With the development of reform and opening up and market economy, traditional morality is different from modern civilization, eastern culture and western culture.

Breaking the Collision In the process of collision, many new problems have appeared in marriage, which makes people lose confidence in marriage. Therefore, we must pay attention to the current situation.

Have a correct understanding of marriage, starting with the analysis of contemporary marriage situation, and aiming at the new problems in current marriage, explore the reasons and put forward.

The contents and ways of the construction of marriage morality.

Marriage problems; Construction of marriage morality; Contents and methods

I. Contemporary marital status

Although on the whole, the marriage relationship in China is relatively stable and modern.

The concept of civilized marriage is dominant, but it has undergone social transformation.

There are still many problems in the process.

In the past, marriage and family were a highly stable form of social relations.

The marriage and family system has a strong binding force on every married individual.

Divorce, illegal marriage, substitute marriage, sexual dislocation, etc. It's all just a small probability.

Pieces, did not constitute a social problem that attracted public attention. But with industrialization,

With the continuous advancement of urbanization, some new problems have emerged in marriage and family.

Title. When dealing with marriage and family issues, our choice represents a bid.

The characteristics of value diversification. The sanctity of marriage began to be questioned, and marriage

The relationship became unstable. The main problems are: first, extramarital sex.

Increase. Mainly in bigamy, concubinage, extramarital love and so on.

Evil phenomenon. In recent years, this phenomenon has not been curbed, but has risen.

It is spreading. According to survey statistics, Guangzhou has paid tribute to the Women's Federation in the past three years.

Cases of complaining about husband's bigamy, cohabitation or other extramarital sexual behavior are presented one by one.

The annual upward trend was 1998 168 cases and1999,246 cases in 2000.

1-September 40 1 case, an increase of 43.6% compared with 1999. According to Jiangsu

According to statistics, in 2000, women's federations at or above the county level in the province received 4,458 divorce appeals.

First, because the husband has a third party, extramarital affairs, mistresses, etc.

Nearly 1500 pieces, accounting for about 1/3. The existence and spread of this situation is strict.

Violate socialist marriage and family morality, corrupt social atmosphere, and rush

Attacking the legal system of monogamy has led to the breakdown and disintegration of a large number of family marriages.

The rising divorce rate affects social stability; The second is domestic violence.

The number of pieces is on the rise. 1999, a survey by the Chinese Academy of Sciences shows that

In China, domestic violence against women is as high as 30%. Beijing citizens in 2000

According to Italian survey statistics, 33.9% of families exist to varying degrees.

Domestic violence. Especially among divorced people, the proportion of violent incidents is very high.

Up to 47. 1%[ 1]. Domestic violence not only seriously hurts women's lives.

Physical and mental health also affects the healthy growth of underage children and is easy to guide.

Lead to the breakdown of marriage; Third, the divorce rate is rising. Starting from 1950

Since the implementation of the first Marriage Law, there have been1150,000 divorces in China.

After the peak, the number of divorces in China has been increasing steadily at the rate of 40,000 per year.

The above speed has developed rapidly [2]. According to statistics, 1980, human law

The number of divorce cases heard by the court was 272,000, and 1990 was 340,000.

1999 reached1199,000 pieces, higher than 1980' s 272,000 pieces.

It has more than quadrupled, with an average annual growth rate of 8. 1%[3]. Divorced family Children's Home

The negative consequences are objective. Divorce affects children's lives.

Arrangements, psychological quality, academic performance and moral behavior are all negative to some extent.

Face influence, especially psychological trauma, is obvious, and divorce also gives both husband and wife themselves.

Have a negative impact.

In a word, the marriage and family in China are generally stable and harmonious.

Yes, but it brings new problems to our marriage.

Very severe test Marriage is the foundation of family, and family is social.

Cells. If the marital relationship problem is not handled well, it will affect me.

China's modernization.

Second, the causes of contemporary marriage problems analysis

There are many specific reasons for marital problems, but in general,

Generally speaking, there are three main aspects:

1, the fragility of love

Traditional marriage, as a system, men are superior to women, and three obedience and four virtues,

It has severely suppressed people's feelings. In such a marriage, no.

No love. However, with the continuous development of social economy, wide

The economic status and political status of elderly women are constantly improving.

Communication is also expanding. This fundamentally abolished the arranged business, male.

The old system and moral respect for women's disadvantages and husband's power rule have made people's

The concept of marriage has undergone a fundamental change: from the previous "married person"

The combination of the two sexes is good, the upper level serves the temple, and the lower level serves the offspring. "

Turn to today's love marriage based on meeting people's emotional needs.

China's current legal, moral and realistic cultural concepts have been established.

And recognize the leading role of love in marriage, based on love.

Marriage has become the mainstream of modern times. With the continuous development of economy and society

With progress, love will become more and more a factor in marriage. But it's very troublesome

In our family life, love can't be as passionate as infatuation.

It will fade away. So in the face of the temptation of extramarital affairs, people

Children are often lost in it and cannot be guided by reason. This is the most important thing.

It's an affair.

2. Negative consequences of sexual liberation.

In a society dominated by absolute patriarchy, men put their wives and children.

As their own private property, men are strict with their wives' chastity.

It's hard to see, so it only protects marital sex. and

Moreover, due to backward productive forces and underdeveloped science and technology, people advocate sexual prohibition.

Avoid, so sex becomes a private matter that cannot be made public, and sex and sexual intercourse are regarded as.

Dirty and depraved. Sex is suppressed as a natural instinct of human beings, and sex

Only the function of fertility is left. However, with the development of social productive forces

The progress of science and technology, sexual taboos and marriage for thousands of years

The monopoly of fertility on sex is being gradually liberated by sex and family planning technology.

Broken by the progress of the operation. The non-reproductive function of sex is recognized and sex is happy.

The value of is constantly improving. However, due to thousands of years of feudalism,

Depression leads to people's objective and correct understanding of sex, so in

In the process of sexual liberation, some people are subjected to "sexual liberation" and "sexual freedom" in the West.

Influenced by ideological trend, one-sided pursuit of sexual enjoyment has led to many extramarital sex transactions.

Behavior. Such as bigamy, concubinage and whoring. , destroying the balance of marriage.

Lenin pointed out that dissolute private life is extremely harmful, it

It wastes people's energy in vain and frees people from the revolutionary struggle. People are

The dissoluteness in private life will inevitably bring serious harm to society, because

For frivolous parents, they often ignore the fate of their children, abandon their families and give them

Relatives bring a lot of tears and pain [4]. As we can see from here,

"Sexual liberation" and "sexual freedom" have caused many marital problems.

3. Weakening of responsibilities and obligations

Because the traditional forced marriage has always emphasized the family or clan in marriage.

The group interests of ethnic groups simply ignore the individual rights in marriage. So in

The Breaking of Forced Marriage and the Establishment of Modern Marriage Based on Love

In this process, individual rights and personal values have been continuously improved. At the same time,

People are also influenced by western values, so modern society

It has created many self-centered people. Their expectations of each other

Unprecedented progress, but less responsibility, they are more and higher.

They demand the right to marriage, but they are less responsible for the relationship between husband and wife and the family.

The court, its responsibility to society. This leads to conflicts between husband and wife.

In a word, the imbalance of love, sex, responsibility and obligation leads to the conflict of marriage.

Constantly, so to solve the current marriage problem, we must pay attention to these three aspects.

Constantly adjust. The most effective way to adjust is the tone of marriage morality.

Give it a try. At present, we must build a marriage road suitable for the transition period as soon as possible.

German system.

Third, the content of marital moral construction.

1. Insist that love is the foundation of marriage and strengthen the construction of love.

The so-called love is the heartfelt love between a man and a woman.

Pleasure, yearning, pursuit and admiration are a desire for mutual self-sufficiency.

Sincere and single-minded feelings for life-long partners. This feeling is based on a

Economic relations and material foundation are based on the same ideals and sympathy.

On the basis of sharing similar interests and loving each other, it is based on marriage.

It requires both men and women to be based on equality, mutual love and completely voluntary feelings 2.

The foundation of marriage, that is, the establishment and existence of marriage is based on love.

Foundation, not forced or interfered by anyone. In socialist society,

Basically eliminated the opposition between men and women and the separation of marriage and love.

The economic base, on this basis, abolish the arranged business and favor boys over girls.

The old system and morality ruled by inferiority and husband's power. At the same time, with social owners

With the continuous development of Italian economy, people's material living standards are constantly improving.

This gradually reduces people's economic considerations on marriage issues, from

And make the marriage relationship based on love become the master of society.

The ultimate goal of just marriage. If you don't respect your wishes, there will be no love.

Marriage will only bring great mental pain to both husband and wife.

What kind of marriage is immoral.

When we emphasize that love is the foundation of marriage, we should also

Constantly strengthen the construction of married love. This is due to the characteristics of love itself.

That is, the variability of love. Strengthen the construction of love, the most important of which is.

The purpose is that husband and wife should communicate with each other and often communicate with each other about their work.

Work, study, life, feelings, thoughts. Because of the development of high technology, letter

With the popularization of information technology and the change of social and economic structure, everything is getting better.

The moon is different, and the rapid change of society requires people to keep learning new knowledge.

Know, accept new information, renew ideas and surpass yourself. If the husband and wife

If there is a long-term lack of communication between words, there will be a lack of * * * and language, which will lead to a knot.

Spiritual estrangement eventually leads to the disappearance of love. Secondly, both husband and wife should

Strengthen the cultivation of moral quality and resist the temptation in society.

Husband and wife should get along equally and respect each other.

After the founding of New China, all slavery and oppression of women were abolished.

Women's laws and systems, feudal ethics that discriminate against women and are ruled by husband's power.

Moral concepts have also been violently impacted. Most women go to society to participate.

Work, social status has been continuously improved, and the same rights as men have been obtained.

And obligations. Men and women are different in economic, political, cultural and other social life.

Equality in all aspects is reflected in marriage, including both husband and wife.

Coexist on an equal footing and respect each other. It requires both husband and wife to put themselves

Treat each other as equal members and respect each other's rights in marriage and family.

Live in harmony and oppose any form.

Male chauvinism or female chauvinism type. Because of his education

Life experience, both husband and wife in personality, temperament,

Ability and so on can't be completely consistent, but this difference is not.

It can definitely be achieved through the cultural literacy and morality of both husband and wife.

With the continuous improvement of quality, reasonable adjustment. As long as both husband and wife

Respect, care, help, encourage and make full use of each other.

Give play to your strengths in personality, temperament and ability, and take care of each other's interests and

Characteristics will cause contradictions between husband and wife in personality, temperament and ability.

Adjust each other, thus promoting the harmony of marriage. Therefore, only the husband

Only when wives respect each other and get along on an equal footing can they consciously resist feudal ideas.

It is believed that the influence of bourgeois ideology in marriage and family life cannot be ignored.

Only by consolidating and developing the love between husband and wife can we handle the marriage relationship well.

This is also an important foundation for a happy marriage and family.

Both husband and wife should be loyal to each other.

Socialist monogamy is the most important thing in the history of human sexual relations.

This is a remarkable change, and it is also the embodiment of socialist morality to marriage and family.

The inevitable requirement of court relationship. It requires mutual loyalty between husband and wife, that is to say

Both parties who want to get married and establish a husband-wife relationship based on love,

We should keep faith in our attitude towards love and marriage. Love is right.

The image is concrete, mainly manifested in the love in marriage.

Exclusive love and sex life, that is, during the marriage, any one

Neither party should pursue extramarital affairs or extramarital sex. man and wife

Mutual loyalty is the highest expression of love and marks a person's morality.

Noble quality, firm will and strong character. With sublimity

People with high moral character and firm will, no matter when, where and what kind of test.

Everyone can cherish their love and protect their loyalty to each other in the test. if

Either party violates the mutual loyalty of husband and wife and continues in the marriage relationship.

During our existence, we will pursue extramarital affairs and extramarital sex. That must be

It will do harm to marriage. This is not only an insult and blasphemy to love, but also

It is a violation and destruction of marriage and should be influenced by public opinion and morality.

German condemnation and even legal sanctions.

4. Husband and wife should consciously undertake marriage obligations.

The establishment of marriage relationship in contemporary society is based on love, and

Love itself has implied moral responsibility to the other party, including

Content of obligation. Therefore, obligation and love complement each other in marriage.

Auxiliary, the two complement each other and complement each other. Marriage relationship if

Without the strengthening of moral obligations, love as the basis of marriage will certainly be created.

The combination is loose. And conscious commitment and conscious performance of obligations can make

Husband and wife deepen their feelings in their mutual obligations, thus making the marriage close.

The department is relatively happy and stable. Therefore, husband and wife consciously realize and consciously

Fulfilling the responsibilities and obligations in marriage is very important for marriage.

Important significance. The performance of obligations and responsibilities requires both husband and wife in * * *

In the same life, we should contact each other, take care of each other, help each other and forgive each other.

Solution, let each other get greater spiritual progress and emotion.

Happiness. Under socialist conditions, the obligations between husband and wife are varied.

Yes, the content is also extremely rich. He runs through every aspect of husband and wife's life.

Aspects. Therefore, in the complicated real life of husband and wife, there will be commitments.

Many contradictions often lead to people's disappointment in love and marriage.

Cause emotional decline. Effective measures to solve and overcome this situation

First, cultivate the noble moral sentiments and sense of obligation of both sides, and strengthen

The concept of moral obligation between husband and wife makes the marriage relationship more perfect.

Develop in a practical and happier direction.

Fourthly, the ways and methods of building marital morality.

The construction of marriage morality depends on the perfection of family members' moral personality.

Goodness means consciously internalizing external moral norms into your own morality.

Guidelines, consciously abide by the family's moral norms and moral requirements, consciously

Consciously fulfill family moral obligations. Also depends on the external constraints of marriage, such as

Ethics, public opinion, customs and laws. special

Generally speaking, the ways and methods of building marriage ethics are as follows:

The first is school education. Most people's outlook on life, values,

The world outlook and so on are all formed at school, so I think it is necessary to put it.

Marriage is incorporated into our education system. Let students receive premarital education, tree

Establish a correct view of marriage and learn skills to deal with various problems of marriage. example

For example, how to deal with family members, especially the relationship between husband and wife and mother-in-law.

The relationship between, how to raise and educate children, how to strengthen a good family style.

A set of ... and so on. Some foreign pre-marital education can be used for reference, such as

In Florida, there are dozens of classes in high schools.

Pre-marriage preparation course, if you fail this course, you can't graduate from high school. from

Junior high school students will educate college students on the road to romantic marriage for nine weeks, so as to

What do students get from each stage (they divide marriage into four stages)

What are the fundamental problems, including the teaching of sex?

Education, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, extramarital affairs, problems after old age

Have a basic understanding of marital psychological problems. Through school marriage

Pre-education, improve and perfect the marital moral level of social members.

The second is the positive publicity of the media. The positive publicity of the media refers to society.

Newspapers, radio, television and other media should actively promote the new era.

Marriage ethics, promote the advanced model of happy marriage, and criticize species.

A wrong idea and behavior that goes against marriage morality, for some marriages.

Love, bigamy, concubinage and other third parties are involved in defining marriage.

The evaluation of marriage morality has created social public opinion and society concerned about family morality.

It will be atmospheric. In this way, we can further promote and improve the mastery of all the people.

Correct marriage ethics.

The third is severe punishment by law. Put those important things that maintain a normal society

It is wrong that the moral norms that order must abide by are incorporated into laws and regulations.

Advocate and encourage civilization while severely punishing morality and uncivilized behavior.

Moral behavior, establish social integrity, resist bad style. law

System and morality are complementary organic relations and the authority of law.

It can ensure the observance of family morality to a considerable extent. For example, new

Article 46 of the Marriage Law stipulates that one of the following circumstances will lead to divorce.

Yes, the innocent party has the right to claim damages: (1) bigamy; (2)

Having a spouse living with others; (3) committing domestic violence. this is

Is to violate or fail to fulfill the moral obligation of marriage.

Sanctions.

Fourth, all social departments and units should pay close attention to * * *. Social ministries and commissions

Door, all units such as trade unions, the Communist Youth League, women's federations, etc. You should give full play to your own.

Long, cooperate with each other, form a family moral construction network, carry out a variety of

Formal activities, such as colorful and lively activities, are loved by families.

I like to listen to hot issues in marriage and family, such as emotional dislocation.

Topics, domestic violence, divorce and other competitions.

Competitions, appraisals, cultural performances and other activities; Hold seminars to exchange experiences.

Meetings, study tours, commendation and awards and other activities. Make all members of society personally

It is in real life to participate in the practice of marriage moral construction.

Further practice and strengthen the moral construction of marriage and family.

Take the exam and contribute.

China Women's Daily, Beijing: 2000-09-09.

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