Nowadays, many people are lazy and want others to help them with everything, but can it really be done well?

A man suddenly felt that his back was itchy, so he called the child and said to him, my back is itchy, please scratch it for me.

Hearing this, the child quickly reached into his father's clothes and scratched his father's back, but he couldn't find a suitable position after several scratches. The man was anxious and said, go and get your mother.

My wife also rushed over, but she didn't scratch it five times in a row. The man was anxious and said, idiot, this little thing can't be done.

Finally, the man had to scratch himself. Although it was inconvenient, he found the right position at once, and his back soon stopped itching.

In fact, only you know where your body itches, and you know that you scratch. Is there anything you can't catch?

I had this situation once. Once I was sick and didn't want to move in bed, but I wanted to get something from the opposite table, so I called my mother and asked her to help me get it. It's hard to describe and has no name. My mother took a few pictures, none of which I wanted. Finally, I had no choice but to get out of bed and get it myself.

It is better to rely on yourself than to seek help from others. You know your own affairs best, and even the closest people can't understand all your thoughts. Do it yourself if you have any problems, and then ask others for help when you can't help. You know, the person who can solve his own problems best is himself!

Chapter two: it is better to ask for yourself than to ask for others.

Dumas, an unknown person, often writes articles and contributes articles, but his manuscripts are often returned. His father Dumas couldn't bear it, and said to him, "When you donate, you can tell the recipient that you are my son, and they will treat you well." But Dumas said, "No, I don't need your help. I have to rely on myself. " After repeated attempts, finally, a masterpiece La Traviata was born.

Imagine that Dumas might get preferential treatment if he listened to his father, but I think it is difficult for him to achieve so much.

In the case of foreign technology blockade, China National Heavy Duty Truck Group has developed an engine with international advanced level by relying on self-reliance and independent innovation. The boss said excitedly, "they can stop it, but we have two skillful hands." We can save ourselves by our own strength and even create a higher record. "

From ancient times to the present, whether it is a self-recommended story; The deeds of Bobby Chen and Guangwu; Xue Tao, an ancient talented woman, is constantly striving for self-improvement: China does not rely on food aid to solve the food problem; In the movie "No One Can Be Less", Zhang Yimou chose the actor and Wei Minzhi recommended himself; Hong Zhanhui declined the support of good people for their brothers and sisters. As long as the backbone is not bent, there is no mountain that can't be carried; Shooter Li Du's Gold Winning Course ...

Blindly asking for help will make us dull, dependent and lose confidence. The fruit of asking for help is not sweet, and asking for help itself is a debt. Ask for help, we will get the happiness of solving problems, but we will never get the real satisfaction inside. We know the situation best ourselves. Self-pursuit is a sign of self-confidence.

Yi Rensheng said, "The strongest person in the world is a lonely and self-reliant person." Galt also said, "Let me use my strength on the battlefield of life."

Please remember: don't pin your hopes on others, you are lucky to have someone to help you; It's a just fate that no one helps you. No one should do anything for you, because life is your own and you are responsible for yourself.

Chapter three: it is better to ask for yourself than to ask for others.

The Zen master said, "Please find yourself an umbrella" and told us that it is better to ask others than to ask for yourself. The only one who can really help yourself is yourself.

Thus, Mr. Nan Huai Jin associated himself with being a human being. He said: "If you don't work hard to stand on your own feet and find ways from yourself, you will complain bitterly and hope to get sympathy from others to solve your problems. There will be no such thing in the world. The principles of personal affairs, state affairs and what happens in the world are the same. Only by yourself is the only way to survive.

Dumas, an unknown person, often writes articles and contributes articles, but his manuscripts are often returned. His father Dumas couldn't bear it, and said to him, "When you donate, you can tell the recipient that you are my son, and they will treat you well." But Dumas said, "No, I don't need your help. I have to rely on myself. " After repeated attempts, finally, a masterpiece La Traviata was born.

Imagine that Dumas might get preferential treatment if he listened to his father, but I think it is difficult for him to achieve so much.

In the case of foreign technology blockade, China National Heavy Duty Truck Group has developed an engine with international advanced level by relying on self-reliance and independent innovation. The boss said excitedly, "they can stop it, but we have two skillful hands." We can save ourselves by our own strength and even create a higher record. "

From ancient times to the present, whether it is a self-recommended story; The deeds of Bobby Chen and Guangwu; Xue Tao, an ancient talented woman, is constantly striving for self-improvement: China does not rely on food aid to solve the food problem; In the movie "No One Can Be Less", Zhang Yimou chose the actor and Wei Minzhi recommended himself; Hong Zhanhui declined the support of good people for their brothers and sisters. As long as the backbone is not bent, there is no mountain that can't be carried; Shooter Li Du's gold medal winning course.

Blindly asking for help will make us dull, dependent and lose confidence. The fruit of asking for help is not sweet, and asking for help itself is a debt. Ask for help, we will get the happiness of solving problems, but we will never get the real satisfaction inside. We know the situation best ourselves. Self-pursuit is a sign of self-confidence.

Yi Rensheng said, "The strongest person in the world is a lonely and self-reliant person." Galt also said, "Let me use my strength on the battlefield of life."

Please remember: don't pin your hopes on others, you are lucky to have someone to help you; It's a just fate that no one helps you. No one should do anything for you, because life is your own and you are responsible for yourself.

Chapter four: it is better to ask for yourself than to ask for others.

"It's better to beg others than yourself" is an independent hero, and I deeply admire him. I still don't believe that my hero is "not as good as asking for help", and I dare not ignore the power of human resources like a hero and say that asking for help is not as good as asking for help. In this view, heroes come from civilians and belong to the broad title of civilians from beginning to end. As long as you can call him a hero.

However, the hero's admiration for swallowing mountains and rivers is like a storm coming and thunder exploding. Then force people to worship God and dominate the world. Hard work paved the way for public opinion in the People's Republic of China. As soon as the east wind burned, all the civilians were bewitched by the so-called beliefs left over from feudal ills, and then they shouted affectionately in front of the mirror: "It is better to beg others than to beg for yourself." Unfortunately, civilians are blinded by the dazzling aura of self-confidence. Caught in the seemingly self-seeking, but actually asking for people and seeking special hypocrisy. So I dare not look at myself in the mirror and shout, "Why don't you ask for help?"

The success or failure of any hero's honor or disgrace will be borne by countless "people" as a stepping stone to misfortune. For the most famous heroes, fighting heroes rely on servants who do their best and unprecedented disciples. Two fists are no match for four hands. Even if you are a hero, you should go forward bravely. As a result, he singled out a group of enemies and then died a tragic end. Without Jin Yong's ultimate fantasy, your hero has little chance of survival, let alone being called a hero by future generations. Fighting depends on manpower and needs a group of brothers and disciples who swear allegiance to the death. In this way, it is not only huge, but also has the reputation of "taking the lead and speaking out". There is a good chance of survival! Just ask someone to win, or be polite, corporal Lixian. Let's make peace-the draw will last forever. It is understandable to ask for help.

Qi Jiguang, Yuan Chonghuan and Yang Jiajiang, who is alone, fighting bravely? He is a hero, but he never denies the power of human resources. Like Qijia Group, you want others, soldiers who work hard to the death. When fighting bloody battles, it's no use asking for it yourself. Soldiers are required to bravely kill the enemy and take the lead in giving fresh fish a chance to rally and turn over. Miraculously, at most, less wins more. The hero who fought this battle is the reason why he wants the hero to cherish the hero and cherish the hero. Once talented people enter this country, they will try their best to protect them. I know. It was the hero who made it. The mystery here is naturally obvious. It is better to ask for yourself than to ask for others! One can't be a hero.

The hero's name goes down in history, and asking for word-of-mouth recognition means asking for an opportunity to shine. Dont Ask For Help, it's like dying. What sages want to say is what they want from others, not what they want from themselves. It's no use asking for a name, you can only ask for someone.

However, heroes should always set a perfect example for future generations to worship. The night sky asks people to admit that there is no need to control words and deeds after striving for perfection. One day you drown your sorrows in wine and go crazy in the name of a hero, which is understandable. After all, heroes have difficulties. A hero is a hero if he wants something, and he never wants everyone to be a hero. Of course I won't instruct you to ask for help. On the other hand, all modest and sincere heroes should consider the loyalty of heroes all over the world.

What's more, heroes should be proud of flaunting their rhetoric. It's better to ask for help than to ask for help! It seems that this sentence is absolutely believed.

Chapter 5: It is better to ask others than yourself.

Better to rely on yourself than to go to others for help. In our life, we often ask others for help, but is this right?

There was once a story: someone was hiding from the rain under the eaves and saw Guanyin walking by with an umbrella. The man said, "Guanyin Bodhisattva, how about spending some time with all beings and taking me for a while?"

Guanyin said, "I am in the rain, you are under the eaves, and there is no rain under the eaves." I don't need to spend it. " The man immediately jumped off the eaves and stood in the rain: "now I'm in the rain, too." Is it time to treat me? " Guanyin said, "You are in the rain and I am in the rain. I didn't get wet because of an umbrella.": You were caught in the rain because there was no umbrella. So it's not me, it's me. You don't have to look for me, please find your own umbrella. " Say that finish and left.

The next day, the man was in trouble and went to the temple to ask for Guanyin. When I walked into the temple, I found a man worshipping in front of Guanyin statue. That man looks exactly like Guanyin.

The man asked, "Are you Guanyin?" The man replied, "I am Guanyin." The man asked again, "Then why do you still worship yourself?" Guanyin smiled and said, "I met death, but I know that it is better to ask for yourself than to ask for others."

Yes, why do we turn to others for help when we encounter any difficulties? Why put these difficult things on others and let others think and deal with them? Why can't you find the best solution?

In fact, once we ask others, we lose an opportunity to exercise ourselves. Every loss can't lay a solid foundation for independence and self-improvement. In that case, you can't even care about your future life.

Therefore, for us, it is better to ask for help than to ask for help. When we encounter difficulties, we can't blame others. It is the best way to find a way by yourself.

Chapter 6: It is better to ask others than yourself.

There is a story: A devout Buddhist encountered a problem and went to Kannonji to worship Guanyin. He found a man who looked exactly like Guanyin in front of the statue of Guanyin. The believer asked, "Who are you?" "I am Guanyin, I have a problem!" "Then why do you worship yourself?" "Because I know that it is better to ask for help than to ask for help!"

Yes, it is. Many times, it is better to ask others for help than to ask yourself for help. Perhaps many people will retort-"Many hands make light work!" "What if my idea is wrong?" "How can a person do it?" However, in an uninhabited environment, when you are in trouble and close to danger, don't you run to other people's places for help? If so, it will not only waste time, but also increase the danger. Because if you meet enemies or wild animals, you will be killed or injured, and the problem remains unsolved. Therefore, at this time, only by thinking independently and being calm can we use our quick wits and save the day.

Everyone must have heard the story of Sima Guang smashing a jar. If Sima Guang had gone for help, it would have been too late. Because the child who fell into the jar may have died long ago. Therefore, Sima Guang kept calm in a crisis, thought independently, and saved the child with his own cleverness. Doesn't this story also prove this point? Sometimes asking for help from others will make things worse and miss the best opportunity. Therefore, in that case, we must seize the time and find a way. I have one thing myself, which can also illustrate this point: a very difficult topic stumped me, and I couldn't figure it out after thinking for a long time. I tried to recall the solution to this problem, and time passed by. Finally, I cleared my mind and eliminated all kinds of interference, and finally solved it. If I asked someone else, the result would be the same-I got the answer. Some people say that asking others can save time, don't they? But if so, the effect will be a hundred thousand miles away. Isn't it the same the next time you encounter this kind of problem? Through your own independent thinking, what you can do is your own, so you are not afraid to encounter similar problems again.

You can do this whenever you encounter any problems. Think for yourself first, and find a way to solve it yourself. There are always answers or ideas. As the saying goes, it is better to ask others than to ask yourself!

Chapter 7: It's better to ask for yourself than to ask for others.

Looking back on the past, when many people face difficulties and struggles, they think more about attacking them head-on. As the saying goes, it is better to ask for yourself than to ask for others. But times are changing, and people's thinking patterns are also changing. The era of self-seeking seems to be out of date, replaced by the era of asking for help. This so-called self-help is not as good as asking for help.

However, it is better to ask yourself whether people are really suitable for you. Maybe I don't know where to answer this question now.

The concept of "asking for help is not as good as asking for help" is now widely accepted. It can be seen that asking others is more powerful and effective than asking yourself.

In fact, asking for help and being asked for help are interdependent but independent, because every time we decide to ask for help, we have to think repeatedly through our own brains, and then subconsciously make a decision to ask for help when we realize that there is nothing we can do, which also reflects the interdependence between asking for help and being asked for help. Independence is reflected in the fact that we ask for help because we have no direct ability to accomplish the expected things or goals, which is called self-help. Therefore, it is better to ask for help than to ask for help. What you ask for is the ability and power of others. It is absolutely impossible to rely on yourself.

Nowadays, the struggle between interests and money and power is getting more and more fierce, which shows that it is popular between you and me to ask for help rather than help yourself. People will build a bridge between people at all costs. Of course, it is undeniable that while asking for help, one's dignity is also being lost. In order to achieve the goal we want, we bow and scrape in front of others. Although we feel sad, we think it's all worthwhile to achieve our goal. If not, let's also think about how much their face is worth. Perhaps, it is not so much to help yourself as to ask for help from others, which is a general trend and a "trend" in today's society. In this case, what is exposed is the distortion of people's psychological thoughts, and the world makes people so crazy. People are willing to lose themselves for money and power. I'm afraid no one believes that self-help will still work. As long as they encounter something that they can't do directly now, they will immediately ask for help and tear their faces. It can be seen that it is really a "truth" to ask yourself rather than others.

Indeed, it is undeniable that asking for help is faster than asking for help, which is exactly what people are eager to follow. However, when people are lost in the dispute between money and power, when building relationships and establishing relationships has become the best way to do things, have you ever thought about what we are losing and what is flowing in our blood is changing? We lose ourselves, deny ourselves, and even become modern machines in the world. Our thoughts have long been formatted by secular concepts. After all, what can we leave?

In the busy life, it is hard for us to imagine the leisure and tranquility of life in Tao Qian. All we can think about is the struggle between you and me. Asking for help is the first priority, and I'm afraid there is nothing else. In the end, we will "naturally" forget the value of ourselves, because we no longer know how to seek ourselves, and even forget that there is such a way. All this makes people numb and dull, almost crazy. As the master of self, how can you not go with the flow? I'm afraid we must think rationally. Asking for help at a critical moment will play a certain role, but asking for help from yourself is the most important thing. Take the college entrance examination as an example. Parents want their children to be admitted to famous universities. Therefore, some parents ask people to change their household registration and nationality at all costs to get "considerable" points, but in the end things will always come out and parents will not miss their children's future. It can be seen that asking for help is not everything, but also depends on the place and occasion. In learning, we can only succeed by asking ourselves, which depends on others. No matter how much we ask others, without our own efforts, we will eventually have nothing. However, in adult society, it is "truth" that it is better to ask for help than to ask for yourself in the war between officials and businessmen, but if you get lost in it, you will eventually gain fame and fortune.

When we focus on the tide of society, we will find that being in society is involuntary, and we will miss life if we are not careful. The truth that asking for others is not as good as asking for yourself is popular in the world, and it has even become the general trend. A big factor is our lack of rational thinking and more self-denial, but other factors are that we can't directly touch the goal at this stage and must rely on others. In other words, when it comes to self-reliance such as study, we can't take asking for help as our behavior concept. We have to rely on ourselves in this respect. In fact, this is the so-called thing that can't be lost, or you will lose yourself.

In the turbulent clouds, people struggle endlessly; The sunset is like blood, and I am as sober as ever. When it has become a "trend" to ask for ourselves instead of others, we should calmly think about whether we are suitable for the long road under our feet. Of course, this is a question of life, and it is also an indefinite multiple choice question. In the face of it, we must maintain our rationality, because "truth" will still change, aphorisms still need the times, and the weight of demanding ourselves and others may be subverted in the next moment.

Chapter 8: It's better to ask for yourself than to ask for others.

Fo Yin, Yuan Zen Master and Su Dongpo were walking in the suburbs together, and they saw a Guanyin stone statue on the way. Fo Yin immediately folded his hands and worshipped Guanyin.

Seeing this situation, Su Dongpo asked inexplicably: "Guanyin was originally the object of our worship. Why does he want to hang beads on his hands and cross his hands to recite Buddha? Who is Guanyin reading? "

Zen master Fo Yin: "You must ask yourself."

Su Dongpo: "How do I know who Guanyin is chanting with a rosary?"

Fo Yin: "It is better to ask yourself than to ask others."

Learning Buddhism is actually learning from yourself and perfecting yourself. Zen people have absolute self-esteem, and most of them have the spirit of looking at the world and giving up others. The so-called "self-study since since the enlightenment" and "self-reliance" are examples of Zen people.

We don't know that we have endless treasures. We don't ask for ourselves, but for the care and support of others. If we can't meet our requirements, we will be discouraged. How can a person without strength take responsibility? How can a person who often tears give joy to others? Confucianism said: "If you don't suffer from nowhere, you won't stand." As long as there are conditions, nothing is needed. Isn't that what Guanyin Bodhisattva meant when she read her name with a rosary in her hand?