Learn to let go-1 Austrian psychologist Adler is a fishing enthusiast. Once, he found an interesting phenomenon: after a fish bites a hook, it usually struggles wildly because of a thorn. The more they struggle, the tighter the hook, and the harder it is to get free. Even if the fish that bit the hook managed to escape, the hook wouldn't fall out of its mouth, so it's not surprising to catch a fish with two hooks. While we laughed at the stupidity of fish, Adler put forward a similar psychological concept called "hook swallowing phenomenon".
Everyone has some shortcomings and mistakes. These faults and mistakes, sometimes like the hooks in life, make us accidentally bite. After falling deeply into the heart, I constantly struggle with the pain, but it is difficult to get rid of this "fishhook". Perhaps in the future, we will stumble over the same mistakes and mistakes, and the remains of the previous "fishhook" will still remain in our hearts. This kind of psychology is the phenomenon of "swallowing hooks".
The phenomenon of "swallowing hooks" makes people unable to treat mistakes correctly and positively, blame themselves and try to cover up mistakes, resulting in indelible and inevitable repeated scars. We have all had the phenomenon of "swallowing hooks", but we are unwilling to admit it ourselves.
The phenomenon of "swallowing hook" is the result of high tension and repeated plot rubbing. Whenever an individual has a psychological tie that is not suitable for life, it will activate the shadow buried deep in the subconscious and make mistakes. Shadows are always expressed through mistakes. No matter what accidental and sudden mistakes appear, from the psychological point of view, they are inevitable and spontaneous.
Neglect, humiliation and loss cannot be completely avoided for us, but we should avoid these things destroying and changing human nature, which is also the purpose of avoiding mental illness.
Learn to let go-as time goes by, the whole world rotates like a propeller ... gradually, we are getting closer and closer to the world and farther and farther away from our feelings. ...
However, what puzzles me is that more and more people choose to bow their heads when choosing the way to communicate with the world.
He walked barefoot on the beach, stopping from time to time to stare at the screen in his hand, and his fingers flicked to bring up a string of colors. Where the waves can't beat, four footprints meander forward. ...
He sat on the bench, with his guitar on his elbow, his fingers flicking on his mobile phone, and his body swayed involuntarily with the beat of the music. There are two or three guitars next to them, and the strings are vibrating and hanging in mid-air. ...
He looked at the data on his mobile phone and frowned. The overwhelming work and communication made him dizzy. A picture on the coffee table is gradually taking shape, and a crayon is helplessly smeared on the canvas. ...
I think you have witnessed such a scene more or less, and even at this moment, countless people are practicing such things personally. ...
But shouldn't the best scenery in the world be at this moment?
If at this time, he put down the phone, she put down the phone, and they all put down the phone. ...
The daughter next to her squinted with a smile and proudly held up the photo in her hand. He hugged her, full of love, and laughter echoed in the room.
He picked up the guitar in his hand, plucked the strings and sang with his teammates around him. The sun is shining behind them, and their faces are as bright and shining as the sun.
He turned to look at the women in white skirts around him. Footprints spread behind him, and the woman smiled gently. The footprints behind him turned a corner and approached the footprints next to them.
The time is just right, please cherish the people in front of you. Put down the phone, so that the world is no longer invisible.
Learn to let go -3. Born in the world, it is inevitable that you will be contaminated by all kinds of trivial things and cannot extricate yourself. This limits human nature and freedom. Only by letting go can we get rid of secular interference and be ethereal and refined.
The greed and desire of countless people for wealth and fame. However, in the case of materialistic desires, how can people calm down and pursue an empty and bright state of mind? It will only erode people's hearts like withered flowers and reduce people to materialists who believe in money.
Only by putting down the flashy false decoration in life can we find that we are not without everything. Precious wealth is hidden in everyone's body, and liberation can only be achieved by abandoning the shackles of the secular.
Let go of vanity and you will have confidence. Perhaps a vain person can create a perfect self in front of others, but that is not the real self after all. When the truth is exposed in front of everyone, although it is too embarrassing to speak, it is even more tragic that you don't even believe in your own abilities. Everyone is down and out sometimes, but there is no need to lose confidence in the future.
Only by letting go of your complaints can you get inner peace. Endless trivial disputes are a waste of time and a reflection of people's inner impetuousness. In fact, it is not that there are too many things to complain about, but that people subjectively add their own feelings. Take off your colored glasses and let go of your complaints. Naturally, you can be extraordinary in the complaining environment and get eternal peace.
Learn to let go, this is a kind of wisdom that goes back to the source. I always believe that everyone at the beginning is an angel, fresh and refined.
Learn to let go-composition 4 of Grade Three Well, the first week of the new semester passed so fast, but I haven't recovered from my unexpected failure, and I feel that everything around me has become so strange. The moment I entered the new class, I suddenly felt a sense of loneliness and fear, and even a little bit of inferiority.
My thoughts are still wandering in the past that no longer exists, and my sad eyes are wandering in the noisy corridor between classes, hoping to find some familiar figures to bring a warm current to my heart. I had a history class the afternoon before yesterday. The substitute teacher is the only former teacher-my former head teacher. Her familiar voice began to stir my blood. I always thought she was a little nagging and too tolerant, but as soon as she entered the classroom, all this vanished. At the end of that class, a sense of loss flooded my throat. I have never cherished history class so much. Now every time her familiar voice comes in from the corridor, I feel like an electric shock, and I feel so kind.
I know, I always miss the past and everything around me makes me feel insecure. I am always disappointed. Facing everything, I can bear it, but I can't let it go. The past that has passed away always makes me vent in tears every night. But I must learn to accept and adapt. Now I'm not naive. I have entered the third grade, and I need to face up to everything in front of me and face the fierce competition for the senior high school entrance examination. Today's new environment depends entirely on my state of mind, face up to reality, let go of the past, face life with a smile, replace sensibility with more rationality, and gently fold the memories of the past and collect them in the corner of my heart. ...
Learn to let go-5 One day the leaves left and asked the tree, why didn't you keep me? The tree said silently: Because the wind is chasing you, I chose to give up; Leaves ask the wind: Why do you want to pursue me? Answer: Because the tree gave up on you, I saw you alone and went after you. The leaves are silent. Is the tree too weak or is it stupid? One day, the leaves felt exhausted, so they chose to float in the wind. It asked the tree, why didn't you leave me? The tree proudly said: You are not the only leaf in the world; The leaves left sadly. It asked the wind: Why do you want to pursue me? The wind sincerely replied: Because there are no two identical leaves in the world. Leaves are silent because trees don't know how to love, or because the wind is too persistent. The leaf left, and the tree asked the leaf, why did you leave? Leaves said happily: Because I want to see the outside world. Trees love leaves so much that they don't keep them in order to satisfy their wishes. The wind asked the leaves: Why did you come with me? Leaves said with joy: Because you can satisfy me. When the leaves looked at the world curiously, the wind stopped, so the leaves fell to the ground. An oncoming car flattened the leaves and the tree was sad. He regretted not keeping the leaves and pulling them tightly.
Wear leaves; The wind continues to blow, and it is not sad at all: because I have satisfied you, you must also pay the same or even higher price. Is it that the leaves don't know how to cherish, or is the wind too heartless? We are all like this. We always have to wait for a long time, and we always have to wait until we can't retreat, before we know that what we gave up with our own hands will never be encountered again in the days to come. If the heart doesn't move, what does wind energy do ... if the heart is calm, you can hear your own voice; Only when the mind is clear can we see the essence of everything. What is unwilling to let go is often not worth cherishing; It is often not the needs of life that are pursued hard.
Learn to let go-some things, clearly in the past, but still stubbornly remember and stubbornly miss; Some passers-by, obviously gone, will stubbornly love and stubbornly hate; Sometimes, I feel very tired, but I still need tenacious support and tenacious resistance. Let go of those meaningless people and things! Who else can be stubborn? A person's stubbornness, seemingly a solid shield, actually hurts his own heart.
If the heart is small, all the little things will be big; Big heart, big things are small.
People's poverty does not come from the hardships of life, but from the loss of dignity in poor life; People's wealth does not come from the accumulation of wealth, but from a rich and unselfish life.
Any choice is flawed, and no decision is perfect. If you always want everything, you will never make a decision. When you finally choose your own direction and path according to your own mind, instead of your original living habits, don't complain, let alone regret. Only when a person bravely shoulders his own responsibilities can he leave a footprint of no regrets on the road of life.
Yesterday, omitted. Today, cherish. Tomorrow, fight for it. That's right. Hold on. Wrong, give up.
If a person can do what he likes, and support himself with it, and at the same time be with the people he likes and make them happy, it is called happiness-week.
If you are tolerant of others, you won't always be disappointed. Be strict with yourself and you won't be depressed all the time.
There is nothing wrong with people living all their lives and suffering. Can make you cherish the sweetness better. There is nothing wrong with patience, life needs to wait, and it is difficult to break out without silence; There is nothing wrong with being ordinary. It is a great luck to feel the beauty of life every day. There is nothing wrong with compromise. To take a step back and be generous with others is actually to let go of yourself. There is nothing wrong with failure, as long as it can't destroy you, it will only make you stronger.
In fact, the best day is nothing more than you are making trouble, he is laughing, and it is a warm life.
There are two things to do in life: the first thing is gratitude; The second thing is to become attached. There are two hurdles in life: love and money. There are two kinds of breath in life: one is the breath of life and the other is the breath of spirit. There are two things in life: learn to earn money and learn to think. Two basic points in life: confusion and intelligence. Two States of life: making a living and having fun.
Some things, only experienced, have a penetrating experience; Once upon a time, only by letting go from the bottom of my heart can we truly emancipate our minds. Nothing can bind your hands and feet forever; No one can belong to you forever. So, as long as you have the ability to do what you want, don't wait and don't be afraid of failure; The love you want to give, as long as you think you can, do it boldly and don't leave regrets.
Learn to let go-letting go is a kind of wisdom. When you are in a dilemma, learn to let go of a seemingly important choice. Perhaps, you will harvest the whole dawn and even get something more important.
Bill? Gates, the leading economic giant in the world. He is studying at Harvard University. He should have finished his studies, but he resolutely gave up his studies. How many teachers and students lamented at that time! However, he initiated a new era of Microsoft. People say that they care about one thing and lose another, but he interprets a legend of giving up one thing and asking for another.
He gave up his studies, but he reached the pinnacle of his life.
Xiang Yu, the overlord of a generation, was trapped and concubine fell in front of him. He led more than twenty people out of the tight encirclement and came to the bank of Wujiang River. Someone suggested: "Although Jiangdong is small, it also has thousands of miles of Fiona Fang, and the king can also be king here." Xiang Yu refused. If you die, draw your sword and kill yourself. Blood stained the banks of Wujiang River, but how many people admired it! "Life is a hero, death is a ghost male. I still miss Xiang Yu and refuse to cross Jiangdong. "
He gave up hegemony, but his pride is immortal.
People put down their comfort, not because they can't enjoy life, but to stick to their ambitions; People put down their lives, not to gain death, but to safeguard their own personality and dignity! Letting go is not a kind of wisdom?
Learn to let go-8 Every day, we have something unpleasant, such as quarreling with friends, being criticized by teachers, or other things.
Everything in life can't be unsatisfactory. If you keep everything in mind, it's like carrying a heavy burden. But if we learn to let go and forget some unhappy things, then we will be much more relaxed.
Life is like an hourglass, with troubles at one end and happiness at the other. The more troubles, the less happiness. On the contrary, if you learn to let go and forget all your troubles, the less troubles you have, the more happiness you will have.
Life is like a bottle, which contains stones, stones are troubles, and gaps are happiness. The more stones in the bottle, the fewer cracks and the less happiness. If you open your heart, let go of your troubles and take out the stones piece by piece, the more cracks there are, the more happiness you will have.
If you travel with a heavy backpack, you will feel very tired and unhappy, but if you open the bag and put down the unimportant things inside, you will be relaxed and feel better.
It is a good thing for you to give up some unimportant things and forget some troubles. After giving up, your heart will not be tired, forget your troubles, and your vision will be suddenly enlightened.
Sometimes, giving up is also an acquisition; Forgetting is also the best choice.
Learn to let go-9 We came to this world with tears in our eyes; Finally, he died in other people's tears. This middle process is called life.
On the road of life, we constantly explore and pursue, and we gain and lose. Life is actually a process of constant pursuit, constant gain and constant loss.
We keep moving forward on the road of life. As people often say, people can't have smooth sailing in this life without any setbacks. The road of life is full of hardships, difficulties and setbacks. Living in this world, we are destined to get something and lose something. Sometimes, we often get ourselves black and blue because of one thing or one thing. In fact, it is not necessarily worthwhile to calm down and think about it.
People can afford to buy and put it down. It is survival to take up, and life to put down; What you can afford is ability, but what you can put down is wisdom.
Some people can't afford it, and it doesn't matter if they can't put it down; Some people can't put it down, and finally they are only tired. If you can't afford it, it means you have no ability; If you can't let go, it means that you are always too concerned about gains and losses. If you can't afford it, you are willing to be mediocre for life. If you can't let it go, you will have a lot of burdens out of thin air and put yourself under pressure.
Life is such a process of gain and loss. Letting go is a life attitude and a philosophy. Letting go is also for better progress.
The road of life is very long, and along the way, there will be gains and losses. There is an old saying: "The old will not go, and the new will not come". Nothing in life is eternal.
On the road of life, take it lightly, learn to let go, and let go of yourself. Nine times out of ten there will be unpleasant things in life. Instead of using these things to work hard and worry about yourself, it is better to care about this landscape and listen to stories in the wind.
Learn to let go-the third grade composition 10 I just think that you should learn to let go of home delivery. Since childhood, you have played a role in your relationship. Now, you should learn to let go. You can see that they can all put it down. Why not?
However, I will still be inexplicably sad. I don't know if I will meet such a person. Although I don't want to make a big change for me, he will make a small change for me. I don't know if the people I meet in the future will still talk to me, and occasionally I will inexplicably hope that I will be the rest of my life.
Actually, I said I don't love you, but I think if I go back, I'll be trapped in a situation where I want to share and I don't want to share. This is actually quite good, after all, this is only a short-term torture, and we will all let go of each other after a while.
I really can't bear to yell when I think of it. I tortured myself for so long that I wanted to call him. Then I inexplicably remembered that I always called him when I was at school, and I was not together. It was really because I was tortured by my own thoughts that I finally couldn't help calling him.
I still hope he won't be too dark and sad, don't be a little cold to the people around him like me, and don't speak in a light tone. I was really happy when I had it, and then I really struggled with sadness and happiness. This should stop the loss in time, right?
Learn to let go-1 1 You can't change your face, but you can smile. You can't control the weather, but you can change your mood. You can't predict the Ming Dynasty, but you can grasp today. You can't have smooth sailing, but you can go all out.
Everyone will encounter difficulties in life. I am no exception. A rainy day after the final exam. I am looking forward to it. I thought I could get a good grade by turning on my mobile phone to check my grades, but that string of data pierced my heart like a sharp knife, ranking tenth in my class. Lying in bed alone, watching the continuous rain outside, my heart is full of unwillingness and regret. Looking at the rain outside the window, tears fell quietly. While crying, I look back at my study in the past month, and my inner regrets cannot be eliminated. Suddenly a sparrow screamed in the wind and rain outside the window and landed on the windowsill. It wants to fly away from the windowsill again and again and fly back to the stable nest. But because of the storm, it returned to the windowsill again and again. It jumps back and forth on the windowsill, trying to fly again and again. I forgot to shed tears and was moved by its indomitable spirit, wiping the tears on my face. Get out of bed, sit at the desk, open the textbook and start studying hard. Where you fall, you have to get up.
I don't know when the rain stopped and the wind stopped. The sparrow outside the window has flown away. My heart has also become extremely firm, opening the window and breathing the fresh air after the rain. My heart is full of strength, and a voice tells me that tears of regret can't wash away shame. Only by letting go of the past and readjusting your posture can we find the way to success!
Learn to let go-12 worldly wisdom is a normal thing in this world. We are always suspicious in front of people, and the trust between people has become a rare and precious thing.
Caution is not innate, but in this unfriendly world, you are forced to use it to protect yourself.
I remember one summer, when I was in junior high school, after the primary school graduation exam, my mother sent me to various cram schools to make up lessons. I said I want to preview the knowledge of junior high school and win at the starting line of junior high school. I will remember to bring an egg when I go out in the future. Because of the alarm clock, I will be late for cram school at night. I grabbed a dress in a hurry, put it on and went out. I drank several buses in a hurry without looking. Hu Dawei finally didn't have to transfer, when a simple middle-aged man came up to me. Hello, this time my heart has been immediately alert to what is going on. I don't know him. Forget it. Ignore him. Parents and teachers kept drifting back and forth in their thick doors. Don't talk to strangers easily when you go out. There are many liars now. You are the one who turned to look at the window. At this time, a key figure dressed in an amateur whispered, hello, your clothes are on backwards, and you suddenly had mixed feelings before. The following vehicles leave.
It turns out that people are not wary because of strangeness, but because of vigilance and strangeness. Learn to let go of your guard and cherish everyone you pass by, and you will find that the world is not only guarded, but also full of tenderness and love.
Learn to Let Go-13 I always feel that addition, subtraction, multiplication and division are simpler than subtraction, because people always carry forward unconsciously, and often frown slightly when the borrowed money is reduced, but they forget what the old people often say: "Be open-minded and affordable." So at a time like this ...
That son of a bitch in Class Two (Seven) six years ago is very different now. Seven-and eight-year-old children are self-righteous and fearless, knowing that Taoism is the toughest teacher in the whole grade, but they still make waves: just after entering the class, some students called me and said that someone had touched my things. How could I stand it then? I immediately slapped him in the face. Although the small hand is hit hard, it hurts to hit the face of peers.
Just want to play again, the class teacher stopped me, grabbed me to a corner of the classroom, and told me to squat down to listen to the class. I clearly remember that the teacher talked about "The Shepherd Boy" in that class. The students' neat reading and listening stung my heart and calf, making my feet more and more sour, but tears flowed out unwillingly.
In fact, that son of a bitch didn't know that his classmates lied to him and tricked him, and then went to the teacher to accuse him of fighting in class. Now think about it, what's so angry about such a small thing? When I went home to complain to my parents, I got a scoff on my face, leaving a shadow of my small psychology. I dare not get angry at will any more.
I hit a wall everywhere and am often laughed at. I am numb by this society, and I can't see anything on my face, but I always cry silently at a night alone.
Usually making a playful smile is just self-mockery. Everyone is a clown who is good at acting, but what is hidden behind the twisted smiling face is still unknown.
Walking on the road, a seven-or eight-year-old boy in sandals stepped on a puddle with an umbrella. Passers-by have a supercilious look, and some are speechless. Only me, just a flash, smiled, because I met me once. ......
Learn to let go-14, third grade composition, I have seen such a photo, holding a blooming rose tightly in one hand, even if it is bloody. Such photos make my thoughts extend far away.
What is the rose in our life? Perhaps it is hopeless love, family ties kidnapped by morality, and superficial friendship; Perhaps it is money and wealth, and it is an unattainable yearning and longing. Like soap bubbles, even if you chase it, you can't possess it. After all, it will be riddled with holes.
People come naked, turn into a wisp of smoke and go away, with both ends empty, but the process is unexpected to anyone. The world full of temptation and greedy people make the quiet world of mortals restless, and it is difficult to shake off all the dust.
In fact, the struggle in life lies in owning and letting go. How many people are scarred by the burden, bent down, but still unwilling to let go of those illusory temptations.
We should learn to let go, let go of those infinite desires, and let go of those events that have a negative impact on life. The ups and downs in life are completely normal. It's not easy to let it go. Those feelings engraved in my heart, even if I say let go, still unwilling in the middle of the night.
However, letting go is an alternative. Only by making room for your heart and letting go of people and things that don't belong to you can you change into new happiness. The road ahead is still too long, and you will have the best trip if you go into battle lightly.
Learn to let go-there are too many beautiful things in life, but we can't accept them all, so learn to give up and let go. As long as people have desires, they will continue to choose. Choosing is painful, but letting go is so simple, easy and easy.
Put it down, there are good and bad. In my life, I believe it is the same, that's all. For example, I want to get what I need to learn tonight, but there will always be something tempting you, such as TV. When you are bored in the room, you hear the sound of TV outside, run out and come out half an hour later. If you can't get the requirements of learning, you must start to choose to let go. Think again, hold it down with one punch and watch TV. Let go, learn to let go, that is, you can't learn, which is what students often do. The simplest example is that when I choose an aspect, I give up. It is not good to give up here.
When we desperately came up with various tricks to go to Internet cafes, we gave up our studies. Sometimes, when we choose between listening and not speaking, we can't make a judgment at once, and the final result will only be bad for ourselves.
Learn to let go, learn to let go of some bad things and stick to some good things. When someone asks you for something, you have to try and give it to him, which will be a different result. As the saying goes, if you give up, you will get it, and if you don't give up, you will get it.
Some things can't be put down, but they will be forgotten, but if they are forgotten, they are not themselves. It is much better to let go than to forget the past. Learn to understand what you can't let go, and learn to bear what you can easily let go.
It is best to learn to let go, and it is best to learn to let go selectively. In life, although you can't give up easily, you still have to learn to let go of something. Human nature is good.