I have never found this sentence difficult to understand, but I think it is nothing more than saying that one thing should be considered from many angles. Self-feeling often looks at problems from different angles.
However, a recent study and practice made me suddenly realize that I would forget this simple truth in many cases.
In August, the learning ability course was assigned homework and asked to write the knowledge points that I felt the most. The writing method is to analyze the cause and effect of knowledge points and the applicable boundaries of knowledge points around the theme, interspersed with convincing cases or stories.
This reminds me of the composition class in my student days, especially when writing argumentative papers. Teachers will say that all your writing logic, rhetorical metaphors and famous examples should focus on the core argument and serve the establishment of the argument.
The theme I chose to write is "Why is it important to build a personal knowledge system?" I choose to start with the difference between people with knowledge system and people without knowledge system, because it is very important to have a personal knowledge system. In order to increase persuasiveness, all the metaphors, cases and stories I collected are collected for my point of view, and the interpretation of these materials is also from the perspective of strengthening my point of view.
After writing the article, I suddenly realized that I have never really seen the other side of the coin: since most writers write articles like this, everything is to convince you to accept his point of view, so a lot of information will be lost in the writing process. For the vast majority of authors, this is a compulsory course as an expresser and a normal state. Of course, people with ulterior motives are another matter.
But because I seldom think from this angle, I come across some inflammatory and exaggerated articles. Even if I am alert, I will sometimes be caught, such as some articles by WeChat Mimeng and Hugo, which once caused my anxiety. Even for some articles, I didn't realize the author's purpose, the intention behind it, and whether I intentionally enlarged or lost some key information, and I didn't think about how this might affect my correct judgment.
Through this awareness, I found that the truth of the two sides of a coin did not become my meta-knowledge. And if I want it to be a kind of bottom-level logical thinking for me to look at things, I need deliberate practice. Especially the following three situations:
When things involve two or more roles. Different roles are like two sides of a coin, and the isomorphism of * * * becomes this matter. If you only pay attention to your own role, you will often ignore the position and feelings of the role of the other side of the coin, and blind conflicts and misunderstandings may follow. And if we can always think from each other's point of view, we will open our hearts.
For example, there are two roles in writing: the author and the reader. When writing, we should think about how to make it easier for readers to accept, while when reading, we should think about the author's intention.
For another example, as parents now, how can we use the experience of being a child to understand our children? As a manager, how to understand employees from the mentality of a grassroots employee. As husband and wife, how to experience difficulties and express understanding from each other's perspective.
When you have absolute faith in the choice of life. Many things in life are not necessary, but we often demonize some of them and make them absolute. At this time, whether this kind of thinking is instilled by the outside world or your own cognition, at this time, remind yourself to think about the other side of the coin.
For example, choosing the workplace or family must have its own advantages and disadvantages, and it should be analyzed rationally. Only in this way can we make more rational, comprehensive and peaceful choices and be responsible for our own choices.
When there seems to be no other choice. I once saw an folio mother say, "To be an ordinary person, you have exhausted all your strength." I deeply believe that life is really, really hard. But sometimes, we give in to fate and think we have no choice. When you have this idea, maybe you should think that every coin has two sides, and ask yourself: What other choice can I have, what can I do, what can I do, what can I do … Maybe I can live in a corner and make a difference.
In this way, I completely got rid of the things that my children have been entangled in without me.
1. In most cases, I only think about the sadness of being separated from my children, but in fact, the children and the elderly are under great pressure and physically and mentally exhausted. Everyone needs to bear some responsibility in this matter, and I also need to understand my family more.
? 2. And I never thought about what good things I brought with my children when they were not around. Because I live in two different places, I cherish the parent-child time with my children more. Therefore, whether I accompany my children by video every day, or get together every month and now, I will try my best to maintain high input and give my children high-quality companionship. Children become more and more independent because they have experienced separation and reunion again and again, and understand more and more that their mother's love does not lie in whether she is around. She waved goodbye to me this morning and didn't cry again. Moreover, this special experience will also constitute a special and warm memory of our family. Maybe when the children grow up, we will talk again, which will be another feeling of happiness. /kloc-After the age of 0, children have more contacts with grandparents than with me. Everyone loves her, talks to her and plays with her, so her language develops early and she will interact with different people in different ways very early. Because different people are needed to meet her needs, there is a high demand for language output.
I didn't take my children with me, not because I didn't have a choice, but because I didn't work hard enough and didn't have the strength to change the status quo, and I had other choices after careful consideration, such as being a stay-at-home mother, but in fact, the choice I made after weighing was to stay in the workplace. So I can face this matter more calmly, instead of being trapped in self-blame, anxiety and uneasiness.
Postscript: I really didn't expect the learning ability course to make me think so much and bring so many new insights. Thanks to Cooper's learning circle and RIA's experience, I have benefited a lot.