Confucius said, "Being born with virtue is better than Ofuse, so what should you give?"

-The Analects of Confucius

When three people walk together, someone must be my teacher. Mr. nan enriched the meaning of this sentence. In fact, it should be said that everyone can be his own teacher, and there must be something worth learning in one or several aspects. People who are better than themselves are teachers, but people who are not as good as themselves can also become teachers, because when they see their own shortcomings, they will reflect on themselves. Therefore, everyone is my teacher for reference and reflection.

It is very difficult to get along with others, find out their strengths, and let you really send out ideas for improvement and learning from the heart. True men of insight often compare themselves to "a drop in the ocean". When someone praised Newton for his foresight, Newton replied very modestly, "That's because I stood on the shoulders of giants." The reason why the sea is so vast and magnificent is that it accepts the trickle of all rivers and never refuses.

Yan Shu, a famous figure in the Northern Song Dynasty, traveled south of the Yangtze River. He heard that there are many good poems in daming temple, Yangzhou, and decided to enjoy them. He came to daming temple and asked his attendants to recite the poems on the temple wall in turn. Yan Shu avoided cliches and relied on poetry critics to ask only the author's name, place of origin and status. As a result, a local official named Wang Qi stood out. Yan Shu didn't despise Wang Qi because of his low status. Have a heart-to-heart talk with him. Yan Shu sang "Helpless Flowers Fall" by accident before, and never sang a good sentence. At this time, I heard it and casually continued to say "I saw Yan again", which made Yan Shu sit up and take notice and marvel.

Generally speaking, in real life, as long as you carefully observe the people around you, you will find that even the best people will have some shortcomings, and those who look boring will certainly have some advantages.

Therefore, when dealing with people and things, we only need to learn from others' strengths and take others' shortcomings as a warning to ourselves. People should remember that "the whole game is lost, but humility benefits", but humility should not be too much, too much, and at the same time, they should be confident, otherwise they will follow suit and lose themselves.

Huan, a doctor in the Song Dynasty, once decided to murder Confucius. When the students got the news, they told Confucius to escape, and Confucius ignored it. He told the students that I was born in heaven and put the responsibility of inheriting history and culture on me. How dare Huan and how can he hurt me? It turned out that Huan dared not do anything to Confucius.

Is this arrogance? No, it's confidence. We should have absolute confidence and remain humble at the same time.