The new "Outline" emphasizes: "Children's behavior performance, development and changes are of great evaluation significance, and teachers should take them as important evaluation information and the basis for improving their work."
To this end, I conducted home visits, follow-up, analysis and individual guidance for children with problems in our small class to promote their interpersonal skills.
Case description
1 in the morning, the teacher gave the children picture books to tell stories, but the friends didn't turn over the books at all. They rolled up the book and played it as a microphone, causing several children next to them to imitate him, occasionally turning to the page they had walked through in the maze and pointing to drawing. It's time to collect books. He handed it to Yang Yang, the head of the small table, and then suddenly lifted his foot and kicked Yang Yang's arm. Yang Yang cried out in pain. I asked him, "Why did you kick Yang Yang?" But he replied, "I kick the tiger!" " "There is indeed a tiger on the maze page of the book, which really makes people laugh and cry.
One morning, pengpeng saw Wang Hao on a new train. He wants to go up and catch it. Wang Hao shouted angrily. He began to realize that his behavior was wrong and quickly said "I'm sorry". Only when the train is in hand can people ask their advice: "lend it to me, will you?" This behavior happened three or four times in a row when he was building blocks.
Find a good friend in class to play kangaroo mother's game. Nobody wants to be friends with him. He has toys and doesn't want to play with him.
Analytical diagnosis
The main problem of friends is that they don't understand the rules of communication, and they have aggressive behaviors such as hitting people and grabbing things, which are not accepted by their peers. Through home visits and observation and analysis of children, we know the reasons why children have communication problems:
1 Bad family education model
Pumbaa's father works outside, and he lives at home with his grandmother and mother. Dad occasionally goes home to educate his children, and he will also beat and scold. Friends are very afraid of Dad. Grandma attaches great importance to his education, teaching this and that, but there is nothing she can do. Sometimes she will hit him when she is in a hurry. In this way, after going to kindergarten, it is difficult for the teacher to reason with him and persuade him to educate. Many psychologists believe that almost all children's early peer communication behavior comes from their early communication with their parents.
2 do not understand the rules of communication
Borrowing things from others should take the initiative to negotiate the request, and then borrow them after obtaining the consent of others. Friends don't understand such communication rules, don't know how to negotiate, and won't negotiate.
3 poor self-control, cognitive and behavioral disconnect
Friends are impulsive, naughty and active, prone to some destructive and aggressive behaviors, and have poor self-control. When the companion was angry and angry, he realized that his behavior was wrong. He repeatedly said he was sorry, but he didn't give something back to others to correct his behavior, which caused the phenomenon that cognition and behavior were out of line.
Lack of communication opportunities
At present, most children are only children, lacking playmates, and some negative behaviors of friends are not accepted by peers, lacking opportunities for interaction, and even unable to gain experience in communication and enhance their ability in this respect.
Me?
1 communicate with parents to change bad education methods.
Today, the kindergarten arranged to draw tropical fish. Grandma Pumbaa saw the children who came first drawing, so she urged Pumbaa to draw quickly. Pengpeng looked around and didn't start work. Grandma is a little anxious. She raised her hand to hit pengpeng, and pengpeng was so scared that she cried. I quickly stepped forward, grabbed her grandmother and said to my friend:
"Draw it quickly, let's play ball." My friends sobbed and drew. Grandma won't be relieved until the child has finished painting. I had a heart-to-heart talk with her and told her that the child's bad behavior may be that the usual education methods are incorrect, so there is no need to crack down. Grandma realized the seriousness of the problem and regretted it. I said to her, "if you make friends with so many children, he will lose face." You should know more about children and find a good way to educate them. "
Use the power of peers and class groups to influence friends.
Through the guidance of teachers, the restraint of peers, the persuasion and help of parents, etc. Strengthen friends' understanding of "no hitting" and control bad behavior.
For the first group activity today, the teacher asked the children to change the vertical row from vertical row to four horizontal rows. Yang Yang and Xinyi quickly moved to the front row and sat down. Pengpeng should sit among them. He brought the chair over and reported to me that it was not good to sit. I asked them to make room for their friends. They refused to do anything, saying that their friends hit people. It seems that they are biased and wary of their friends. I took the opportunity to educate friends and friends and said:
"Do you still hit people?"
"Stop fighting!" The friend shook his head.
"He doesn't hit people, you give him a chance!" Yang Yang and Xinyi remained silent.
"Today's drought, Pumbaa also helped to send a shuttle card, give him a chance!" I give them examples in time to let them see the bright spots of their friends.
"If you hit someone again, they really won't let you sit in the front!" I reminded him again.
Pumbaa finally sat in the front row. He also lived up to expectations. In the whole math activity, he has been sitting straight and listening carefully, and he doesn't need the teacher to remind him at all. He also raised his hand to the blackboard to do his homework. I specially gave him a chance, and he really did the right thing. I led the children to applaud him. Pengpeng blushed with excitement.
Teachers' praise or criticism and trust in children will affect their status and popularity among peers. When peers reject children, teachers help them in time, guide them to see the bright spots of their friends, and let children be in an understanding, inclusive and harmonious peer relationship; Teachers create and seize teaching opportunities, show friends opportunities for progress, encourage children with verbal praise or applause, enhance self-confidence, stimulate children's learning with the collective strength of the class, establish his prestige, and make other children willing to associate with him, which is also infected and encouraged.
3 Follow the trend and guide children to communicate correctly and effectively in practical activities.
(1) Strengthen understanding, give priority to prevention, be bound by rules, and guide in time.
Provide children with enough materials for game activities and try to avoid destructive behaviors such as competition. In order to prevent children from being competitive, I added several boxes of building blocks to my class. Before building the building blocks, I emphasized that anyone who plays together will be disqualified from the game.
One morning, the children put up building blocks together and assembled all kinds of interesting cars. Pumbaa walked around the activity room, staring at other people's things. I asked him if he wanted to borrow his car to play. He replied, "Yes!" I reminded him before he started to rob: "How about asking someone first? You can only take it if others agree. Say thank you to others! "
I first borrowed a crane from Lianlian with my friend and instructed him to say, "Will you lend me your crane to play?" ? I'll pay you back after playing for a while! "Practice a happily say" good! I asked my friends to say "thank you! "
Pumbaa played happily for a while. In order to consolidate the practice communication, I suggested that he return the car to practice, and then borrow the racing car from Yang Yang. He was happier and borrowed Yang Yang to play with him.
Before the activity, clearly explain the rules and make constraints. During the activities, we can gain insight into children's scheming performance, guide them in time before they have bad behaviors, learn to discuss and solicit opinions from others, practice in practical activities such as borrowing toys and building blocks, consolidate their communication behavior, experience success and accumulate communication experience.
(2) Use relevance to promote children's learning and communication.
He has strong ability in daily life, study and game activities, shows initiative and enthusiasm, is accepted and loved by most peers, and enjoys a high status among peers. Children's learning and communication are interrelated and influence each other. Successful learning and communication are mutually reinforcing. We take advantage of this correlation, for example, our friends act as primary school teachers and guide our partners to revise their homework, which on the one hand promotes the learning progress and on the other hand enhances their communication skills.
(3) Use children's favorite games and operation activities to cultivate self-control and promote exchanges and cooperation.
Pengpeng likes games and operational activities very much. We often ask him to persist in handing out materials for one minute, and encourage him to finish his homework patiently and cultivate self-control during the activity. Play favorite characters and animals in role games, enrich language expression and strengthen exchanges and cooperation. Guiding effect
Through the unremitting efforts of our teachers and parents, more than two months have passed and our friends have made remarkable progress.
When he sees children playing around, he will say, "You hit someone and your eyes turn red!" " ! (it means it will hurt people's eyes. ) will hurt people and send them to the hospital! ""Beating people will be caught by 1 10. "The child fell, and he took the initiative to help him get up, help him cry and comfort his partner. There are basically no attacks on people during the day's activities.
Pengpeng is more attentive in his activities, and his learning progress is obvious. He has done math homework several times, and his completion speed is among the best in his class. His handmade works have been exhibited many times.
He will discuss with teachers and children and ask for advice. "Teacher, I want to build blocks, too." "Can you give me some building blocks?" "Can I play hula hoop with you?" Wait a minute.
He volunteered to be a student on duty, handing out pick-up cards, sorting out toys and books. Children like to play with him more and more.
Self-examination/introspection
1 This study focuses on children's communicative performance. Our expected goal is that children with communication problems can become normal as soon as possible, can basically abide by common rules, can solve problems properly, and can communicate with peers in the middle class. At present, pengpeng also likes to show himself and help others, hoping to get attention, affirmation and praise, and his children will not reject him again. However, his awareness of rules in collective life needs to be strengthened, and sometimes he needs the reminder and supervision of teachers, so he is in a transitional period of self-help. We realize that the education of children cannot be achieved overnight, and it needs a process. His little progress makes us full of expectation and confidence in him. At the same time, we need to help and wait with more love, patience and a highly responsible spirit.
The bad behavior of friends is also repeated. Occasionally, there will be harassment behaviors such as pulling other people's clothes and touching braids. At the beginning of returning to school during the holiday, the performance was even more obvious. We also found that the child had scars, talked to the child in time, and learned that parents sometimes had excessive acts of violence or corporal punishment, which led to friends' rebellious mentality and opposition. We have conducted in-depth and meticulous exchanges with parents, guiding them to unify the educational concepts of all family members, ensuring that the effective practices of kindergartens extend to families, and at the same time asking parents to give full play to the advantages of one-on-one family education to guide and help their children more effectively.
Pengpeng is as active as most children. He is particularly focused on playing with toys, sand, building blocks, games and percussion instruments. We have targeted arrangements for him to participate in his favorite activities, so that he has little leisure to attack others and reduce the chance of injury.