Many people's lives are like being in an unmanned plane. No one knows where the plane will fly, what it will wait for and where it will stop. Maybe everything is fine with you now. You have a stable job, a harmonious relationship and good health. Do you think everything is satisfactory? Do you think you feel safe? Do you think life is really carefree? Ask yourself these three questions three times, and you may not feel the sunshine. You may have a little hesitation, and a little anxiety quietly passes through your heart. A feeling of anxiety and dissatisfaction shocked us, and the fear brought by some unhealed wounds made us feel uneasy. In addition, there are some unexposed fear factors. On the surface, we live in a calm atmosphere, in fact, because we have never really faced those fears that we don't want to reveal, just like we swim in deep water, but never look at the signs.
Faced with these fears, most people take measures to avoid talking about it, or try to control their lives, or use entertainment, recreation and busyness to escape difficulties. We never doubt our own practices, although they are rooted in fear, because we firmly believe that such practices will make us happy. This is a vicious circle, and it can also be said that drinking poison to quench thirst. It can't eliminate the real inner fear, but it may also bring us the embarrassment of renewal.
Only when people can't avoid the immediate confusion and are in a crisis or danger that we are afraid of but must deal with, can people really face their inner fears. In other words, when people encounter diseases, unemployment, loss of loved ones, etc., they will face up to their situation. Then take corresponding actions according to the situation encountered.
Tell a short story: "Xiaolan and her mother like listening to birds sing and watching them fly. The mother and daughter raised birds for the first time. Mother is very busy and daughter is very playful. Before long, the birds starved to death. The second time, the mother and daughter agreed to treat the bird well. This time, the bird has been raised for a month and is growing well. But my friend said that you cruelly deprived the bird of the right to sing and fly freely, and the mother and daughter reluctantly let the bird fly. The third close contact with birds was because I received an invitation to participate in the release activities. The letter said that the release activities were environmentally friendly and charitable. The mother and daughter bought two pairs of birds and happily went to participate in the release activities. Climbing to the top of the mountain, I saw hundreds of people flying, salutes ringing, and thousands of birds Qi Fei, some smiling and some pious. After the mother and daughter went down the mountain, they heard the owner of the flower and bird market excitedly say that since the release activity, the demand for birds has increased greatly, and they have to catch birds in the dark every day to supply them. "
We use this story to analyze people's understanding and solutions to their inner fears. The first time I raised a bird, "Mom is busy and my daughter is playful"-the bird starved to death. In this process, mother and daughter should have common sense. This common sense is that "birds will starve to death." We can regard this common sense as a sense of fear in the hearts of mother and daughter. They avoided this fear, using what, using "mother is busy, daughter is playful", which is just the aforementioned "using entertainment, recreation and busyness to escape from difficulties". Finally, the bird died, and the mother and daughter had to face this fact, so there was a second process of raising birds.
The second time I raised a bird, because of the first painful experience, the mother and daughter "agreed to treat the bird well." They changed their behavior. This bird is very good. However, this is a potential fear. What is this? It was the "freedom of birds" that my friend said, so I took the second action and reluctantly released the birds. The difference between the second time and the first time is that due to the progress of people's consciousness, the potential fear in people's hearts is also improving. The hunger of birds is no longer a cause of fear. At this time, the inner fear factor is the "freedom" of birds.
The third time is to release birds. When the mother and daughter regard bird release as the fun of raising birds, another inner fear factor arises. What is this? The owner of the flower and bird market said excitedly that since the release activity, the demand for birds has increased greatly, and birds have to be caught in the dark every day to supply them. Hearing this, the mood of mother and daughter can be imagined. Although they don't want to face such a fact, the fact still appears in front of them cruelly.
Although the mother and daughter faced pain and inner fear again and again, they chose to face it bravely instead of running away, which is commendable. Because instead of escaping from the predicament, it is better to regard the predicament as the way out, which is a positive and necessary concept change. Usually, as long as life doesn't meet our expectations, we usually change it to meet our expectations. This expectation can not only change our lives, but also bring more pain. So we need to change the relationship between our hearts and expectations. Taking difficulties as the way, difficulties are often the only way to a new realm. Nothing in the world can satisfy people's wishes and expectations. "Death, survival, freedom and capture" of birds, every dilemma is the road to the next level.
Therefore, how to face the inner fear, only need to face up to the fear, do not avoid, do not abandon. Think of it as an opportunity to learn, as an opportunity to get spiritual sublimation. Once we master this, we will embark on the starting point of life, and our life will become very different.