Think of a movie clip I saw before: a person accidentally dropped a little ink on a Chinese painting, and someone lamented that "what a beautiful painting was destroyed." However, the painter did not blame him, but picked up the brush and decorated the dots. A fishing boat with a reflection of water ripples is driving on the "water surface" of Chinese painting, and some people are amazed: "The painting is alive!" If we can dilute and decorate such "black spots" in our teaching life, what kind of pictures will we see?
Yang Yang is a child who seldom talks and doesn't like operation. If he is one minute late, his father will burst into tears. I have encouraged, praised and even criticized, but it has not changed. Once, I saw the famous pygmalion effect: the positive comments of others and myself are a great motivation.
Therefore, in a ten-minute conversation on Friday, I deliberately suggested that Yang Yang be a "special baby". Please tell us his advantages. At first, everyone was at a loss, and slowly you said one by one: he painted and colored with great care; The figures he wrote are very nice; He never competes with his companions for toys; As a "father", he will take good care of the baby ... as long as he looks carefully, there will always be some advantages hidden under the "black spots". Encouraged by his peers, Yang Yang gained a sense of self-worth. Wearing the sign of "special baby", he proudly distributed surgical materials for his peers and actively helped peers who had difficulties. Even though his father was a few minutes late, he learned to wait patiently.
Appreciation is a kind of dedication, a kind of fragrance, a kind of communication and understanding, a kind of trust and blessing. Yang Yang's "black spots" are shrinking, while Yang Yang's "white paper" is expanding. Nowadays, Yang Yang loves talking, expressing and being confident, and has entered a virtuous circle of "success-self-motivation-confidence".
"Since God has given talents, let them be employed!" We should not only appreciate children, but also let them learn to appreciate each other and themselves. The campaign in our class is enthusiastic, and everyone digs each other's advantages and recommends themselves. Day after day, year after year, children not only trust themselves, but more importantly, get the recognition of their partners. It doesn't matter if the advantages are small, as long as they are grasped and gradually expanded, a single spark can start a prairie fire.