The first article,
Recently, I read several articles, communicated with friends and talked about a topic-family style tutoring. I couldn't help but pick up my humble pen and write a few words to express my humble opinion.
Family style, also known as family style, is a traditional atmosphere, style and fashion formed by a family or family over the years, bearing a family or family's lifestyle, attitude, cultural atmosphere, ideas, values and outlook on life, and forming a unique feature of a family or family. After combing and reading the history a little, it is not difficult to find that many long-lasting and prominent families have their own secret of prosperity-family precepts, which can also be called family style, which runs through the glory of the whole family or family.
The revitalization and development of a family can not be separated from the family style and family education created by leading the family to success. The formation of family style and family education will experience the accumulation and efforts of several generations or even generations. It sums up the gains and losses and experiences of countless families in previous lives, and becomes a unique magic weapon suitable for one's own family or family reality, leading the family or family to glory.
Standing in the long river of history, we review and summarize countless once brilliant families and the long-standing quintessence of Chinese culture. Their family styles are different, and many of them can be called the essence of classics: family, rule the country and level the world; Mother-in-law tattooed "loyalty to the country" for her children, and "loyalty" is the family style of Yue family; Lin Zexu lived a simple life and was thrifty. He believes that "more morality and more money will damage his ambition; You are stupid. If you have more money, you will increase. " Lin advocated "frugality" family style: Zeng Guofan believed that "diligence" was the first meaning of life and advocated "diligence" as Zeng's family style; ……
The formation of a good family style is often formed through the establishment of the founder and the unremitting efforts and practice of several generations or even generations. Through the atmosphere of family education, from father to son, from son to grandson, and from son to grandson to grandson, we continue to practice in dribs and drabs of life, forming a silent, silent teaching, the most intuitive, direct, basic and frequent family education, in the process of practice from generation to generation. Family style is the most important and irreplaceable spiritual wealth of a family or family; It pervades the whole family or family, affecting every family member, and Hui Ze is a member of the family; Family style is also the soul of a family, supporting the progress and development of the family.
In traditional China, everyone advocates and yearns for a family style with rich background and strong cultural atmosphere; This is also one of the goals pursued by many people. For families and families with sincere family style, many people worship, yearn for, and even desire to enter such families and become a member of them. This is also the foundation for families and families to be prominent, lasting and prosperous.
A good family style can shape noble character and elegant manners, become a moral model that everyone yearns for, stand out in the whole social circle and be imitated by many people and families.
Families or families with good family style, their children understand many principles of being a man and doing things as soon as possible, and understand their responsibilities and missions; Know fear; Know how to cherish time and study hard while it is early; It is even harder to know that it is difficult to start a business, and it is not difficult to know the difficulties ... Everyone who grew up under the influence of such a family knows that success lies in accumulation, in hard work, and in the fact that diligence can make up for mistakes; Understand that diligence is the first essence of life, diligent in learning, diligent in thinking and diligent in efforts. ...
Growing up in a family with a good family style is the greatest honor in life. I can know life before others. People in this family love life, love life, have rich and colorful ideas, have their own life goals, and live a meaningful and fulfilling life every day; They are healthy, neither impatient nor supercilious, and they always exude a unique taste-gentle and not vulgar at all; Code of conduct, open-minded, familiar with things, aboveboard, always follow the trend, have a good demeanor, and never be petty; Life is famous for its frugality and simplicity, and it is not greedy for luxury; Be honest, be what you seem, pay attention to self-cultivation, pay attention to process, let nature take its course, and don't be eager for quick success; Take good advice and carry things with virtue.
In life, everyone's world outlook, outlook on life, values, personality characteristics, moral cultivation and treating people with things are branded with family style. Although family style is family style, it is a melting pot for casting children into talents. Family style is like a tree, a century-old tree with lush foliage and children and grandchildren in its shadow. Diligence in study, hard work, consistency in words and deeds, respect for the old and love for the young, striving for career, friendship and harmony, democracy and dedication, and elegant writing can all become the necessary family style that families should inherit.
Since ancient times, cultural families have paid attention to the inheritance of "family style", which can be found anytime and anywhere in thousands of years of Chinese civilization. Long-term prominent families in history will have their own unique family style, family training and family education, which is a model for future generations to learn. Family style, family education and family education spirit are reflected in many classics and family education models such as Mandarin, Analects of Confucius, Family Instructions of Yan Family and Letters from Zeng Guofan. ...
Family style is very important for the development and continuation of the family, the crystallization and pillar of the construction and development of family culture, the concentration and characteristics of family spirit, the external characteristics of family culture, the cell of social spiritual civilization, the pillar of social harmony and progress, and the premise and foundation of a country's prosperity. Many families need to build the soul of family style to support them, get out of the short-lived family and family glory, and get out of the strange circle of life of "being rich for three generations, but poor for three generations".
Good family style inheritance is the premise of the healthy development of social fashion. Every family should establish its own family style and tutor. As the core of the family, it is duty-bound to shoulder this important task, form the cohesion of the family and promote the progress and development of social fashion. Contribute to the realization of the great "Chinese dream, my dream"; Thousands of families have joined forces to become a powerful force for rejuvenating China.
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Family is the cell of society. A good family style will inevitably form a good social atmosphere, which is a necessary condition for the prosperity of the nation and the country.
Our Chinese nation has a tradition of attaching importance to family style, paying attention to morality, managing the family diligently, attaching importance to family ties and strictly educating children. With the development of society, we should inherit and carry forward this fine tradition under new conditions.
First, family style/family education argumentative papers factual arguments
1, Sima Guang taught his son well.
Sima Guang, whose real name is Shi Jun, is called Mr. Sushui. Northern Song Dynasty statesman, historian, official to prime minister.
Although Sima Guang is in a high position, he is strict with his godson and attaches great importance to cultivating children's awareness of self-discipline and self-improvement. He wrote an article that has been handed down to this day, "frugality to show health." He summed up the lessons of many sons of high officials and dignitaries in history who were decadent and decadent because they could not stand on their own feet in the shadow of their ancestors, and warned his sons: "Virtue comes from thrift." "frugality is famous, extravagance is defeated."
Because of well-educated children, Sima Guang's sons are humble and polite, and have a successful life without relying on their father's power or family wealth. As a result, "people saw Rong Zhi on the road, although they didn't fully understand Sima's son".
Ji Hongchang didn't forget his father's instructions.
Ji Hongchang was born in Fugou, Henan. One of the leaders of the Chasui Anti-Japanese Coalition. He was a soldier in Feng Yuxiang's army in his early years. He was promoted to battalion commander and division commander for his bravery and good fighting, and later served as commander of * * * * * and chairman of Ningxia provincial government.
1920, 25-year-old Ji Hongchang was a battalion commander at that time, and his father Ji Junting was seriously ill. He said to Ji Hongchang, who came to visit, "Being an official should be innocent and modest, and think more of the poor in the world. Being an official is not allowed to get rich. Otherwise, I can't sleep in the grave. " Ji Hongchang promised tearfully.
After Ji Hongchang's father died, he wrote the words "Officials don't get rich" on the porcelain bowls, and asked the ceramic factory to follow the example of batch firing and distribute the porcelain bowls to all officers and men. At the meeting to distribute porcelain bowls, he said, "Although I am Ji Hongchang, I will never oppress the people and rob them of their wealth. I must remember my father's teachings. Being an official is not to make a fortune, but to do good for the poor in the world. Please supervise me. "
Ji Hongchang's words and deeds were consistent, and he was innocent and upright all his life, serving the people everywhere. When Japanese imperialism invaded China and the people were in dire straits, he opposed Chiang Kai-shek's surrender policy and rose up against Japan. At the age of 39, he was killed by * * * * reactionaries.
The godson of the president is independent.
Former US President Ronald Reagan is not only famous, but also rich. But he strictly requires children to stand on their own feet and never let them rely on their parents. After his son lost his job, he lived on welfare while looking for a job.
Second, the family style/family education argumentative theoretical arguments
1, there are no virtuous fathers and brothers in life, and there are no strict teachers and friends outside, but few can succeed. Princess Luzon
Sun's posthumous son, my descendants are innocent. Biographies of Liang Shu Zhou She and Xu Mian
3, children and grandchildren have their own children and grandchildren, don't be a scapegoat for children and grandchildren. Yuan Anonymous "Jade Bridge"
Children are people who create industries, not people who inherit them. Tao Xingzhi's How to Choose Books
Anyone who doesn't love himself really lacks the qualification to be a father. Lu Xun's How Do We Be Fathers Now
6, wealth is meaningless, but the family is embarrassed. Integration of ancient and modern books, family paradigm
7, don't be suspicious, don't listen to the language of alienation, don't identify things, don't take advantage of the public. Integration of ancient and modern books, family paradigm
8. Nine times out of ten people who make a fortune for their children and grandchildren will be defeated. Song Linbu's Peace of Mind
9. Father loves son, doctrine. Song Sima Guang's "On the Ceremony of Princess House"
10, family members are just people. [Russia] Ye Futushenko's family
1 1. The elder should be the mentor and negotiator, not the commander. Lu Xun's How Do We Be Fathers Now
12. After giving birth to a child, how should we educate the child so that he can become a complete person in the future? Lu Xun's miscellaneous feelings 33
13, the family gives birth to a dutiful son, and the family gives birth to a demon. Chinese proverb
14, national prestige can't be hurt internally, and family shame can't be publicized. Chinese proverb
15, quarreling does not support the family, and supporting the family does not quarrel. Chinese proverb
16, the hatred between his relatives is more dangerous than scorpions. Arabic proverb
17, to live in a discordant family is to live in hell. Turkish proverb
18, a gentleman's house must have tolerance. Integration of ancient and modern books, family model
19, family harmony, preventing neighbors from bullying; Neighbors live in harmony and guard against foreign bullying. Qing Fan Yin's Le Yan
20. Parents' beloved son has a far-reaching influence. Zhao Ce IV, Warring States Policy
2 1, the latter because of Dexing, the latter because of wealth. Song Linbu's Peace of Mind
22, the east is good, the west is good, not as good as home. John, a farmer in Si Buzhen
The second article
Family style, the invisible power to shape children.
Family life style and cultural atmosphere constitute family style. As the name implies, family style is the ethos, style and fashion of a family. Roland, a famous French writer, once said: "Life is not an individual who can grow up in isolation. As it grows, it collects flowers and leaves along the way. It is also like a sensitive camera, recording what you see and hear along the way. Every minute and inch of daily life is a fiber that weaves individuality. Everyone's words and deeds in the environment are building materials that are integrated into the growth process, infecting this person's thoughts, feelings and behaviors and affecting this person's attitude towards life. The influence of the environment on a person is more important than tangible imitation. " This also shows the importance of family style.
Family style is a comprehensive educational force, a synthesis of psychological factors such as thoughts, living habits, emotions, attitudes, spirits and tastes. Such as language environment, emotional environment, interpersonal environment and moral environment. Home is the first space for growth, and children will be branded with family style everywhere.
Family style is a potential invisible force, which exerts a subtle influence on children's mind and shapes their personality in daily life. It is a silent education, a silent classic, a silent force, and the most basic, direct and frequent education. Its influence on children is all-round, and children's world outlook, outlook on life, personality characteristics, moral cultivation, dealing with people, living habits and other aspects will be branded with family style. It can be said that what kind of family style, there are what kind of children.
So how should we create a good growth space for children? Noble spiritual taste
Parents should pursue noble spiritual interests, take the lead in enriching, elegant and enriching the spiritual life at home and prevent spiritual pollution. Some parents let low-level tastes flood the family, which has a very bad influence on their children, such as smoking, drinking and gambling. .....
Parents can influence their children with good habits such as reading, enjoying flowers and listening to music. Children who are exposed to it will inevitably be influenced by aesthetic taste.
Strong learning atmosphere
"Style of writing" is an important type of family style and an important aspect of cultivating children's temperament and cultivating children's literacy. Love learning, advocate knowledge, and make the family full of learning atmosphere, which is a pursuit of knowledge. Under the influence of this environment, children will become knowledgeable "gentlemen" or "ladies" over time. The information age requires us to build a learning family. No matter what work parents do, they should love learning, advocate knowledge and make the family full of learning atmosphere.
A child won the first prize in the composition contest. People think that his parents are editors. They must have revised his composition and given him guidance. However, as soon as he learned, his parents didn't give him a "small stove" at all: "I am busy every day, how can I have time to tutor him!" So, where's the secret? It's the same atmosphere-every day my mother is prone on the table to revise the manuscript, my father is immersed in writing, and there are guests at home. It's all about how to modify the article, about "structure" and "center". This "style of writing" at home edifies children, and over time, children like writing. Harmonious family relations
The important foundation of a good family style is unity, equality and harmonious family relations. Abnormal family relations, mutual accusations, complaints and fights make children feel indifferent, cold and hostile, leaving painful scars in their hearts and even affecting their academic performance.
In order to create a good environment for children's growth, family members should live in harmony, care for each other and love each other. Parents should also be democratic to their children, actively listen to his opinions and negotiate on an equal footing. Family members should pay attention to emotional input, which is a kind of heart-to-heart interaction. "Love should be said and done!" Give each other warmth and care. For the sake of children, we must strengthen the unity among family members and create harmony for children.
Answer the family environment.
If parents do not pay attention to the construction of interpersonal relationships in the family, do not pay attention to emotional input, and couples quarrel or even start fighting, children will form barbaric behavior in the fighting environment. A repeat student said, "I can't help repeating a grade." I can't study at home. " Mom and dad quarrel all day, either breaking glass or throwing things. Sometimes when mom doesn't come home for a few days, dad takes it out on me. Sometimes I see my father sitting in the corner smoking for hours, and I am too bored to study. "Do you think about it, how can such a family relationship cultivate educated and civilized people?
Besides, there can be no singing and laughing in the family. To enrich children's lives, there must be a healthy spiritual life in the family. People need both material life and spiritual life; Need to study and work, but also need to play and rest; Need to be serious, lively and humorous. The family atmosphere is too dull, which is not conducive to the formation of children's good character.
Some parents worry that laughing and playing with their children is "the majesty of parents". In fact, this idea is simply nonsense. Playing happily with children helps to adjust the feelings of two generations. Children will listen to you when they are around you. If parents always keep a straight face, children will stay away from them. In short, it is necessary to make the family full of joy and interest, so as to adjust the emotions of children and adults, realize family happiness and improve family cohesion, thus forming a comprehensive family education force and promoting the healthy and happy growth of children.
To build a harmonious family style, we can start from the following aspects:
Family members should be rational and be good at regulating their emotions;
Parents should not quarrel in front of their children, but love each other;
Parents should keep close relationship with their children;
Family members should respect and care for the elderly;
When children's friends visit, parents should show warm welcome;
Live in harmony with neighbors;
Parents should be cheerful and optimistic, and don't show sadness and depression in front of their children;
Family members should be warm and sincere to their guests;
Compassion, care and help people in trouble;
You can't be indifferent to anyone, you should treat people in a friendly manner.
The third article
Maybe you will ask, what is family style? I want to tell you that the family style is to wait for the elders to eat first, to be strong and so on. As long as these things are done well, they are the embodiment of good family style. More about family style helps me grow up in Giant Composition Network.
The school conducted a family style survey. "What is family style?" On the elevator home, I couldn't wait to ask my mother.
Mother smiled and said, "You should pay attention to observation. In fact, every day, your behavior reflects our family style. "
Why don't I remember? I scratched my head hard and looked at my father doubtfully. Father smiled lazily and said, "Go back and ask Grandpa."
I rolled my eyes helplessly, knowing that they would never tell me. You have to observe for yourself!
When I got home, my grandfather had prepared a delicious meal. I took chopsticks first, ready to storm the food. At this time, my father frowned and said, "Did you go on a family trip?" Grandpa hasn't served yet, how can he eat first? "
Oh, I suddenly realized that this is family style! I quickly put down my chopsticks, went to the kitchen to help grandpa bring out the last dish, and sat straight at the table. When grandpa sat down, grandpa said, "It's time to eat." I started munching on food with chopsticks. At this time, my father patted my head and said, "Yes, this is a filial and polite child!" " "
"Then what's the family style in our family?" I munched on my food and mumbled.
Dad said: "Eating without talking, sleeping without talking, this is family style!" " However, there are other family styles that you can experience when practicing. "Dad said, and the thief smiled insidiously twice. I suddenly felt cold in my back and my goose bumps fell out. How terrible!
It's almost half past eight, and my mother said, "Son, it's time to practice." This voice is gentle like the voice of an angel, but I really feel like the devil is calling me!
"Oh, no!" I gave a groan of pain, reluctantly put down the book in my hand and slowly began to change clothes.
After half an hour of kicking, bending over and cheating, I ushered in the ultimate test-cheating against the wall! This kind of pain comes from the bottom of my heart and runs into every pore in my heart. I am too painful to speak or even scream. I just want to end this demon moment quickly! But my mother said, "There are still five minutes. Hold on, the art troupe is waving to you! " ! Do you want to listen to a song to relax? "Her voice is very gentle, but I am really in pain! In order to enter the art troupe, I have to grit my teeth and insist, and I will endure it! I began to take a deep breath, adjust my mood and let my mother play a song for me. Slowly, I won't feel any pain. I know I've exceeded the limit for tonight-my legs are numb!
At this moment, dad pushed the door and came in. He smiled and said, "Today is good. I insist on more and more time! " Judging from your appearance, it is possible to hold on for another 80 or 90 minutes! Didn't you ask me what family style is? This is our family style, eating hard and having perseverance! "
A spring breeze blows in my heart, and occasionally, it turns out that this is also a family style. I did a good job!
This is our family style. What about yours?