Have you ever refused an invitation from a friend, such as going to the movies or having dinner together? I refused. Many years ago, my girlfriend and I went to an elegant restaurant for dinner. When I was browsing the menu, my girlfriend said to me, "It's my treat today." I smiled and replied, "No! How can I let you entertain me? " She also smiled and asked firmly, "Are you going to deprive me of my rights?" I was speechless at once. I have never considered the problem from this angle. "This is really a rhetorical question full of wisdom." I secretly said to myself.

Since then, I have never refused other people's kindness. When I say sincere pay, I mean pay without asking for anything in return or attaching any conditions. Just like my girlfriend invited me to dinner, she is just enjoying the happiness of giving, and I can fully understand the happiness brought by this kind of giving.

Many people are unwilling to accept such an offer, because they think they will not be rewarded in vain. In fact, this is not the right thing to do. Your refusal may inadvertently hurt a caring heart, at least you inadvertently deprived them of their rights. My suggestion is that you should accept this offer gracefully and give it back in due course, even though they don't expect you to give it back.

Have you ever enjoyed giving? Maybe you are resisting the temptation to give happiness. You are worried that your unconditional offer will be rejected. It doesn't really matter. If it is really rejected, you just have to smile and ask, "Are you going to deprive me of the right to pay?"

A proper balance between receiving and giving is the best way to enrich and nourish your emotional world. You give to someone and get it from another person. You allow yourself to accept others' efforts, so that you can continue to pay. In the process of receiving and giving, your life will be happier and healthier. And your relationship with your friends, colleagues, relatives, children and partners is gradually deepening and improving.

How to give and receive? Here are some of my practices.

I will accept this proposal:

___ 1. My wife and children give me a massage;

___2. Make plans and preparations for my specific day and give me a surprise;

___3. Call me or leave a message on the answering machine and tell me something I am interested in;

___4. Do something with me;

___5. Spend the weekend with me;

___6. Tell me what they like about me;

___7. Walk with me;

___8. Sing or dance with me;

___9. Choose a good DVD and enjoy it with me;

___ 10. Teach me to cook a special meal;

I will give you this unconditionally:

___ 1. Send a card or write a letter to someone;

___2. Tell someone how much I admire him;

___3. Give someone a small gift for no special reason;

___4. Invite someone to dinner or watch a performance;

___5. Donate some money to charity;

___6. Spend time with someone;

___7. Invite a lonely person to my party;

___8. Call a friend whom I haven't contacted for a long time;

___9. Leave a friendly message on someone's answering machine;

___ 10. Listen to a sad person and sincerely comfort him or her;

Now that you have a clear and specific understanding of giving and receiving, put these in your schedule, constantly enrich your giving and receiving content, and stick to it. Soon, you will find what amazing changes will take place in your life.