Teenagers' rebellious psychology refers to a psychological state in which people take opposite attitudes and words and deeds to each other's demands in order to maintain their self-esteem. Rebellious psychology is a kind of psychological state that often appears in the process of teenagers' growth, and it is a prominent psychological feature of teenagers of this age.
Because teenagers are psychologically? Transition period? Their sense of independence and self-awareness is increasing day by day, and they are eager to get rid of the guardianship of adults. They object to adults thinking of themselves as? Children? Pretend to be an adult. To show off your own? Extraordinary? They tend to take a critical attitude towards everything and offset the sense of oppression brought by their elders by pretending to be superior. It is precisely because they feel or worry that the outside world ignores their independent existence that they have a rebellious mentality, which is established through various means and methods? Self? Equal status with the outside world. Although rebellious psychology is not unhealthy psychology, it is abnormal psychology when it reacts strongly. Although it is different from abnormal psychology, it has some characteristics of abnormal psychology. If it is not solved in time, it will be very unfavorable for the growth of teenagers.
There are many reasons for teenagers' rebellious mentality, among which inappropriate educational methods of parents are the main reason for students' rebellious mentality.
1. Traditional ideas have influenced some parents.
China's long-standing paternalism still exists among some parents. Parents lack democratic awareness of their children's education, and always think that their children are immature, so they should absolutely obey themselves and not have their own opinions, otherwise? Against the sky? Therefore, children will not or rarely take their parents as confidence words, and are afraid of being blamed by their parents after doing something wrong. After many middle school students think that they have done something wrong, what they dislike most is their parents' accusations, and the reason for their disgust is their parents' bullying and stubbornness.
2. Parents' mistakes in understanding lead to improper educational methods.
Some parents lack common psychological knowledge, are eager to achieve success in their children's education, and adopt simple and rude methods, often ignoring their children's self-esteem and psychological endurance. Especially when their children make mistakes, instead of analyzing them and discussing remedies with them, they scold or even beat them, making them feel isolated and rebellious when they make mistakes. There is also the parents of Xiaojun mentioned earlier. They think that as long as they are subjectively good to their children, they can not pay attention to educational methods.
3. Parents and children lack two-way communication, resulting in ideological contradictions.
With the growth of high school students, their sense of independence is getting stronger and stronger, which requires them to have their own way of doing things and do not want to be controlled too much. Some parents do everything for their children's protection, so that children's desire for independence and parents' improper kindness and care will lead to ideological conflicts and contradictions. Maybe some parents seldom talk to their children because of their busy work, and just make some strict rules to restrain their children's behavior. Therefore, as children, high school students do not have a harmonious and warm family environment, lack communication with their parents, and are prone to rebellious psychology and behavior.
The performance is that you let me go east and I will go west; You asked me to do this, but I insisted on doing it; You made me believe this, and I have to believe this.
Rebellious psychology is very harmful, not only hurting parents, but also causing serious psychological burden to oneself. We should try our best to prevent rebellious psychology.
We can take a deep breath when we feel angry, or go to the bathroom to wash our faces to suppress our anger, adjust our emotions and go out to face our parents. If we feel that we can't stand our parents' nagging, we can use some clever methods to block our parents' mouths instead of just getting bored and arguing with them.
But rebellious psychology can't be said to be wrong. Relatively speaking, our parents are not saints, their views are backward, and their educational methods may sometimes be wrong. At this time, it is necessary to resist appropriately. We should communicate with our parents more, talk more, tell them more about what happened at school, make friends with them as much as possible, and let their thoughts go further and enter the thoughts of our time, otherwise their thoughts will always be traditional, and staying in the old thoughts of the old times will inevitably conflict with us.
Parents should also think more about their children and don't always blame and scold them. Communicate more with children and learn more about them. Sometimes, it is necessary to change the way of education.
Politics in the second day of junior high school 1000 words. It was quite popular on the internet some time ago. Chinese style crossing the road? This joke? Gather enough people and you can go, regardless of the traffic lights. Whether it's a yellow light or a red light, there are a group of people here anyway, and the car will definitely not dare to hit it. It is both time-saving and convenient. ? Caused a large number of netizens to sing. I have taken photos of crossing the street everywhere. In China, this kind of situation is not uncommon, even I have done it myself, not because I am greedy for a minute or two, but because everyone else has left, so I am embarrassed not to leave.
This seemingly small move has brought a series of bloody figures. Take Zhejiang Province as an example. In 20 12 years, nearly 5000 people died in traffic accidents, and about 15% involved pedestrian accidents. Accidents caused by pedestrians crossing intersections without taking crosswalks: 20 10/0,556; 20 1 1; 20 12, 50 1, resulting in 184 and 185 respectively. 2013 65438+1At 8: 35 am on October 29th, a pedestrian crossed the road isolation facilities and collided with a car. The pedestrian was injured and died after being rescued. On the evening of February 3rd 17: 45, a group of people crossed the central green belt from west to east on the Yonglin Line in Shangtian Town, Fenghua City and collided with a car. After being rescued, he died on the same day.
In Zhejiang province alone, there are so many people who die because they don't cross the road properly, but every year in the whole country? Chinese style crossing the road? The number of people taken away by death can be imagined. On the other hand, many countries have never set up red street lamps in the suburbs, but they can still ensure the speed and safety of traffic. A Chinese writer once mentioned in an interview that in the suburbs at night, even if there are not many pedestrians on the road, private cars will quietly wait for the red light to turn green.
What makes Chinese-style crossing run rampant at every intersection?
First,? Chinese style? Causes of crossing the road phenomenon
(A) the law does not blame the public for misleading.
Many people who cross the street at a red light often use the excuse that others are crossing the street, and I don't have many. Even if it is punished, everyone will be punished together, implying a meaning of winning by numbers. It is a deep-rooted concept of China people that the law does not blame the public. What many people think they can't or dare not do at ordinary times, as long as? I can do what others do, and I can do it even more if everyone does it? ,? Anyway, with so many people covering my head, I'm not the only one being investigated, am I? . People can't help asking, what does it mean that the law doesn't blame the public? Law does not blame the public. The explanation in Chinese dictionaries is that when an act has a certain group or universality, even if it contains some illegal or unreasonable factors, it is difficult for the law to punish it. Difficult punishment does not mean that this behavior is reasonable and legal. In the blind area not covered by law, we should act according to our own conscience and be a moral passer-by.
(B) the lack of laws and regulations
? Law? Why not blame the public? Explain this? Law? If there are any shortcomings, it is better to look at how foreign laws punish irregular crossing such as running red lights.
In Singapore, pedestrians ran a red light for the first time and were fined about RMB 1 000. The second and third illegal intrusion can be sentenced to six months to one year in prison. American states impose fines ranging from $2 to $50 on jaywalkers. Although the amount is relatively small, the punishment record will be recorded in the personal credit record and cannot be erased for life.
In Germany, no one dares to run a red light rashly, because those who run a red light will face serious consequences. For example, when buying a house, others can pay in installments, and those who run red lights must pay immediately. Others can borrow money from the bank for a long time, but not those who run red lights. The bank's loan interest rate for those who run red lights is much higher than that for those who don't. Germans make such regulations because they think that people who run red lights don't care about their lives, are dangerous people, and their lives are in danger at any time.
It is not difficult to see that the state punishes people who run red lights, not only because their actions are illegal, but also because of the safety of others. Their punishment measures are also linked to future jobs, loans and personal credit.
In contrast, Chinese laws stipulate that pedestrians violate traffic signals, disobey the traffic police's instructions, do not walk on sidewalks, do not divide motor vehicle lanes and non-motor vehicle lanes, and do not walk on sidewalks, and punish 5 yuan? 50 yuan will do. What such regulations lack is the people-oriented concept, and the fine of 5-50 yuan is only symbolic. Making people-oriented laws is the key to solve the problem.
(C) the epitome of social mentality
Traffic rules are the most common public rules of modern people. Pedestrians, non-motor vehicles and motor vehicles go their own ways, and the roads can be safe and smooth only if they obey the rules and discipline. But the reality is that pedestrians complain that drivers are rampaging and even turning zebra crossings into death lines; Drivers complain that pedestrians don't obey traffic rules and walk at will. Behind these complaints, it is not difficult to see the anxiety of China people. Drivers, cyclists and pedestrians. Everyone's heart is anxious and impetuous. Everyone wants to walk faster. This mentality can be seen everywhere in daily life: many people usually go to work and always want to use the back door to improve efficiency, for fear that they will not catch up with a better life if they are late; A few minutes before getting off the bus, the whole carriage began to stir, accompanied by one after another. Get out of the way I'm getting off. Who stepped on my foot? The door opened slowly, as if it had disappeared after moving the door very late. Come to think of it carefully, actually crossing the road is the epitome of society. Fast-paced life seems to have become synonymous with development, but I didn't know that people from China and China were here? High speed? At the same time, it also lost the sense of security and affection of slow life. Why don't you wait there for a minute, see the scenery you've neglected and listen to the long-lost music?
More and more people are beginning to realize the harm of Chinese-style crossing the road, and how to rectify Chinese-style crossing the road has also been put on the agenda.
Second,? Chinese style? Radical measures to cross the road
(1) Strengthen legislation and law enforcement.
Although there is no need to pursue Singapore's laws and policies, such as a fine of 1000 yuan for running a red light, and then direct imprisonment, more severe measures must be taken to abolish the official persuasive provisions of the fine of 5-50 yuan. As for the formulation of the law, we can refer to the punishment measures in Germany and link this red light running behavior with future loans, personal credit and even employment. I think for a better future, most people are willing to wait for that minute quietly. At present, running red lights is very common, and law enforcement after legislation is the key to completely solve the problem of Chinese-style crossing the road. I can't help but think of the drunk driving events that have been hotly debated in these years. In the past, drunk driving often happened, and the punishment after being arrested was generally a fine. However, the new policy is that those who drive a motor vehicle after drinking alcohol will be detained for more than one month and less than three months, and a fine of more than 200 yuan and less than 500 yuan will be imposed; Anyone who drives a motor vehicle after being drunk shall be restrained by the traffic administrative department of the public security organ until he wakes up, and shall be detained for less than fifteen days and temporarily detained for more than three months and less than six months, and shall be fined not less than five hundred yuan but not more than two thousand yuan. Driving and operating a motor vehicle after drinking, temporarily withholding the motor vehicle driver's license for three months and imposing a fine on 500 yuan; Anyone who drives or operates a motor vehicle after being drunk shall be restrained by the traffic administrative department of the public security organ until he wakes up, detained for less than 15 days, temporarily detained for six months and fined 2000 yuan. Anyone who drives a motor vehicle under the influence of drunkenness as stipulated in the preceding two paragraphs and is punished more than twice in one year shall have his motor vehicle driving license revoked and shall not drive or operate a motor vehicle for five years. After the introduction of such strict measures, the number of drunk driving accidents has obviously decreased. It is believed that the handling of drunk driving has set an example for the radical cure of Chinese crossing the road, and at the same time it has also given a warning to law enforcement departments and realized the importance of law enforcement.
(B) improve the awareness of civilized travel
Whether adults or children, people with a little common sense know that it is uncivilized to run a red light, but in real life, there are still many people, especially adults, who know that they can't do this. What's more, some adults drag their children through the red light, which has a very bad influence. It can be seen that strengthening civilized transportation education is the top priority and a compulsory course for this generation and the next generation. Let everyone know that the safety of others is in your hands, and your safety is in others' hands. Running a red light will only increase your chances of accidental death.
Fortunately, many people are in action: after school, volunteers are in action, and the pick-up at the intersection reminds drivers how lovely and fragile the fresh life is; During the rush hour, the traffic police are in action, tirelessly holding a signal stick and directing pedestrians to cross the road in an orderly manner. Among them, we should also take action and patiently tell others that it is worthwhile and beautiful to wait for safety.
(C) improve the level of transportation planning
Behind the phenomenon of running a red light, the traffic jam in China is in front of the public. Pedestrians and non-motor vehicles grab the road, and motor vehicles compete with pickup trucks. On the long trunk line, the horn sounded impatiently for a long time from time to time, the time for pedestrians to cross the road shrank again and again, and the behavior of vehicles rushing over while stepping on the yellow light made everyone want to cross the road. If the traffic is continuous and orderly, the green light is enough and no one is disturbed, who will cross the road in Chinese style? The absence of this phenomenon in foreign countries is inseparable from good urban traffic planning. Expressway, overpass, expressway and overpass are all natural, and all roads lead to Rome. Even in the city center, there will be no traffic jams. On the other hand, in China, take the downtown of Ningbo as an example. Less than 50 meters away, the bus will never leave without 20 minutes. Obviously, it is inevitable to improve the level of urban transportation planning.
I believe that after the combination of law and morality, Chinese-style crossing will gradually disappear at the crossroads, replaced by the improvement of national quality and the improvement of laws and regulations.