The above four viewpoints are essential issues that everyone should consider all his life. No matter the breadth and depth, we will think more or less, and it will take shape after a period of deliberation. Although these problems are difficult to understand and time-consuming, after all, everyone has his own "four views" in his heart, so it seems not difficult to "view" such a difficult philosophical problem, because even an uneducated person has already formed-so it is not difficult to get his own "four views", but the difficulty lies in the part that does not belong to him or even anyone can control. Only right, truth, goodness, righteousness, truth, goodness and beauty are what we human beings really want and should pursue, but no one at home and abroad can give a "standard" or have a way to prove that we are right, which is the object that everyone should learn and follow. This may be that philosophy is infinite and finite, and finite includes infinite, disgusting, complex and subtle, so profound that human wisdom can't understand it. In this sense, people are actually extremely retarded, even some basic questions such as where they come from, where they go after death, where they go in life, and so on. I don't even know! It's really a little sad to say! What can this man do? I have to keep looking and continue to be depressed. ...
This reminds me of a lecture on philosophy and wisdom in the first issue of Lecture Room. The title seems to be "The Pain of Wisdom". Well, I don't need to see anything else. The title alone is enough to ponder for a while. Wisdom-truth-pain, seemingly contradictory, feels very appropriate and mysterious, a feeling that can't be said! The speaker is the Dean of the School of Philosophy of China Renmin University and the doctoral supervisor. There is a passage that goes something like this: philosophy is actually the most special of all disciplines. Why do you say that? Because philosophy is the only subject that doesn't even know what it is, and all the most basic problems in it have not been solved. The history of philosophy has been more than 2600 years, so this is a very embarrassing place for people who study philosophy. ...
Ok, digress, let's talk about "love view" today. Who are we talking about? I can only talk about myself, although I don't want to, but I can only write my own mistakes! I don't know anyone else's. So how should we talk about it? Just tell a story and talk!
Let me give you an overview first.
Why do you like him/her? For convenience, I take my own nature as the first subject, so the question just now should be why do you like her? What do you mean? That is, if you are a male reader, just think about it; Female readers should think the other way around-that is, there is an extra conversion program.
I don't think anyone knows? Of course, some people say "I just like her appearance", "I just love her figure" and "It doesn't matter, it's out of necessity" ... People who have these ideas should pay attention. I won't tell you this now, but what is love? what is love ? What about their nature?
In fact, human love is not real love now, at least not in my definition. What do you mean? This requires an analysis of the origin, development and even existence of "love".
Before becoming a human being, man was also an animal, and the combination of two animals began from nature and its laws: the most essential and only purpose of the combination of two animals is to ensure the reproduction of their own race and ensure that this species can be passed down and continue to survive. This is the primitive essence of "sex", or the primitive animality of "sex".
Later, a creature evolved into a human, but the state of the body changed, and then there was a qualitative change in the brain. Others, especially sexual instinct, remain basically unchanged.
After thousands of years, people gradually began to have thoughts, thinking, thinking, language, knowledge and ways to express and express their feelings. ...
From the perspective of modern science, the human brain is divided into two hemispheres, the left hemisphere manages intelligence and the right hemisphere manages emotions (including sex). The Millennium development of human civilization essentially affects the "left brain". It is precisely because people have knowledge, wisdom, ethics and moral sentiments that they are completely divorced from animals in humanities and have undergone essential transformation to a greater extent. In short, it is to make people become people. However, as a "right brain" director, there is no substantial development in sex. At most, it is the intervention and influence of the "left brain"-the essence is the so-called humanity, morality, ethics, rationality and sexual morality represented by the "left brain", as well as the so-called "female morality" and the so-called male morality that have been popular and strictly observed for some time. Therefore, the so-called "love" that has been discussed for thousands of years, or the true, pure, traditional and beautiful "love" that human beings have long yearned for, does not exist. Speaking of which, some people are unhappy, disagree and will refute me, so please wait and listen to me. Actually, it hurts to analyze here. I am more reluctant to believe and accept this view than you are, but after thinking about it, facts are facts. Be realistic, people should be mature, not emotional, but strong! So, I later figured it out: on the surface, it hurts feelings and even collapses. But there is nothing wrong with this-only by breaking the old "ideas" can we create new ones. Although there is no love, at least it is traditional love, and we can redefine it, that is, to explore the true love that conforms to the "truth" defined by human beings at a new starting point and create a new, true and correct "what is love"! But it's hard! Why is it difficult? Because in this way, we have to figure out these elusive problems, which are also a series of inevitable problems that I have put forward and thought about so far:
what is love ? What is true love? How to determine whether you really love him or her? How to judge whether the other person is your true love? How to judge whether the other party is sincere to you? Is true love unique? If not, who should I choose (not to mention the category that is actually impossible, the first is theoretical analysis)? What are the criteria for selection? Do men have chastity? Should we also be chaste? Should love be one-on-one? If it is one-on-one, assuming that you and your other half can't grow old together, that is, the other side can't stay with you because of accidents or natural disasters, and left you early, then you should remain chaste for the other side (or for your original promise, or your love view, or you are too affectionate for her to find another one) and remain lonely, lonely or even miserable until you die of old age, or find another one? Can true love be found? What should I do if I have my true love, but I can't meet your "she" ("he") until I am old enough to get rid of it? Is it a waste of time to find someone who will give in, or is it not a waste of time to wait for your "she" who has always been a jade, but doesn't know when, or even for a lifetime? How to treat it? ……
After years of research, analysis, pondering and thinking, I have only completed a few, so my "love view" has not been 100% formed and perfected-in fact, so have other "three views"! I have to spend countless years in my life looking for answers … so I have always been ambivalent, which is why I have never found a girlfriend.
In this spring season, we are eager to smile. On the full moon night, we invite people to talk to each other on the gravel road under the lamp. In the university campus where dreams are most easily woven, in the emotional world, scenes of love stories are being staged. Approaching the love world of college students and feeling the current situation of love, perhaps, everyone has his own judgment.
Give a reason to fall in love first.
A melancholy girl read her words to the author: Who will you think of when you are lonely? Whether you are used to the darkness at night or not, look at the cold wind blowing wildly in front of you. Most students are lonely in a foreign land, and their desire for communication has become the main purpose of their love. "College courses are relatively easy, and many people start a romantic history in order to get rid of boredom or curiosity after class. Of course, some people find girlfriends purely for fun and show off. " Huang, a student at the School of Economics and Management, told reporters. A girl said, "I don't think my love will have any purpose." It should be both physical and psychological, without any utilitarian color. " And a senior boy's words are more rational: "Maybe we can look at love more realistically, we can learn interpersonal communication, learn how to love and enrich our lives."
Love VS consumption
With each other, consumption is a very common thing. Influenced by traditional ideas, boys are always generous in spending money. But for the student class with high Engel coefficient, this is also a big expense. Frequent shopping requires a certain economic foundation. Zeng, a classmate of the School of Telecommunications, argued that it is more appropriate to implement AA system on some occasions. It is quite immature to spend a lot of parents' hard-earned money for love. Love is not based on money. A girl quipped, "I put my heart into love. I like that he cares about him. I want to use my emotions to pave a road to his heart. " Money is just a medium to convey feelings. A small birthday present brings blessings, and a glass of milk brings warmth. "
Long-distance love also accounts for a large proportion, so telephone, mobile phone, QQ and SMS have become the main communication tools. Don't underestimate these costs, they may not be worse than the sum of them. Gao Xiao of the Institute of Telecommunications also has happy troubles: "When there is no mobile phone, I buy calling cards one by one, and send messages one by one. My current mobile phone bill is more than RMB 0/00 per month. I usually only spend money on food, and I have to save some money to go to XX City to see her. " One of his roommates said: "Fate can't stop you, and distance can't be separated from love. It's just that there is less face-to-face communication, and it is inevitable to spend more money."
Weight at both ends of the balance
"Learning is very important, and my first priority is definitely learning." Yao, who is determined to take the postgraduate entrance examination, said this. He is also eager to have time to whisper together, but the seriousness of employment makes him feel the importance of his studies. He said, "I think my love bird will definitely fly, but not now." Let's talk about it later. "
A social science student said: "Love and study are not a contradiction in themselves. We are all grown up. How can you face only one thing without learning to deal with many things that may conflict? On the track of life, you can't draw which period is the study period and which period is the love period, as long as you stay awake and know what you are doing. Many times, some students regard love as a kind of motivation, study harder, help each other during self-study and cultivate feelings, but they are also happy. "
Of course, there are still many people who are "crazy" about love. At this time, they need to adjust the weight on the balance, straighten the relationship between the two and make it balanced.
Will this love have a result?
I believe you still remember Jacky Cheung's "The ending is not what I want", but many people are just passers-by in love. They don't need the so-called result, as long as the process is memorable. Zhou of the School of Telecommunications said: "The love of college students is actually not deeply rooted. Many so-called lovers are promiscuous. They will go their separate ways when they graduate. Maybe they will go their separate ways because of a little embarrassment. This kind of love is boring. " A senior thinks that love in a university is incomplete, but a university without love is not perfect. This is like an elective course, even if you fail, it doesn't matter. We can't guarantee the shelf life of love in college. Look at the problem of students' love in an all-round way-