In addition to career progress, life is more rewarding. Just this year, I had a lovely daughter, who was born by my wife. She was younger than me 15 years old.
Of course, I'm just talking about me. I only represent myself, not anyone else who has experienced or experienced 48 years old.
Experts define the greatest pain of middle-aged crisis as 48 years old. I think there are three reasons.
First, physical reasons. Most 48-year-old men have skeletons in their closet. Even if we don't mention the ulterior secrets, the "three highs" have already found the door and started to age completely for their crushed bodies.
Second, psychological reasons. A 48-year-old man still refuses to accept his old age. Although their bodies have sent a signal, they still refuse to accept the old age and feel that they still have strength and can fight like young people. It is this tangled struggle that adds psychological trauma to the middle-aged crisis.
Third, the cause of responsibility. A 48-year-old man, old and young, goes to the hospital every day and the young goes to school every day. Men in this era can neither let white-haired people send black-haired people nor let their children die without independence. This is an age that can't die and can't afford to die.
finally
48 is indeed the most painful age for some people in the middle-aged crisis, but it doesn't mean everyone. For example, people like me who face life positively and optimistically, face life with ease, keep exercising every day and keep studying are not included!
Experts pointed out that 48 years old is the dangerous age of the birth year.
The most painful age of midlife crisis is about 48 years old.
Tell me about the midlife crisis I faced when I was 48:
1. My father-in-law has been suffering from lung cancer for several years. I have been to Shanghai and Beijing for some time in the early stage. When I came back, I was tortured by radiotherapy and chemotherapy, and my face was yellow and skinny. He is tired of standing and doesn't want to eat anything. Later, after a period of conditioning, it slowly recovered. The hair after chemotherapy has grown back, but the new hair is not as hard as before, just a layer softer, people have become fat, their physical strength and energy have recovered well, and they still have the strength to travel to Russia. When we all thought we could relax, we went to the hospital for routine examination and told the cancer cells that they were getting bigger. It just recurred, so my husband accompanied me to the hospital for surgery and then went to Beijing for radiotherapy. He is too old and exhausted. The doctor didn't dare to give him chemotherapy, so he had to have radiotherapy. The house rented in Beijing is opposite the hospital, 1, 000 yuan/month. My husband was in charge of cooking and accompanied me for two months. After treatment, my father-in-law was weak and could only lie in the waiting chair at the airport. He is too weak to sit still. I finally got home, and then I was hospitalized and discharged. It's been going on for over a year. One night, my mother-in-law called and said, your father is confused. Come quickly. I got there early in the morning and saw people talking nonsense. I quickly got dressed and went to the hospital, just in time for the Spring Festival. There is no bed, and someone asks for a bed. The oncology department refused to accept it. I am too weak to do radiotherapy and chemotherapy. Later, I lived in the respiratory department, and I first added a bed in the corridor. My meaning is confusing, I'm talking nonsense. On the sixth day of hospitalization, my father-in-law asked me: When will Feifei (my daughter, who was working in other places at that time) have a holiday? I said at that time: "Soon, the children will have a holiday for the New Year. There are still more than ten days. " At noon on the seventh day, my husband and I bought lunch for the old man. My sister-in-law told them to go back to rest. Because my husband was alone at night, we drove home. I said I felt my dad had a bad appetite. I went to the supermarket and bought a stewed chicken to make him up. Husband said that Feifei would give her a video to show to her grandfather when she got off work in the afternoon. I said, "well, you rest first, and I'll buy chicken." And I just walked in. Scared me into turning around and heading back. When I went to the hospital, I saw people covered with white cloth for about 20 minutes. I regretted it then. I should ask the children to take time off and come back. When my grandfather asked me, I estimated that the old man felt something. What a pity, inexperience! I didn't expect to leave the hospital so soon and go home for the New Year. That's a real pity.
2。 Children face job hunting after graduating from college. In the next semester of my senior year, I am faced with finding a job. My children send resumes everywhere and attend interviews. There are several places I go to other places. My child has no self-confidence. I said it doesn't matter. My mother will stay with you. On the one hand, I consider the safety of children. On the other hand, I am worried that my child will be frustrated in the interview. I tossed and turned for more than a month before I got the address and booked the plane ticket, but I never received the news of admission. The child was under great pressure, didn't eat much and lost a lot of weight. Our parents are also under great pressure, but at this time, we must hold on, comfort our children and get angry secretly. That feeling is so sad. As a result, in March, the child finally received an admission message and informed him to go to training. At that time, the whole family was so happy! Because the training period is half a month, and I am out of town and can't rent a house, I booked a hotel near the training site. There is a lot of food around, so don't worry about eating. I thought I could go home after training. As a result, the child said direct distribution and went to work the next day. As soon as I heard this, I booked the ticket directly, first to see how the children work, and then to consider renting a house. As a result, the children were assigned to a good location. In the city center, all kinds of facilities are available, and life and entertainment are very convenient. I started looking for an agent to look at the house. The house price in this lot is relatively expensive. It will be much cheaper if you rent an old community. But I think my child is a girl, and her self-care ability is quite poor. I'm afraid that there will be contradictions in sharing with others in the future, which will affect my quality of life. I'm also afraid it's not safe to live with strangers. After careful consideration, I chose a room with one bedroom, one living room and one bathroom in the upper floor opposite my daughter's company. I need a doorman and access card. There are two big hotels at the entrance of the community, cleaning, changing bedding curtains by themselves, basically solving the problem of living, teaching children how to use washing machines and water heaters, cooking porridge with rice cookers and simply scrambled eggs. Feeling almost enough, I bought some food and put it in the refrigerator. The child was ok for a while, fresh, a little tired and uncomfortable after work, and a little homesick. As soon as I hear that the child's mood is not high, it will not work. I booked a plane ticket, cooked some home-cooked meals for my child, told her the difference between school and work, the precautions for newcomers in the workplace, how to deal with grievances, a meal of ideological work and food, and the child recovered, and her mood was boiling, and then she quit. I've been worried and distressed since my child went out to work by himself, but he won't make great achievements if he doesn't go out, and his growth will cost him! My side is also depressed because of the empty nest of children, and it is also a sad moment of adjustment for a long time. Now my daughter has basically adapted to a person's life and lived well, which is a great comfort to her mother.
My body feels old. At first, my eyes were blurred and flowered, then my hair fell out and my memory was low. I often find that I go home to cook when I pay for things in the supermarket. Moreover, those annoying menopausal symptoms began to appear. In short, the body is very uncomfortable and uncomfortable, and I feel very tired when I am idle, and my appetite is reduced and my attention is reduced. I can't even watch the whole movie. Sometimes when driving, my head is distracted, which is quite scary and I lose my temper. Later, I took some medicine to recuperate and felt better.
Because of poor health, work enthusiasm has also declined, and I am unwilling to accept a new job. As soon as they heard that they had a favorite job, they felt great pressure, but they just dragged their feet and refused to do it until the last minute, which was completely different from my previous attitude of vigorous work. I feel that my work is very hard and stressful.
5 Faced with the pressure of buying houses in different places
I plan to buy a house for the place where my children work, but the house price in the place where my children work is very high, and there are many places I don't understand, such as the school district, the quality of the house and the unfamiliar environment. Very annoying.
And their parents are getting older and older, and they are slowly facing problems such as providing for the aged.
People at this age are really stressed. There are old people and young people in the world. You can only rely on yourself. This may be a midlife crisis.
2019 at the age of 48, I lost half my life, and my family felt a great sense of crisis. I was crazy and spent a year in anger. Don't think about things you don't understand now. I just want to make money now. The rest of the time is a person smoking at home. The home is still being maintained, but my heart is cold.
It's none of your business. Hang high.
It's better to say less when you know it's wrong.
Seek no merit but no fault.
It is a bit biased to measure the crisis of middle age with the concept of digital age.
Because age is only a measure of life's record on the road, if you want to say the most painful, you must have encountered something terrible. Generally speaking, tragic events encountered at these special time nodes, such as the death of a father in childhood, a husband in middle age and a child in old age, will really make a person in a state of collapse.
It is also similar to a sudden sense of crisis. For example, a good enterprise closed down because of an incident, and parents at home need a lot of money, which we can't afford. Things like this will make the sense of crisis in middle age deeper and hit our hearts more directly. These have nothing to do with a certain time node, but are closely related to the direction of things.
Maybe today is a day of sacrifice, but it will change the direction of the whole destiny because of one thing. We can't avoid the midlife crisis, but we can make peace with it, depending on how we deal with it.
I am a 48-year-old middle-aged woman, and feel that I am a failed woman.
When I was a child, I hoped my parents would love me, because there were sisters in the world and brothers and sisters in the world, and I was always left out in the cold. In order to get their recognition and praise, I have always been a good girl, taking the initiative to help with housework and study hard, but I just can't get the care and love of my parents, and I often envy the girls of the same age next door. Even one day I wished I had a fever and attracted my parents' attention, but I really had a fever and ate a bowl of frozen fruit. I haven't come yet. My parents love me, but they are a little demented.
The 48-year-old lady wants her daughter to be smart and sensible and love learning, but her daughter is a mess in her studies. She only went to junior college, and now she doesn't want to make progress at work. She has a dog and a cat, and phablet never leaves her hand every day.
I hope to have a good husband who understands and loves me, which is far from my requirements.
I have been studying and working very hard. Although I am an excellent employee recognized by leading cadres in the whole company, and I have a large bag of honorary certificates, everyone says that I am great, but my salary is the lowest in the whole company.
Fortunately, all three of us are in good health, and we only want peace and health in the future, that's all!
The age expert who was most affected by the middle-aged crisis gave a specific figure of 48 years old, and I think I agree.
20 19 years, husband is 48 years old. My husband's midlife crisis was initially diagnosed as type 2 diabetes, hypertension and fatty liver, and he was hospitalized for one month. After leaving the hospital, the husband began to lose weight while taking medicine, and reduced three meals a day to two meals to cooperate with exercise.
Then my husband accompanied my husband's one-year-old uncle to anzhen hospital for cardiac intervention three times from 15th to March in January, 20 19, and went to beijing jishuitan hospital for waist surgery with his mother-in-law for the second time from March to July. In the first half of 20 19, my husband was completely in a state of accompanying his family to and from Daqing and Beijing for medical treatment and surgery. I am in charge of logistics at home. In addition to doing my job well, I have to rush to the airport and train station to pick me up and take care of my elderly parents and children studying at home.
From August 2065438 to August 2009, after I finished my illness at home, my husband accompanied me in the hospital for 64 rows of heart, sleep monitoring and diabetes treatment due to symptoms such as heart discomfort and diabetes. My husband suggested surgery because of respiratory disorder, but a brother who just had heart intervention surgery and a mother who just came home from waist surgery need to be taken care of, so they are only in the state of routine review in the hospital for the time being. In March 2020, the whole people fought against the epidemic, and her mother-in-law was hospitalized again, and liver cancer was found, which has spread. She suggested referring to Beijing 30 1 hospital instead of surgery. However, because the epidemic was isolated for 28 days and the appointment could not be made, her mother-in-law who studied Buddhism and causality chose to give up the plan of going to Beijing 30 1, but chose to take medicine for conservative treatment and spend the rest of her life with dignity. Moreover, when my mother-in-law was diagnosed, because the epidemic broke out in Harbin at that time, my uncle went to Harbin Cancer Hospital to find an expert to show her a film and come back to celebrate. He was also asked to be isolated at home for 28 days. My husband is also responsible for buying food and delivering meals, taking care of his lonely brother and his mother with cancer. At the same time, he has to go to work and take care of the children at home who can't start school because of the epidemic and me who is about to enter menopause, has a bad temper and always feels tired and uncomfortable. Is it hard to think about my husband for 48 years-10,000 words are omitted here.
I will be 48 years old in 2020, which coincides with the once-in-a-century catastrophe. People all over the world are not only busy with their work, but also responsible for the daily necessities of the whole family. On the one hand, the husband and children who can't start school because of the epidemic, and on the other hand, the elderly parents. While taking care of the sick husband, we must also fight against various uncomfortable physical conditions during menopause. Although I use my spare time to force myself to keep exercising, because of the epidemic situation and the limited itinerary of the hospital, the hospital can make an appointment to check my eyes in April, and I was diagnosed with iriditis and hereditary cataract. Because of a headache, I had a brain CT and was diagnosed as basilar artery insufficiency. In the process of cooperating with the treatment, my eyes were swollen twice a month because of decreased immunity, and I couldn't open my eyes for the first time in history. From April to June, my husband and I basically went to the hospital for medical check-up on weekends.
On July 7, 2020, on the eve of the college entrance examination, I couldn't sleep for a long time. I got a call from my mother at 2 am. My blood pressure was as high as 220, and half of my body could not move. I hurried to take my mother to the hospital. When I was in the emergency room at night, my eyes were swollen and I pushed my mother to do CT and various tests. As a result, there was no bed in the hospital and my mother could not be admitted to the hospital, so my husband and I drove to the big hospital. Because the "four-piece set" such as nucleic acid testing is strictly required during the epidemic, you can be hospitalized. My sister, who was worried about my sick eyes, went to other places to take care of the sick children and booked a plane ticket back to Daqing overnight. On July 8, I went to the hospital with my mother to make a "four-piece set" of nucleic acid, and on July 9, I accompanied my mother to the big hospital.
At the same time that my mother became ill in the early morning of July 7, at noon on July 7, my 74-year-old father suddenly had a cerebral infarction and was admitted to a large hospital on July 8. My old father was in a coma when he was in hospital. His left body could not walk normally and he needed a wheelchair. At the end of June, "Father's Day", my father could still walk and talk normally. Only ten days later, my father suddenly fell ill and was hospitalized. His consciousness is like a child, which is really unacceptable. My mountain-like father is in my arms like a sick child.
In the same month, I fell ill on the same day and was hospitalized in the same hospital. My father lives on the left, my mother lives on the right, and my sister leaves home to work hard in the hospital. I am responsible for the logistics supply outside the hospital. On July 15, my mother was discharged from the hospital, and on July 16, my father was discharged from the hospital and transferred to a rehabilitation hospital to start rehabilitation treatment for half a year. I learned the language again, learned to walk and read again, and learned to balance and adapt to the life that my body can't take care of itself. At this time, dad can't leave the chaperone during rehabilitation.
So in the face of the 48-year-old middle-aged crisis, I told myself, "To live, dry your tears first, and walk ahead for one day." "For my parents, for my husband and children, for hurting my sister and relatives, hold on!
I have no crisis, because I show my son silly and happy children every day.
My husband is 48 years old and has nothing to do. Eating is good for his health. He does well. Maybe it's because he believes in Buddhism. I'm 47 this year and I've been suffering from minor illness since the Spring Festival in 2020. I said I spent your birth year for you.
I just turned 48 this year, which is really bad.