At my graduation thank-you banquet, Mr. Xiao and Mr. Wang gave me unanimous comments: "I am smarter and more flexible, but I need to be more practical." I have been working in the unit for a week, and I have a drink with the leader for the first time. After drinking, the leader told me a lot of behind-the-scenes things. He said, "Our college office only recruits one person this year, and the dean requires all students to be education majors. A dozen people were told to come for an interview. Some of them are really better than you in school brand, academics and writing, but they still want you in the end. Why? It is precisely because you are "cunning" that you answer questions during the interview, and you answer directly what you know, and you don't answer directly what you don't understand. You have been beating around the bush. Director Li of the personnel department voted against it. He thinks that although your ability is most suitable for this job, you are not very good at interview skills. We hired you because of your cunning and tact. Of course, this is not a derogatory term. Twice, on two most important occasions, a mentor and a leader made similar comments on me. One is a mentor who has been together for three years, and of course there are not many opportunities for contact. The other is a leader who has just been in contact for ten days. Why do they comment on me like this? I really don't agree with their evaluation of me. When they said that I was "unreliable in my work", I really felt very wronged and very sad. My parents criticized me since I was a child. " You are always too honest. Look at the other kids. Although things were not done well, they were agreed, so it was better to lead in the end. "I have always felt that" some personalities cannot be changed by nature, so I am sincere. I don't think there's anything wrong with it. At least I'm practical. I will learn to speak slowly in the future. "From small to large, I have always positioned myself as: sincere, honest, practical, not opportunistic, not good at words, not talking. If things are done well, they will be considered bad by others, won't be recognized and liked by others, and have no future. On the basis of this positioning, I have been changing for so many years. On the basis of adhering to the excellent quality of doing things in a down-to-earth manner, I have been trying to train myself to be active and lively. I must put everything in place and let others recognize me and like me. Secondly, being practical and speaking tactfully are not contradictory or antonyms, but I still have some failures in my life. Some people are not practical and always opportunistic, but their mouths are smooth and can make people around them feel sincere and practical. Such people are the smartest people. Some people are down-to-earth and glib, which can make people around them feel his sincerity and reality. Such people may be the most successful people. And I belong to that kind of practical work, and I work hard and smoothly, but I don't do very well and I don't learn well enough. So people around me think that I am insincere, unreal, unrealistic and quite a failure. So, when I get that evaluation, I will be very heartbroken. So I haven't figured out a question: Is practicality and fluency really contradictory? Do down-to-earth people really have to be clumsy, honest and inappropriate? Is a person who speaks tactfully and tries to cover everything, no matter whether it is practical or not, will be considered unrealistic by others? People will think that a down-to-earth person must be honest when he speaks, and a glib person must be opportunistic when he does things, which seems to make sense. But it is not contradictory. Maybe you are too eloquent at first, and others will have such an impression on you. But as the saying goes, "It's a long way to go, and Xiu Yuan knows the horsepower, and people will see it for a long time.". When people around you have been in contact with you for a long time, they will see what kind of person you are and what you have done there. It's not your mouth that is in charge, but the fact that you are here. So, don't worry about the evaluation of your leader. The two are not contradictory. After a long time, they will see your down-to-earth side, and you will also see your eloquent and confident side. The combination of the two will be recognized and accepted by colleagues and leaders around. You are also destined to be an excellent talent and will make great achievements. Although my tutor has been in contact with me for three years, I still have such an evaluation, mainly because there are not many opportunities for direct contact. The tutor's evaluation of each of us is mainly based on the process of doing graduation thesis. Although others will think that what I say below is sophistry, I want to say that I am sincere sophistry. Everyone has different abilities and is good at different things. For me, learning math well is as difficult as climbing to the sky. For people majoring in mathematics, it is so easy. For my little brother, writing academic papers is so handy, but for me, it is so tormented and difficult. On the other hand, it is so easy for me to deal with people and make a deal, but for my little brother. Three years of contact with the tutor is mainly reflected in the process of doing the graduation thesis. His academic thesis is well done, and his tutor will think that his character is practical. If I don't do well, my tutor will think that I am not practical and even a little opportunistic. My defense is that this is only in the writing of academic papers, not including all other things, let alone the judgment of a person's character or even personality. In the end, it was not good enough. If you want others to have a good evaluation of yourself, you must conquer others through your own words and deeds and actively and intentionally construct others' cognition of you. First of all, things should be practical as always. After a long time, leaders and others will see it. Secondly, you must speak tactfully and delicately in order to be suitable for your job, to do your job well, to cope with various occasions, and to be appreciated and favored by leaders; Thirdly, we must be very meticulous, comprehensive and fully in place, always keep ten times the energy, actively respond to everything, devote ourselves to everything, overcome success with details, and strive to make everything perfect, so that leaders and people around us can nod their heads. Finally, and most importantly, I must admit that I am a sincere person, a sensitive person, a kind-hearted and helpful person. I am strict with myself and tolerant of others, but if your words and deeds make others feel this way, then being a person will be quite a failure and you will be extremely wronged. So, remember, treat people sincerely, be approachable, communicate with leaders, colleagues and friends with your heart, think of them all the time, get along very harmoniously with each of them, let them accept that you are a trustworthy person who can become a real friend, and they will feel your sincere heart.