A zoologist and a psychologist did an interesting experiment together: an orangutan was very gentle. When he first entered the room, he was all smiles. At this time, he saw many "companions" smiling at him from the mirror on the wall, so he quickly became one with this new "group". It plays in the room, gets along well with its "companions" and has a very harmonious relationship. Three days later, when it was taken out of the room by the experimenter, it seemed unwilling to leave.
Another orangutan has a bad temper. From the moment he entered the room, his face was unhappy, so he saw in the mirror that "the same kind" was fierce and unfriendly to him. Soon, its attitude was angered by "the same kind", so it launched an endless chase and struggle with this new "group". Three days later, when the experimenter tried to take it out of the room, he was surprised to find that the violent orangutan had died of depression and fatigue.
This phenomenon is called "attitude effect" by psychologists. Some people say, "Life is a mirror. If you smile at it, it will smile back at you. " In fact, not only life is like this, but others are also a mirror. If you smile at him, he will smile back at you. Laughing or not depends on your attitude, which determines your interpersonal relationship, the effect of family education, your work performance and the success or failure of your life.
The "attitude effect" brings us three inspirations in our life and work: "treat others as ourselves, and true love will last forever", "being kind to work means being kind to yourself" and "exchanging love for hate and good for evil". When people get along, a friendly attitude is very important. If we treat others sincerely and faithfully, just like ourselves, sincerely, without any hypocrisy, it is easy to gain the sincerity and trust of others, and others are willing to associate with us and become friends with us. Even for a stranger, as long as you are full of goodwill and friendship, the other person will be deeply moved. Even if you have no contact with him again, or even only once, he may remember your kindness and friendship for life.
In life, many people think that psychology has little to do with our life. In fact, psychology is very practical in real life. Scientific research shows that human behavior is dominated and guided by human psychology. Behind many phenomena, they are dominated by psychology and reflect the laws of psychology, but people just don't understand them. Behind everyone's behavior, there are often deeper psychological motives, sometimes even the parties don't know. Therefore, understanding the necessary psychological knowledge is of great help to our life and work.
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