6 points.
Before drawing a wheel, you must first determine what you want to achieve, or what you want to achieve. Let it be a more detailed goal, a very easy to operate goal, so that our consciousness will be better improved. Then, we have to review what we spent our energy and time on last week or last month, and it is enough to find eight. -This wheel focuses on the past and the present.
When the wheel is drawn, we will ask the customer. How satisfied are you with these eight things? Satisfaction 1- 10 score
7. After seeing the wheel of the score, you should start the right brain at this time and ask: What new discoveries and insights do you have at this time?
For example, in a certain quadrant, such as listening to a micro-class, why didn't the score of six reach 10? There is still a gap of four points between six and ten. Where is the gap?
Q:
What's the difference between your desired score and your present score?
What efforts have you made to improve this situation? Which efforts are effective and which are not? At this time, it is necessary to mobilize his emotions.
What would you say to yourself in the present situation? At this moment, what do you feel, or your mood?
What made you fail to achieve your goal today?
If you try or work hard, you can improve.
8. What is your greatest advantage against these scores, and where can you play better?
Note: (1) It is impossible for each wheel to score 10. If you don't get full marks, you can create cognition and interrogate customers.
(2) As coaches, it is more important for us to pay attention to the most valuable part of the eight quadrants, that is, the quadrant related to the goal. Of course, questions that have nothing to do with the goal can also be asked according to your own choice. Paying attention to the most valuable can impress customers more.
The second wheel
1, with a new understanding, make a second wheel on the basis of the first wheel. What are the new discoveries, the most valuable? Let's look at the next week or month. What actions should you focus on in order to achieve your goals/achievements?
2. Doing these eight things must be related to your own goals. Because when we first turned the steering wheel, we only remembered that we did eight things last week. The second wheel must focus on the past consciousness, and it must be related to the goal, so the eight things that are focused must be related to the goal.
3. Play your own actions in the eight quadrants. What is your expected satisfaction, and also indicate your score. What kind of consciousness and new discoveries will be made by drawing some colors and music? Next, we should focus on three aspects and make improvements. Note: When we see this wheel, we will see-what have we seen and learned, and whether we have a new understanding of ourselves and a new mode of thinking? Then when distinguishing these key points or things, because of the eight actions, we can only focus on three actions, that is, the most achievable action, and bring it out.
4. Then we have to ask the customer: What do you see between these two wheels? What did you learn from the last two rounds? What's your new discovery? What actions will you take in response to these three action plans? When are you going to start? What kind of resources do you need to support you?
It should be noted that the best value judgment of the second wheel is that its important nature is better, so why do you say that? Because valuable behavior is actually an internal problem of customers. Internal problems will inspire him more deeply.
6. Note-If we see that the customer's score is duplicate with that of the first round, or there are repeated actions, we should not tell the customer that it is impossible. No matter what the customer does, it is right. We should start to communicate with customers with our own thinking. For example, I see that the action of your wheel is the same as that of the previous wheel. What kind of consideration will you have?
7. Note-If all customers score 10 in the new round, it means that there is something wrong with our focus and we need to change a dimension.
It is possible that the latitude and standard that we asked him to grade are not suitable, so can we adjust the latitude? For example, you tell the customer the priority of this matter, what is the certainty of doing these eight things next, or score from the urgency of these eight things. This can be adjusted, that is, we have to make flexible conversion according to the scene at that time. The most important thing is to create awareness for each other.
8. Summary: Steps of two wheels:
First: First of all, we should review eight events of last week or last month.
2. What is the most important goal in these three to six months?
Third: draw lots for scoring; Then let customers know and ask questions;
Fourth, create consciousness on the basis of the wheel of the past and focus on eight things in the coming week;
Fifth, we should choose the three most important things that can be implemented immediately among the eight things;
What I learned on February 4th:
1, good team performance coaching with two wheels;
2. There must be clear and operational goals;
3. Draw the first wheel, review the eight things you did last week, and rate your satisfaction; Stimulate the perception behind the score gap and help empower;
4. In order to achieve the eight things you focus on, draw the second wheel and score with satisfaction to find out the three most important things that can be implemented immediately;
Next step:
1, read the article three times a day.
2. Draw two wheels tomorrow;