Serious words are boring.
Some people say that friendship is a useful savings in life. This savings is to give all your help in a difficult situation, sincere help when you fall, and stern advice on the wrong road. When encountering all kinds of setbacks, it is often those in power who turn a blind eye to bystanders. Therefore, when you are in a quagmire of confusion, a sincere advice from a good friend is particularly important.
A gentleman's mistakes are like food for the sun and the moon. Everyone sees them, and what's more, everyone admires them. Then, if you don't know your own mistakes, how can you correct them and be respected? Here, you need a good friend to remind you that once you know your mistakes and correct them, your original personality will shine and you will become a gentleman. This is the essence of Confucianism and the benefit of good friends' disobedience.
Go back along the long river of history, at the south corner of the river, under Wu Jun's account. If it weren't for Lu Su's direct remonstrance, how could he be a general with both wisdom and courage? When did you meet Lv Meng again? Three days in never say goodbye, is to scratch your eyes. Why does Big Brother watch things late? Amazing? How has Wu Can been invincible for many years? Without Lu Su's advice to persuade him to study and learn to be a soldier, China's history records only a foolish man. In the past, it was an insult to say that a general didn't know Chinese characters, but Monroe accepted and corrected his shortcomings, which changed his life and even changed the rise and fall of Wu for a period of time. This shows the value of irony.
Focusing on the contemporary era, there are also many wise men in modern society who can reflect on themselves every day. No group can live without the most basic masses. Under the same leadership system, different leaders will always have two completely different results. This law is universal among families, enterprises and even countries, and it either flourishes or declines and splits. In the journey of life, there can be no winners. After failure, only a truly successful wise man can see the root cause of being buried under objective factors and correct it. But most people only see the objective factors that rely on the temptation of the world of mortals, and find a natural excuse for the next failure. In European and American countries, people often have the habit of worship. They stood in a quiet church, recalled what they had done in the past week, prayed silently for those who were dissatisfied, and sincerely repented if they had done something wrong. In this relatively quiet environment, people in European and American countries have a higher quality to see the deepest essence of the situation and not repeat the same mistakes, which is also one of the reasons. This shows the importance of knowing your mistakes. However, because of the different environment, we seldom have such a time and place around us, so we need others to help us see through the heavy smoke of selfish desires, jealousy, stubbornness, laziness and other emotions in the depths of our souls, so that we can see the essence of things clearly, and other people's suggestions are undoubtedly the most effective and fastest.
? Good medicine tastes bitter and is good for illness, but advice when most unpleasant is good for action. ? Others point out your shortcomings, although it is not pleasant to hear, but it is undoubtedly the most effective way to change us.
Bad advice helps me.
In a person's life, the tide rises and falls. When the tide is high, we are all very excited and have smiles on our faces. Maybe some people will wake up laughing when they fall asleep. That feeling is like flying in the air and swimming in the ocean. But when the tide ebbs, the situation is completely different. You may cry a few times, you may commit suicide by jumping off a building, you may quarrel and fight with others.
But is this a long-term solution? No, of course not. We should listen to other people's opinions, just as Zhuge Liang warned Liu Chan to open his mind and regard difficulties as challenges in "A Model".
Come to think of it carefully, I just heard what my friends and relatives didn't like, and I got to this point today. If it weren't for those unpleasant ears, I think I might still be trapped in the ebb and flow of the tide. Therefore, at the low tide, that unpleasant remark is not necessarily sarcasm, on the contrary, it may be advice.
Even when the tide is high, we need to listen to the advice of our relatives and friends, although their words are sometimes exciting and sometimes frustrating. ? It is inappropriate to belittle yourself and lose the meaning of metaphor. ? This is the experience of a middle school student.
When I succeed, I often can't help laughing. But when I am in a good mood, my friends and relatives usually say something disappointing. Now think about those words, think about me now. I think those disappointing words are good medicine.
Good medicine tastes bitter and is good for illness, but advice when most unpleasant is good for action. Whether it is disappointing words at low tide or sarcastic words at low tide, it is good for us. It is these words that inspire me to move forward and help me grow.
earnest words offend the ear
Yingying moonlight, I hold the clearest one; In the afterglow, I hold the warmest light; Burning red leaves, I picked up the most brilliant one; A thousand words, I listen to the most faithful sentence.
Is woodpecker really good for Magnolia? People? Orioles can only sing and eat insects on leaves, but they don't know that the real threat to Magnolia is the insects growing inside the body. If we don't get rid of them, magnolia will die one day. Woodpeckers can eat worms in magnolia, just as others point out the most fatal shortcomings and problems to us. They are all people who are really good to us. As the saying goes, a good medicine tastes bitter and is good for illness, but advice when unpleasant is good for action.
Li Shimin in the Tang Dynasty was good at listening to other people's opinions, and Wei Zhi was the one who gave him advice. The story of the emperor and courtiers was sung through the ages. On one occasion, Taizong came back from the imperial court and said angrily to his queen. I have to kill this farmer. ? The queen was very surprised and asked who made the emperor angry. Taizong said, besides Wei Zhi, who else can point out my mistakes and humiliate me in front of officials? ? Hearing this, the queen went into the harem and put on her royal clothes. Emperor Taizong was puzzled, and the queen said, I heard that only a monarch can have a minister. How can I not congratulate the emperor? ? Emperor Taizong dismissed the idea of killing Wei Zhi.
Good advice and advice are honest advice. Advice has no flowery rhetoric, no emotional exaggeration and no flattering intention. The suggestion sounds uncomfortable, and may even be harsh, hurting people's superficial self-esteem. In fact, advice is unpleasant, but also heartfelt words and words of salvation. The power of good advice is self-evident. Good advice can help us to be alert to our own problems, remind us of the coming dangers, wake up from the confusion of good and evil, and escape from detours and dangers.