Many people always complain that they have paid so much for themselves and got so little in return. Therefore, in order to achieve a balance between pay and return, I took great pains to report my fatigue. But in the end, I didn't understand whether the two were really proportional. In fact, you don't have to care so much about life. What matters is whether you pay back! Perhaps, what people want is just a kind of balance within themselves.
I don't know if you have seen the story of the Buddha cutting meat and feeding it to the eagle. When the Buddha saved a hungry and dying eagle, there was nothing to feed it. There is no choice but to cut meat from yourself and feed it to the eagle. This shows the depth of enlightenment of Buddha. If the Buddha had thought about whether giving and returning are proportional, then there would be no such story. When we do something or pay, sometimes we may not get any real return, or the return is not proportional to the pay. In fact, we pay for others, others may not be able to give us a real return, but in his heart, he must be full of gratitude to you. In fact, this is enough, because we have helped others, and we may also get pleasure.
I saw a story before: generally speaking, when giving or helping others, we should properly understand some returns. I didn't feel very clear before, so I have to understand the reward of helping others! With the passage of time and the growth of social experience, I gradually understand some of the reasons. When we help a person in need, it may be something that we can easily accomplish without blowing off dust, but why not help others! Afterwards, we will feel that this is just a small matter. Why do you need other feedback? It seems a little too realistic, so we always ignore other people's feedback. In fact, sometimes it is good for the people you help to know some rewards properly. They may not be able to give us more valuable returns, perhaps just a small gift or a glass of water, a home-cooked meal. But in their hearts, there is also a feeling of gratitude. When we refuse small gifts, we also refuse others' thanks! If we do this often, we may feel guilty in others' hearts, or think that we don't think his reward is good enough. Therefore, after helping others, please don't turn people away easily when others repay you.
We don't have to get a reward after paying, but when others really want to give you a reward, we should also receive some rewards appropriately and give others a chance to repay you. Also let others feel that he doesn't owe you anything, otherwise he will always feel indebted to you in others' hearts.
If you pay, it's hard to think whether the return is proportional to the pay. If you pay, you will get something back. It's just a matter of how much you get back.