1: Failure belongs to the past, and success belongs to the future. Tell a story first. Once upon a time, there was an old donkey. One day, it accidentally fell into an abandoned trap, and it was so deep that it couldn't climb up. The owner thought it was an old donkey and was too lazy to save it, leaving it to fend for itself. The donkey also gave up hope of survival at first.
However, people continue to dump garbage into the trap every day. Arguably, the old donkey should be very angry and complain every day. He fell into a trap, and his master didn't want it. Even if he died, he wouldn't let it die comfortably. There's so much garbage thrown around every day. But one day, it decided to change its attitude towards life. It tramples under its feet every day, looking for leftovers from garbage to maintain its life, instead of being submerged by garbage. Finally, one day, it returned to the ground.
In our life, this kind of situation will often happen. At this time, I don't think we should complain that your major is not good, your school is not good, you live in a broken dormitory, you don't have a good father, your job is not good, your salary is low, you are empty-handed, and no one appreciates you. There are too many disappointments in reality. Even if life gives you garbage, you can still step on it.
The world only cares whether you reach a certain height, and doesn't care whether you step on the shoulders of giants or garbage. People who step on garbage deserve more respect. Never fail, never say failure, as long as you can surpass it, success is waiting for you.
Shakespeare once wrote in a play: "Hope often fails, and it is at the most hopeful time."
Indeed, whenever we rejoice in our progress step by step and feel glad for our success in the near future, failure suddenly comes. At this time, we will be very depressed, feel useless and even give up on ourselves. But we forget that no road to success is smooth, it must be tortuous. The failure on this road is not a roadblock, but a whetstone to sharpen one's ambition.
Some people say that when fate throws you into the trough of failure, it also gives you a climbing vine. The question is whether you can catch it.
Everyone has different personalities and different feelings and attitudes towards the same thing. In the same environment, some people are uncomfortable, while others feel at home. So when you face difficulties, do you complain and sigh or adapt to the environment slowly? Of course, choose the latter.
There was once a TV play in which the hero was the son of a literati family. His teacher makes him read the Analects of Confucius, The Book of Songs and other famous books every day, and he feels very bored.
One day, his teacher asked him, "Do you think these books are boring, full of preaching, and even some chapters are incomprehensible?"
The son replied, "I really think so."
"Have you noticed that there are many touching stories and many alarming words in the book? Being a teacher not only teaches you to learn, but more importantly, teaches you how to be a man! "
After listening to the teacher, my son began to calm down and savor every article. After a while, he found countless thought-provoking sentences in the book. Since then, my son has changed his previous views and learned the art of having fun. I not only like reading, but also become cheerful in my daily life. No matter what environment he faces, he can respond with a smile.
If you can deal with the world with this childe's method and attitude, you can transform your life and create a brand-new outlook on life, thus making your life full of fun and hope. Moreover, with this method of having fun, you can quickly adapt to the environment, accept the environment and blend in with it, so that you can rally, cheer up, give play to your initiative and create a better world.
Therefore, it is very important to have a strong ability to adapt to the environment. Adapt to the environment as soon as possible, and you will have more time and opportunities to succeed. If you really know the meaning of adapting to the environment, you can change your life and make yourself better.
All achievements are history, and all failures belong to the past, not to us. At this moment, we are all lonely, so we have no reason to back down and give up, because we have nothing. We must stand up bravely and move on. If you fall into the valley of failure, don't pray for God's mercy or hope for God's blessing. The god who can help ourselves is that we stand up, seize the vine that can lead to success and move forward. Leave failure to the past and success to yourself.
Inspirations for University Struggle Part II: Being a person with a strong heart (1) What is the strong prejudice?
My friend, Professor Liu Lianghua of South China Normal University, has a famous saying: A person with strong prejudice is a truly thoughtful person. This sentence has a great influence among his students. I think it is reasonable to regard "strong prejudice" as having one's own unique and profound opinions and persistent pursuit and persistence, and it is a profound mistake, not a superficial one. In an objective sense, everyone's opinion may be a prejudice. Because no one can completely bring everything in this world into their own vision, everyone can only get a little understanding and sentiment from their own position, their own knowledge structure and their own experience vision. However, this sentence is also easy to misunderstand, thinking that prejudice is good, and the more prejudice, the better. In fact, a person's prejudice has a strong subjective emotion. It is often the result of lack of rationality and tolerance, and it is irrational and emotional, which is often easy to expand this prejudice.
Therefore, I prefer to say that a person with a strong heart is a truly thoughtful person. His inner strength shows that he has a complete view of the world, society and life. There is a saying in Buddhism that "no leakage" has matured in the chest. A person with a strong heart is not necessarily a bully but a coward, and may even be weak in appearance and strong in heart. A person with a strong heart must have his own firm belief, not verbally, but from the heart. Not only in knowledge, but also with deep feelings, rich life experience and broad vision. This inner strength often means that he is extremely confident, which often comes from his shallow and profound understanding of himself, so he has a particularly open consciousness and an open mind. He can listen carefully to any different voices, rethink with his own mind, and be alert to what he has confidence in. Therefore, he will not refuse to listen to and think about different voices. But because of his inner strength, as long as he hears different voices, he will not be anxious, and he will change his mind immediately. Moreover, in the face of different voices, he will learn to retest with logic, common sense, intuition, experience and scientific methods. In fact, this test will not be the first time, but repeated many times, which has become a normal state. Repeatedly, become the norm, still insist, and then things will be stable. There are more really solid things in his heart, and he will be strong. Therefore, people with strong inner feelings have not stopped changing, but no longer need to change their identity in the core of faith.
If a person's belief core changes frequently, then his spiritual world is still invisible, and his spiritual world is still confused. Even if such a person writes a book, he will say this today and that tomorrow. His position is not firm, his logic is inconsistent, and he has no opinion on what he wants and what kind of life he wants.
What is the core of faith? Is your world outlook, outlook on life and values. How do you view the world, how do you know life, and how do you view happiness and meaning? These things are completely in line with a person with a strong heart. There is no right or wrong here, but it must be consistent. Here, your thoughts and beliefs and your life feelings, life experiences, your knowledge structure, your rational understanding and your role in society will not conflict and split logically, but between life experiences and rational understanding. There is no hypocrisy, and words and deeds are different. If a person achieves this, he is a person with perfect personality and strong heart.
(2) Inner strength is spiritual nobility.
A person with a strong heart is a person with real thoughts; Or a truly thoughtful person is also a person with a strong heart. Such people are peaceful, confident and full of happiness, even in the so-called adversity of the world. Because his world is no longer just a secular world, he still has his own unique and perfect inner world. In this world, he has his own standards of happiness and happiness. In this kingdom, he enjoys happiness that others can't enjoy and can't understand. Nearly 200 years ago, the Danish thinker Goerkekul lived a poor and short life, but his heart was strong and his life was full of happiness. The happiness of such a person is beyond the comprehension of ordinary people. A person with a strong heart is actually a spiritual aristocrat. He realized that man, as an elf and a thoughtful man, has the finiteness of his physical life, and at the same time he realized the infinity of his ideological life. He knows how to straighten out the relationship between his material life and his ideological world, and he can also recognize the material standard of the secular world and the alternative coordinates of the spiritual world. Therefore, people with strong inner feelings will not suffer from insomnia, anxiety or impatience. They make the worst plans for life anytime and anywhere, and pursue the best. He has thought about all the disasters and pains all his life, and even experienced them richly and truly. He was born to die, so all the changes no longer make him feel that the world has suddenly turned upside down and life will be changed beyond recognition. A firm belief can support his safe death.
His life is no longer waiting anxiously, but acting firmly. His standard of behavior is internal, not external. Don't be happy with things, don't be sad with yourself, don't be humiliated with yourself, and treat it lightly. He believes that any experience in life, including those unfortunate feelings, will become a unique experience in his life. And these experiences will turn into his ideological wisdom and become more powerful materials in his heart. He thinks that the human body is one of the most fragile things in the universe, but his spiritual world can be indestructible. He also believes that in this world, his life feeling is unique and no one can replace it. This is the source of his confidence. The awakening of life makes him love others as himself, take care of himself first, and then use his brilliant life to appeal to this society. Love yourself. If a person does not take good care of himself, his heart is chaotic and fragile, then he will undoubtedly lack the power of love. Even if the bad guys love themselves, they will only make others as bad as themselves. Therefore, he knows how to cherish every inch of his life. Therefore, a man with a strong heart has his own theme and significance in life. In the sense of life, he firmly believes that I am the only one in the world. And believe that everyone has this right in life. He has self-esteem, knows how to respect others, pursues happiness, knows how to respect others' happiness, makes choices and respects others' choices.
(3) Think with life
A thoughtful person is not necessarily a person with original ideas. As long as the accepted ideas are accompanied by his life and life, that kind of thought will also make his heart strong, and his thoughts are inseparable from human life. Thinking means that he begins to think with his own life, experience life with his own life feelings, feel the world, not judge his own value and significance by his reputation, and not live with the eyes of others. Even if people all over the country regard him as an enemy, even if people all over the world misunderstand him and isolate him, he can still live calmly and firmly. At this time, "the loneliest person is the most powerful person in the world", Ibsen's words show that a person with a strong heart, in the face of truth and truth, is a person who dares to become public enemies, a person who is accused by thousands of people, that is, a truly thoughtful person, whose inner world has reached a very strong point. No matter what era or country such people are, they will be a very small group. However, one thing is certain, such people will have more living soil in a pluralistic, open, equal and free society. Moreover, such people will no longer be enemies of the people, and it is not easy to become a lonely peak. He doesn't need to use "no way, floating on the sea with a fork" as his way out. Although he may be lonely, loneliness is a kind of happiness and enjoyment here. A person with a strong heart and rich thoughts doesn't care how many people misunderstand him or how many secular prejudices he has, because his heart is a perfect world, and a person's inner richness is enough to make up for some material deficiencies. A person with a strong heart is a person with real thoughts, and a person with real thoughts must be a person with a strong heart.
Article 3: When you walk past a desolate person alone, wipe your tears after crying. Maybe when you cry, your family and friends will comfort you, make you laugh, dry your tears, and you will be moved. However, when there is no one you can trust around you, no one will pity your tears even if you are in tears. Tears have dried up, who will wipe them off your face? I have to wipe it myself. Slowly, your tears will be less and less. Because you have wiped your tears enough, you'd better learn to be strong and finish the journey quickly.
When you are alone, no matter how scared you are, you must keep going. Maybe you are used to relying on others and accepting their protection. Once you lose your asylum, you will panic and fear the strangeness and terror around you. Maybe you will be too scared to go at first, but when you get used to the present environment and accept the fact that you are isolated, you will be more and more courageous, because you know that the only person you can rely on now is yourself, no matter how difficult the road ahead is, you still have to overcome your fears and go on step by step.
When you are alone, you can't give up no matter how tired you are. Maybe you are tired, go back to the familiar safe haven and rest quietly, and then start again after you regain your energy. However, when you are in no way back, you will never give up, even if you will despair and suffer. Because you have no choice but to move on, and you can't live up to your sweat along the way. This is the only way for you to continue. Although you will be exhausted, you will grow in this process and get more gains at the finish line.
Everyone is lonely sometimes. Don't be afraid, don't run away, be strong and walk the whole course bravely. You will find yourself stronger than you think. You are no longer a child who once needed protection from others, but a strong person who can stand firm in the storm.
A three-minute story in a slum in India, there are two unfortunate little brothers. Their mother died when they were very young, and their father was either taking drugs or drinking all day, regardless of whether the brothers lived or died. Later, in order to raise drug money, my father went to prison for theft.
After their father went to prison, the two brothers went to pick up garbage in order to survive. At first, they just picked up other people's leftovers to fill their stomachs. Later, they learned to pick up some waste products for recycling.
Whenever I make a little money selling garbage, my brother either goes to restaurants to eat and drink, or goes to underground casinos to gamble. My brother cherishes this hard-won money and saves every penny he can to pay tuition. Because my brother has been hanging out in casinos for a long time, drinking, fighting, taking drugs, fooling around with a bunch of gangsters and doing bad things every day. My brother studies very hard. He attends classes at school during the day and works in restaurants and hotels at night, learning to write articles. More than ten years later, my brother was imprisoned for many crimes such as robbery and drug abuse. But my brother became a famous local writer.
A newspaper reporter went to the prison to interview his brother. The reporter looked at him with a depressed face and asked, "What do you think led you to this step?"
My brother said with certainty, "Suffering! The suffering of childhood is like a heavy stone, which weighs heavily on my heart and makes me lift my head. " After interviewing my brother, the reporter went to interview my brother again. The reporter asked: "Your brother said that he went to prison because of the hardships in life. What do you think makes you so successful today? "
The younger brother said with certainty, "the suffering of childhood."
The reporter asked inexplicably, "You grew up together, and your childhood sufferings were the same. Why did your brother become a criminal and you became an admirable writer? "
The younger brother said, "The sufferings of childhood are like a heavy stone on our hearts." The difference is that my brother has always kept this stone in his heart, so he feels that he can't see the blue sky. But I have been stepping on this stone, and suffering has become a step in my life. "