Hoping for success and pursuing happiness are the ideals and responsibilities of life. But what is more important than success and happiness in life is to be a man, not to maintain the dignity of being a man regardless of success or failure, happiness or misfortune. So, don't forget the most important thing in life: being responsible for your own life.

Life is only once for everyone, and no one can replace the responsibility of his life. The responsibility of social relations in the world can be transferred, replaced and shared under certain circumstances. Only when you are responsible for your own life, everyone must and can only bear it entirely by yourself. If a person wastes his only life, he will never have a chance to choose again. Obviously, how can we not have a strong sense of responsibility for our lives?

However, reality tells me that many people don't know their responsibilities in life. They have lived all their lives, and they have not figured out what their responsibilities are in this world. Many people's identification of the responsibility relationship is completely passive. In their eyes, some practices that regard it as their own responsibility are not out of conscious choice, but because of instinct, habit, fashion, others, public opinion or accidental factors. As long as we look around, among your friends, colleagues or neighbors, we can find that some people do things just to survive and make a living. Some people live and define their lives purely by money and power; Some people take a career that they have been engaged in for a long time due to accidental factors as their responsibility, and never try a career that really suits their interests and personality; Some people think about "a few people around them" all their lives, attach great importance to the evaluation of others, especially superiors, and live carefully for this evaluation; Some people even decide their happiness according to the opinions of colleagues and neighbors. At first, a friend of mine insisted on selling his old house and moving into a noble residential area, thinking that with the rich, his status would be higher. I don't know. After a while, my good self-feeling disappeared. It's jealousy and disappointment, and it's being unhappy around rich neighbors. It can be seen that a person who doesn't know that he is responsible for his own life must be laissez-faire A person who has never thought about his mission in life is bound to be misplaced, vague and blind on the issue of responsibility.

In fact, China has respected conscience, responsibility, honesty and ethics since ancient times, and advocated being a man and being responsible for his own life. The ancients said "cultivate one's morality, keep the family in order, govern the country and level the world", and put cultivation first in life. Another example is the "three immortals in the world"-virtue, merit and speech, which also regard being a man as a fundamental event in life. Intellectuals, as the embodiment of the social conscience and wisdom of the Chinese nation, have always had the excellent qualities of caring for the country and the people, self-reliance, perseverance and running the country. Confucius praised it as "the ambition of a scholar lies in the Tao." Historically, from Zeng Shen's "a scholar can't help spreading his wisdom" to Mars's "it is his duty to teach the world right and wrong"; From Chen Fan's "Tomorrow's ambition" to Gu's "Every man is responsible for the rise and fall of the world", we can see that the spirit and strength of "serving the world, serving the people, connecting the past with the future, and making the world peaceful" are clearly visible to the nation and responsible for their own lives for thousands of years.

These iron shoulders bear the moral "national backbone", which makes people respect. But we understand that saving the world and transforming society is in line with social reality and requires certain conditions, which not everyone can do. We are mediocre people, responsible for our own lives, and can aim at self-help and personal improvement without any social conditions. As long as we think about our life mission and establish our life goals and beliefs, we can consciously choose and assume our responsibilities to society and others. On the contrary, I can't imagine how a person who has no sense of responsibility, goes with the flow and is confused about life can love life, love life, love others and love his career. Such people often regard their due diligence as pure pay and demand something in return. They even live for others and care too much about others' opinions and comments on "a few people around them", thus killing their own lives.

People living in this world are not only eating and sleeping, but also doing things and interacting with people, which constitute the main content of life. If your career is thriving, your family is harmonious, your marriage is happy and you have many friends, then you can say that your society is successful and your life is happy. This is tangible. In fact, there is something invisible and intangible, which is more important than doing things and communicating-being a man. Through doing things and communication, it embodies a general way and attitude of being a man. Therefore, the most important thing is not what position you occupy in the eyes of the people around you, not how much knowledge, career or business you have done, nor who you live with, but what kind of person you are.

Being a man is the most important thing in life, because the success of work and communication, including the fate of status, property and reputation, as well as the fate of love, marriage and family, is often influenced by external and accidental factors, which are beyond their control, so it should not be the main goal of life. What a person can really choose and grasp is the attitude towards all these external encounters. Therefore, only by knowing what kind of person you want to be and being responsible for your own life can you have a correct and firm attitude towards life. Whether you succeed or not, you can be happy, sad and rude, and keep your integrity and dignity. In a word, being a man is more important than business communication, and more valuable than success and happiness. No matter how successful you are in fame, wealth and communication, if you fail, your life will fail.

I always believe that the sense of responsibility for my own life is the root and starting point of all other sense of responsibility. A person living in this world, knowing what he really wants, knowing what he wants to do in this world, and doing it seriously, will gain a kind of inner consciousness, enrichment and peace. He knows where his responsibility lies, so all kinds of specious so-called responsibilities and wrong ideas can't shake him. I firmly believe that if a person can be responsible for his own life, then he has a responsible attitude towards all social relations including career, marriage and family; A society with more such people will be harmonious, healthy and efficient. If a person knows his responsibility and that being a man is a more valuable goal than success and happiness, then he will be given an eternal thing to support him through the ominous years in the future.