The elderly who have lost their independence are a special group in our society. With the passage of time, millions of elderly people who have lost their independence have entered the twilight of their lives. How to resettle those who lost their independence in their later years? This is a problem that must be solved now. It is the responsibility of the government to let the elderly who have lost their independence enjoy their old age, and it is also the embodiment of the people-oriented concept in modern society.

The primary reason for the emergence of families who have lost their families is the long-term and large-scale implementation of the family planning policy in China. 1in the middle of 1980, the Central Committee of the Communist Party of China issued an open letter to all Communist party member and Communist Youth League members about controlling the population growth in China, which marked the beginning of the full implementation of the family planning policy in China. The family planning policy has reduced the birth of more than 300 million people in China and provided favorable population conditions for the development of socialist modernization. However, for single families, the only child greatly increases the family's pension risk. At present, the plight of families who have lost their only child is mainly caused by the loss of their only child, and the large-scale existence of one-child families is entirely caused by the government's family planning policy. Since the implementation of the family planning policy, people in party member have responded to the call of the Party, abided by national laws and regulations, and only had one child. For those who dare to have more children, the relevant departments also try their best to stop or even punish them. The slogan "Family planning is good, the government will provide for the aged" has been widely used in the headlines and banners of newspapers and media in China, which is the commitment of governments at all levels to the broad masses of the people. As a direct vulnerable group caused by the family planning policy, the elderly who have lost their independence are the group that needs most external help at present. Whether the elderly who have lost their independence can live in their old age is directly related to the credibility of the government among the people.

The imperfection of laws and regulations is one of the main reasons why families who have lost their independence are in trouble. However, there are serious gaps, vacancies and fragmentation in China's current laws and regulations on the protection of families who have lost their independence. From the perspective of national laws, there is a lack of special targeted laws, and the protection of the rights and interests of the elderly who have lost their independence only exists in other laws. For example, the Family Planning Law promulgated on 200 1 stipulates that families who have lost their independence shall be given necessary help by local governments. However, there are no clear rules and arrangements on how to help, to what extent, how to implement and who will implement this "necessary help". The Law on the Protection of the Rights and Interests of the Elderly, which was revised again in 20 12, completely ignored the increasing number of elderly people who lost their independence. Today, when the problem of providing for the aged is becoming more and more prominent, such legislation is inevitably disappointing. From the perspective of departmental and local laws and regulations, departments at all levels are fragmented, subsidy standards are not uniform, and the number is extremely low. In 2007, the National Pilot Program of Disabled One-Child Family Support System issued by the Health Planning Commission stipulated that the government would provide 65.438 million yuan per person per month. 20 14 Beijing issued the Notice on Raising the Standards of Family Planning Awards and Special Assistance in this Municipality, which raised the family allowance for families who lost their only child to 500 yuan. The Opinions on Further Helping Families with Special Difficulties in Family Planning issued by Jiangsu Provincial Health Planning Commission stipulates that from 20 16, the assistance for the elderly who have lost their independence over 60 years old in the province will be increased to 700 yuan every month. Generally speaking, local governments pay more and more attention to the problem of providing for the elderly who have lost their independence, and the standard of assistance is also increasing year by year. However, in different regions, the gap between urban and rural areas is still very large. Compared with the rapidly rising prices, the meager relief funds are still a drop in the bucket. It is worth noting that at present, the relief policies introduced in various places only stay on economic subsidies, and there is still a lack of comprehensive legal design for the protection of the rights of the elderly who have lost their independence. The lack of legislation not only puts the government in an awkward position, but also is not conducive to advocating a positive energy atmosphere of caring for the elderly who have lost their independence in the whole society.

The influence of traditional ideas and secular vision is also one of the reasons for the dilemma of providing for the elderly in families who have lost their independence. Home-based care for the aged has a tradition of thousands of years in China. In the traditional culture of China people, "nurturing-nurturing" mode is a natural thing. "Five generations under one roof" and "children and grandchildren around their knees" are the life pursuits of the vast majority of China people. Compared with other countries in the world, the elderly in China have a stronger sense of family and hope to be cared for and accompanied by their children in their later years. Therefore, the elderly in China tend to refuse to go to pension institutions. For the elderly who have lost their independence, as traditional China people, they are often reluctant to go to the old-age care institutions for the elderly, but they don't have their own only child to rely on, and the traditional home-based care model is unsustainable, which leads to the plight of the families who have lost their independence for the elderly. Even the elderly who have lost their independence and entered ordinary old-age care institutions are difficult to adapt to the life of old-age care institutions. Compared with other elderly people, they are more sensitive and unsociable. According to interviews and surveys, elderly people who lost their independence in old-age care institutions are more willing to get along with elderly people in the same situation, saying that the most sad thing is to see other people's children visit their parents. I can't stand this feeling of touching the scene, and many old people have left the old-age care institutions and returned home to support the elderly. In addition to the influence of traditional ideas, the harm of secular vision to the elderly who have lost their independence is inevitable. In the secular society, the most vicious curse to others is "childless", and the elderly who have lost their independence are often deeply influenced by the concept of "karma" and deeply blame themselves for breaking the incense. What's more, they think that their own "evil" led to the child's early death and caused the child to fall into long-term psychological torture. However, the secular society lacks care and sympathy for this special group, and many people are cynical with a wait-and-see attitude, or avoid it because of bad luck. This will further aggravate the psychological burden of the elderly who have lost their independence. Many elderly people who have lost their independence are embarrassed by their own experience, unwilling to let others know their own experience of losing their independence, and are very exclusive to topics involving their children, even in a self-enclosed situation. The psychological status of the elderly who lost their independence is not optimistic.

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