Today, accompanied by my classmates, I came to the bookstore of our school. I was going to look at it and leave, because I haven't bought a book for a long time. There are many new books on the bookshelf, familiar and unfamiliar, domestic and foreign, with a wide variety of things. Although my major is somewhat different from literature, it is still difficult to convince my original intention.
& lt& lt the advantages of human nature >> is the new friend I finally decided to invite back. The classmate said that you didn't buy the opposite book at first. & lt> Really? The answer I gave him was that reading that book might make people feel pessimistic, so it is better to read it positively.
Of course, I haven't read Dale Carnegie's book, and I don't know what kind of thoughts he expressed in it. I chose Og Mandino because his words touched me: Hope is the first step to achieve the goal. Without hope, a person will never plan to do anything, and in the end, he will certainly accomplish nothing.
Behavior is the flower of thought, and happiness and sadness are the fruit of thought; Whether a person can harvest sweet fruit or bitter fruit depends on the seeds sown. That's good. I remember my father once told me that I should be responsible for my actions when I grow up, because I will have my own thoughts when I grow up. Facts have proved my father's advice.
At noon, my friend said on the phone that my birthday was coming and asked me what gift to give. This birthday is very special. After this birthday, she will really be an adult. I don't know what to send. Maybe I can't give her too many surprises, but I hope I can express my thoughts.
Mandino said; Man is a cultivator of his own quality, a shaper of life and a builder of fate. This is an unmistakable fact. China people have been talking about inner cultivation since ancient times, and now there are so many masters of Confucius and Mencius, all of whom started from their own cultivation. What's more, what about the pursuers of our cultural essence?
We often hear people complain around us that the real college life is not as good as they once imagined. The implication is that the reality has let us down, and the university is sorry for us. We entered the house by mistake, didn't we?
Admittedly, I once had similar thoughts, but now I can confidently tell everyone who read this article that I have not entered the wrong house, and my college time is too precious.
Don't think I'm lying. I want to tell you that she doesn't have the former university in our reality. She is my dream, a dream that always encourages us to move forward, so she is beautiful. But why do we feel disappointed when our dreams come true? Because there is no dream in my heart and no motivation to move forward, I complain about the day when the monk hits the bell every day.
In fact, now, we should still have dreams in our hearts. In fact, now, our life is just a short beginning. We must not let ourselves lose at the starting line. Our tomorrow, our life, will only be wonderful because of our dreams.
As the saying goes; Master, come in. Learning art depends on individuals. Some words, like others, are by no means groundless!
The division of thought and behavior
China handed out many books, but the effect was always poor, so he came to a conclusion that the world was getting worse. I don't know if the world is getting worse, but the bad effect is always true. I have always been quite dissatisfied with ideological propaganda. In ancient times, there were many people whose livelihood was ideological propaganda. However, there were many contrary examples in the past dynasties. Of course, any reform will end in failure. In the final analysis, China people's thoughts and behaviors are divided, which leads to any reform ideas originating from the ideological field, which have run into a wall in reality, because there is no connection between thought and reality, and the two fields of thought and behavior have their own mechanisms and operating rules. Because of this relationship, China has a lot of hypocrisy and homesickness. China culture is high-profile, hypocritical and duplicitous. The development of thought and behavior is very uneven, and the thought develops rapidly. Even old people and children can sing slogans, and they are surprisingly unified. Ancient illiterate women also knew how to preach chastity. But in reality, it is impossible, and it is difficult to form a code of conduct that can be observed.
Since the Spring and Autumn Period, China's thoughts have been in a position of opposition to reality, that is to say, the thoughts of a hundred schools of thought are critical, trying to correct people's bad behavior at that time. Confucius said that benevolence was aimed at the universal tyranny at that time; Han Fei's statement is aimed at the disorder and misconduct at that time; When I said inaction, I saw that the policies adopted by the rulers at that time were inappropriate. They're getting worse. It's best not to do it. Later, the spread and evolution of these theories are inseparable from the purpose of saving the disadvantages of the contemporary era. Buddhism introduced into the Han Dynasty is also to teach people liberation, and its premise is that life is painful. As for Taoism, the same is true. In the era of Confucius, thought still has some practical characteristics. Later thinkers can only sit on paper and talk about it, and they are stuck in the study all day looking through ancient books, which has nothing to do with reality. Scholars, on the other hand, shake their heads more and more and are despised by secular people. Since the feudal autocratic society, the rulers have been very strict in restraining thoughts, and their thoughts have become more and more divorced from reality. On the one hand, they let thinkers enter the air-to-air field, on the other hand, they let thinkers speculate and serve politics. Both of them make thoughts and behaviors more divided and irreversible.
Since the idea of official participation in control, popular and influential ideas have been transformed, other ideas are basically difficult to survive, and the instrumentality of ideas has been continuously strengthened. The reformed ideas always teach people how to obey, that is, to concentrate the rights and interests of the lower class on the upper class step by step. This idea is difficult to implement because it is not in the interest of most people. However, due to the official control of imperial examinations and education, his thoughts were spread through examinations. Communication is tantamount to saying that it has been instilled in people's minds, and it is not necessarily implemented in behavior. This is why old people and children can sing high notes. For example, watching TV commercials, I remember advertising words such as "Aiduo VCD" and "Wahaha Fruit Milk" day after day, but I never buy the above products. In order to cope with exams and reports, people invented superficial articles. From then on, reading articles and books requires true knowledge and true thoughts, which is more difficult than verifying ancient books by park scholars. I say the hypocrisy of China culture, because culture is mostly written records, and people almost learn culture from books. The credibility of books is really low, because they are all articles for people to read, even diaries are not credible if they are for people to read. In Qian Zhongshu's Fortress Besieged, Fang Hung-chien's father, Dun Weng, likes to keep a diary. He is a snobbish and vulgar little squire, but he dresses himself up as a saint in his diary. Qian said, "This kind of spiritual self-pity made him write an autobiography and a diary, just like a woman who put on all kinds of Chinese and western clothes in spring, summer, autumn and winter, made all kinds of postures of standing up and sitting down with her neck propped up and taking pictures as a souvenir."
What is said above is that thinkers' thoughts can't guide people's behavior. As for the split of a person's thought and behavior, it is manifested as a complex personality. The characteristic of this character is that he recognizes the correctness of an idea, but he does not necessarily follow it. For example, thieves and prostitutes, the world can recognize that it is a bad behavior, but this phenomenon is not fade away. In one place, after an official was sentenced for a crime, he was invited to give a lesson on integrity to other officials who did not commit a crime. It is said that he was in tears. I think this criminal speaks to his subordinates or reports to his superiors on weekdays, and the rules about clean government have long been memorized. It's just a piece of cake to give a performance to all the officials now. When everyone in the audience is listening, someone will snicker: It's bad luck to catch you and come here to waste your breath. Who doesn't understand these truths? In Yuan Zhen's Biography of Yingying in the Tang Dynasty, after having an affair with Yingying, Cui had "the shame of giving up his life", which Zhang regarded as a "stunner" and thought denied his own behavior. However, people in the Tang Dynasty seem to be relatively free about the relationship between men and women. It is puzzling why this unique story attaches great importance to ethical issues.
In both cases, thoughts can't control their own desires. In addition, there is another type in which thoughts are dominated by oneself, but behaviors are dominated by others. That is to say, primary school students want to play outside, but teachers force them to do their homework in the classroom. Doing homework is his behavior, and playing outside is his thought. Another example is that a person feels that his work is meaningless and even harmful to society, but he has to do it in order to get paid. The former is dominated by power, while the latter is dominated by money. These two leading forces are the levers of society. There is also an almost opposite type, that is, thoughts are not for controlling themselves, but for targeting others. Confucius said, "Don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you", but it is very difficult to do this. People in society generally adopt double standards, that is, they apply special standards to themselves and universal standards to others, so corrupt officials scold corrupt officials and prostitutes scold prostitutes. It shows that corrupt officials are against corruption, and prostitutes are also against prostitution, but he (she) adopts double standards.
Knowing that China people's behaviors and thoughts are divided, many social affairs will be suddenly enlightened, and we will no longer feel any doubts and contradictions. Moreover, in this case, it is estimated that it is futile to adjust a society by establishing a set of moral norms.
I hope I can help you and adopt it. Thank you.