People's life is accompanied by physical and psychological diseases. For our generation, physical diseases are nothing. As long as you have a desire for life, we will overcome diseases and live in this sunny world. The pain of the soul makes us miserable, tortures our souls, and makes those fresh lives with weak adjustment ability and perseverance go to another world. Why did they leave us? Because they don't have a good medicine for mental illness-psychology! Some of them are mentally ill or take too little or too much medicine, and some don't know what else to eat. Psychology, which is studied under the guidance of teachers, has an impulse of self-analysis. Like seeing what kind of person you are, you also have a psychological bottom and be objective in life. But! Sometimes it is easier for others to analyze your psychology, which is called the obsession of the authorities. However, I think we should know ourselves and lay a good foundation for our future development. So I also decided to analyze the psychological characteristics of my personality. These words may not be comprehensive or professional and accurate, but I still cherish this first self-objective understanding of my own system.
Personality psychological structure includes personality tendency and personality psychological characteristics. Personality psychological tendency mainly includes interests, needs, motives, attitudes, ideals, beliefs, values, world outlook and so on. Psychological characteristics of personality mainly include personality, ability, temperament and intelligence. The former is more complicated and the latter is more mysterious. I will do it myself. Let me dissect it.
Personality: the sum total of relatively stable and unique psychological characteristics manifested in people's attitudes and behaviors towards reality. My personality: (1) Attitude towards seeking truth from facts: 1, Attitude towards others and the collective society: I tend to love the motherland, love the collective, be compassionate, honest, upright and polite. However, his behavior is not positive enough, and he is still indifferent. He has not shown his love and sympathy for the motherland with practical actions. I have always advocated that everyone should be the best of themselves and be independent. I think I am honest and upright, and I will be absolutely generous in subsidizing those in need in the future. 2. Attitude towards work: I tend to be hard-working, but sometimes I am lazy and responsible, but I am still a little careless, sloppy and economical. For my family and parents: I am avant-garde, I hope to live for myself and my parents, and I don't want to get married. I think it's unfair to the children's fate. I'm very tired because I have no ability to raise them. 3. Attitude towards yourself: I have confidence and ideals in my future life. Confident but objective reality.
(2) Will characteristics: 1, self-awareness: I can clearly understand what I want to do, but I am not persistent enough, I have no patience, I can devote myself to enthusiasm and strength, I can calmly analyze problems, but I will be discouraged when I encounter setbacks. Sometimes it is too arbitrary, arbitrary and thoughtless. 2. firmness; Perseverance is not tenacious, but more energetic, can sum up experience, and is not driven by unrealistic wishes. However, it is far from reaching the state of perseverance and perseverance. Of course, it is not a matter of dejection when encountering difficulties. 3. Decisiveness: Being able to make decisions quickly and act decisively and positively, but sometimes not thoughtful and brave enough, but sometimes acting arbitrarily. 4, self-control: it is difficult to control their emotions, emotions beyond words, it is even more difficult to control their words and deeds, such as surfing the Internet, emotions and so on. But I won't do whatever I want, do whatever I want. 5, brave: firmly believe in their own correctness, the courage to take responsibility, willing to make sacrifices, but not brave.
(3) Emotional characteristics: 1, emotional intensity: easy to see their emotions, but not easy to dance, ecstatic. 2, emotional stability: relatively stable, not hot and cold, moody. 3, emotional duration: emotional duration is normal, not too long or fleeting. 4. Dominant mentality: basically energetic and happy. Will not be depressed all the time. Temperament: the dynamic characteristics of typical and stable psychological activities that have nothing to do with the purpose and content of activities. PS: It's different from what we usually say. My temperament: I tend to be choleric and sanguine: I am straightforward, enthusiastic, energetic, outgoing, sometimes sensitive and witty, and like to make friends, but my attention shifts quickly and I have no fixed hobbies.
(4) Ability and intelligence: Ability is one's own efforts, and intelligence is innate. The combination of the two can be said to be the strength of one person! I don't want to say anything about intelligence, because it is innate and I can't control it, but my life experience tells me that a person's efforts can improve his intelligence, and there are too many variables. Ability: I measure myself with EQ and adversity quotient.
Emotional quotient (EQ), also known as emotional intelligence, is a concept corresponding to intelligence and IQ put forward by psychologists in recent years. Mainly refers to people's qualities in emotion, emotion, will and frustration tolerance. In the past, it was thought that whether a person can succeed in life or not, the intelligence level is the first important, that is, the higher the IQ, the greater the possibility of success. But now psychologists generally believe that the level of emotional intelligence also has a great impact on a person's success, and sometimes its role even exceeds the level of intelligence. Some people say that attitude determines everything!
First of all: I really know my emotions. Historical development tells us that the biggest difficulty for people is to know themselves. I wrote a sentence in another book before: "Successful people don't know how many shortcomings they have, but how many advantages they have and are determined to develop hard." Only by knowing yourself can you become the master of your life.
The second is whether I can manage my emotions properly. That is, you can adjust yourself. I can't say that I have done a good job in this respect, but I think a person's face is an expression in any environment and has not changed. I think he may not belong to us. I try to control my emotions, when to laugh and when to be serious-to grasp a certain degree;
Third, self-motivation can help people get out of the low tide of life and start over. I think this is the key to success and the driving force! If I have no motivation, my life will be a dark and endless valley. Not long ago, a graduate student of the school jumped off a building and left. I feel ashamed and sad for him. If he encourages himself more, I believe he will have a bright future and happiness. Nine times out of ten, the unpleasant things in life are accompanied by incentives and become tools and boosters to improve themselves; Life is challenging, life is colorful, and life is cherished and recalled! The fourth is to recognize the emotions of others. My parents are ordinary parents. They taught me that I am the child of an ordinary person. Whether I am about to graduate to find a job or in my future career journey, I should work hard on my own. Be kind, leave more room for others, give yourself one more friend and one more road. Always put yourself in others' shoes and think more about others. The world is fair. You can't have it both ways! Four years of college is coming to an end, and I love my major deeply. It is very challenging and allows me to improve myself in all aspects. I believe that excellent people are experts in life and think for themselves and others. Empathy is the basis of normal and smooth communication with others, and it is also my most basic accomplishment; The fifth is the management of interpersonal relationships. Namely, leadership and management ability. This is a university question. My opinion is determined by my life and study experience. In the eyes of teachers and elders, it is very shallow and needs to be improved. I like to communicate with people and elders who are willing to be better than me. The ancients said, "A wise man should learn from himself." Their words make me reflect and think, which will improve my life efficiency! The management of interpersonal relationship is the play and adjustment of a person's social role, what is this person's identity, speech expression and self-etiquette. Just like when we dress, dress, relax and dress appropriately.
Adversity quotient (AQ)—— As an important aspect of three-dimensional human body composition. The so-called "adversity quotient" is the quotient of people's growth ability in adversity, which is used to measure everyone's adaptability and adaptability in adversity. People with high adversity quotient often show extraordinary courage and perseverance in the face of difficulties, and perseveringly shape themselves into a three-dimensional person; On the contrary, people with low adversity quotient often retreat, give up halfway and eventually fail. Gourmet President Gu Zi? Vita said: "Even if a person is desperate, as long as you have a firm belief and determination to win, you still have the possibility of success." Millet? Vita is the representative of Gao adversity quotient. He has experienced countless ups and downs in his life, but he has surpassed it again and again.
Some people may say: because he is successful, he is said to have a high quotient in adversity. Indeed, people's evaluation of successful people is often "hindsight", and the elements of their success can be summarized after success, rather than "foresight". Similarly, in the past, people often viewed a person's attitude towards difficulties with intuitive feelings, thinking that this person was persistent and persistent, or weak in willpower and impatient. This observation is vague and has no practical significance for personal training and exercise.
First of all, the adversity quotient in my mind:
-Adversity quotient tells you how to survive in adversity and how to overcome adversity to succeed;
-Adversity quotient can predict your attitude in adversity;
Therefore, in any case, the business of adversity will determine whether you continue to grow, limp or even fall down in the face of adversity. Adversity quotient is a nutrient-rich soil and the basic element of success. It determines your attitude, your ability, how and to what extent your performance is displayed. Just like the soil composition in the garden, adversity quotient can be strengthened and enriched.
Secondly, I think people with high adversity quotient are full of life desires: desire is the most primitive spark and the source of success. People with high adversity quotient are full of life desires, they will show enthusiastic interest in success, and they will naturally be able to go forward when encountering adversity; People with low adversity quotient are not interested in things and lack passion for life. Naturally, it is easy to return.
With the desire for life and the pursuit of success, we can overcome all difficulties and obstacles, get up from the fall, move on, and finally achieve our goal. Frustration is not terrible, because it has neither destroyed hope nor blocked all the roads leading to success. What is really terrible is that you lose your enterprising spirit after setbacks and are willing to sink.
Everyone will have problems and encounter difficulties. People with high adversity quotient will think that a problem is a challenge, an opportunity to hone their will and enhance their desire to make progress, while people with low IQ will think that their lives are bad, and God will kill them and blame others.
Adversity is like a double-edged sword, which can be used by us or killed. It depends on whether you are holding the blade or the handle. You have solved one problem after another, that is, you have won one victory after another, and these victories are the steps to your success. Every time you win, you gain some wisdom, and you are one step closer to a successful three-dimensional person.
Everyone is a part of the universe and is in the process of constant change. Change is a ruthless law. For an individual, only one thing is important: success or failure depends on your mentality and whether you have the desire to make progress. A Spartan complained to his mother that his sword was too short. Mother replied, "Son, isn't your sword very long?"
In the face of setbacks, people can't just complain, but should try to find solutions to problems and constantly improve their adversity quotient in the process of finding problems. I am glad that my parents didn't like me since I was a child, so I learned to be independent and find my own way. I dare not say that I am comfortable with Mount Tai, but I am not so flustered that I don't know how to survive.
Summary: I hope my hero will not be crazy in prosperity, not panic in adversity, stop when the rain comes, and carry it when the sky falls. Be an ordinary person with responsibility, feelings, life, study and work!