First, we must first make clear what is "knowing people" and "what" people; What is "self-knowledge"? Know what you are. (1) He who "knows people" knows other people's living habits, humanity, style and talents. Know who, ordinary people, friends, subordinates, bosses, opponents, enemies, etc. (2) People who "know themselves" know themselves, their own advantages and disadvantages, how much they are capable of, what they can do and how many things they can do.
Second, we should be clear about why we should "know people" and "know ourselves". (1) "Knowing people" means communicating with people. For example, to "know" ordinary people means to "choose good and follow it, and change bad and follow it"; "Knowing" friends is to exchange feelings and support each other; To "know" subordinates is to teach students in accordance with their aptitude and give full play to their talents; To "know" superiors is to be appreciated and to give play to one's abilities and talents; To "know" opponents and enemies is to seize their weaknesses and attack their shortcomings, so as to surpass opponents, defeat enemies, and preserve, develop and strengthen themselves. (2) "Self-knowledge" is to deal with people better. Only by knowing your weight can you give yourself an accurate positioning-if you are an infantry, you will willingly obey the command and charge ahead; If you are a marshal, you know how to make good use of people and command thousands of troops. ⑶ The purpose of "knowing yourself and yourself" is to realize the ideal and create brilliance. For example, Liu Bei became emperor for two generations because he knew Zhuge Liang, and Zhuge Liang died because he knew Liu Bei. On the contrary, Ah Q was beaten because he didn't know the fake foreign devil, and was punched because he didn't know Wang Hu.
Third, clarify the relationship between "knowing people and knowing friends". To sum up, there are five points: don't know people and don't know people, know people and don't know people, know people and don't know people, know people and know people for better understanding. The specific breakdown is as follows: (1) I think I know people, but I overestimate my subordinates. For example, Wang Zhao's extensive use of Zhao Kuo led to the fiasco of Changping World War I, which accelerated the demise of Zhao. He thinks he knows people, but he actually despises his men, so that their talents can't be put to good use, and they are finally used by opponents, such as Chen Ping and Han Xin under Xiang Yu. (3) Overestimate yourself and underestimate your opponent. For example, Ma Su confidently guarded the street pavilion and lost his head. (4) People who think they don't need to know. For example, Xiang Yu knows that Fan Zeng is talented, but he doesn't need to be loyal. 5. Look at yourself wrongly and generalize, such as talented Li Bai and Du Fu, who have been trying to be officials all their lives, and the result is that they are tired all their lives without an "official". [6] Look down on yourself, lack self-confidence, and feel depressed when encountering difficulties, setbacks and even pressure. At one time, he was incompetent and jealous of talent. Like Yuan Shao, he was "rich in appearance and jealous in heart", trusting others and guessing his own heart (his old subordinates later defected to Cao Cao's Yu Xun). If you have self-knowledge, you should know people and be good at their duties-a good bird chooses wood to live in, such as Guo Jia and Yu Xun in the Three Kingdoms who abandoned Yuan Shao and voted for Cao Cao. Levies he is incompetent but knows how to make good use of people, for example, Liu Bang, "strategizing, winning thousands of miles away", he used Sean; "Town country, comfort people, feed, never stop", he used Xiao He; "Even a million troops will win the battle and attack." He used Han Xin. ⑽ Know how to make good use of people and deliberately use imbeciles. In today's world, some leaders deliberately use stupid people for fear that their subordinates will surpass themselves. ⑾ Camouflage yourself by knowing others, and compare your boss's brilliance with your own stupidity, so as to gain the favor and appreciation of the leaders. ⑿ Know yourself and yourself, and you will win every battle. For example, Zhuge Liang went out of Qishan six times to repay Liu Bei's kindness and died five times. [13] Know yourself and know yourself, fight every battle, and fully demonstrate your strengths. For example, Tao Yuanming knew it was useless to be an official in the troubled Eastern Jin Dynasty, so he lived in seclusion and picked chrysanthemums in the mountains and eventually became a poem. [14] Know a friend, but regret it because of greed. For example, Fu Cha, the king of Wu, knew that Gou Jian had destroyed Wu's heart, but he didn't take it to heart because of his skill of "winning several battles".
Fourth, how can we know people and ourselves? (1) Know people by listening to their words, observing their colors, observing their actions and knowing their nature. In Zhuge Liang's words, ask him right and wrong, observe his ambition, the poor observe his change with words, ask him what he knows and what he can do, talk about his courage to deal with disasters, observe his nature to be drunk, observe his sincerity to benefit the face, and observe his faith to take things after. ("Jiang Yuan? Know human nature) (2) such a confidant: people-oriented, taking history as a mirror and taking things as a mirror.
5. Writing an argumentative essay on this topic can be deepened from different levels to highlight the breadth and depth of the article. When demonstrating, we can either cite the events of the ancients and celebrities to make negative arguments, or talk about some people's wrong remarks in reality, such as "Know yourself and know yourself, that's a big man's business. I am an ordinary person, but why should I know others? " Start refuting. To write a narrative, you only need to grasp one level and try to write it thoroughly.
For example, to deal with the relationship between classmates, we might as well look at Journey to the West.
The school is a small society, but the sparrow is small and complete. Studying and living in the small society of school, although there is no intrigue in the workplace, no intrigue in the shopping mall, and no life-and-death on the battlefield, students also need to know the rules and methods of survival and master some survival skills. Only in this way can campus life be smooth, students can study happily, and they can embark on a happy sunshine avenue in the college entrance examination.
If the college entrance examination is compared to going to the Western Heaven to learn Buddhist scriptures, then the teacher is the Tang Priest who nags all day, and the students are of course the three disciples of Tang Priest. In the study and life on campus, if students are classified according to their personality and learning conditions, they can also be divided into the Monkey King, Pig Bajie and Friar Sand. To deal with the relationship between classmates, students may wish to learn from the three disciples of Tang Priest in Journey to the West.
Students in the Monkey King should be those with excellent academic performance and good personal conditions. They already belong to the key "big brother" and "big sister" in the class. Although they may be a little arrogant and like to tell others what to do, they will never be separated from their classmates or arrogant. Moreover, most of these students dare to take responsibility, and they can do anything without hesitation for the benefit of the class and classmates. They attach importance to feelings and righteousness, and they are indomitable spirits. They are outstanding in the hearts of classmates, and they are young heroes worshipped by everyone.
Zhu Bajie's students are not as good at martial arts as the Monkey King. They study hard and practice hard, and they are not as good as their younger brother Friar Sand. Apart from loving food, playing tricks and being a little horny, it seems difficult for people to find some advantages of Pig Bajie that people can see, touch and scream. In fact, Pig Bajie is not without its merits. His greatest advantage is that he is a little "smart" and has a high emotional intelligence. On the way to the Western Heaven to learn Buddhist scriptures, he got along with Friar Sand in the Monkey King, not with the Monkey King, but with a hero who didn't suffer immediate losses. If you can hide, hide. If you can't hide, ask Master Tang Priest to uphold justice. Getting along with the sand monk is not just bullying. In the later life, this kind of person must be exquisite in all directions and stand firm for many years.
Of course, there are also sand monks in school life. This kind of students have no obvious characteristics and specialties. They are generally resigned to their fate and work hard, and their academic performance is generally not very good. On the way to learn the scriptures, I don't compete with my eldest brother for power, nor with my second brother for profit. They only know how to do their job diligently and shoulder the heavy burden in obscurity. As long as such students can keep silent and turn a blind eye to things outside the window, they will certainly get a positive result in the college entrance examination and live happily in the end. In fact, the ultimate goal of dealing with the relationship between classmates is to do a good job in school life, which is the correct learning way of school life. Students should never put the cart before the horse. They went in the wrong direction and stepped on the wrong foot on the way to learn the scriptures.