The story of "Kong Rong makes pears" is a household name. Kong Rong's humility touched many people. However, most of the problems encountered by modern people do not give in to each other, leading to tragedies in the three places.
There is such a news in the newspaper. One night, Yang attended a party and got drunk. Although drunk, he drove bravely and was ready to go home. But on the road, his car was scratched with the car of the victim Cai Moumou. Both of them were drunk and flew into a rage when they saw their cars scratched. The two of them opened the car door, got out of the car and blamed each other. Because two people do their jobs. Soon, it changed from a small flame to a fire. Yang moumou sees noisy but Cai moumou. He became angry from embarrassment and even raised his hand and threatened to hit Cai Moumou. Cai Moumou is not afraid at all. I put my hand over my face and let him hit me. Yang flew into a rage, grabbed a brick and jumped on Cai. The two scuffled, and Yang's wife was in the car. However, instead of stopping her husband's uncivilized behavior, she is still fanning the flames. Finally, she called a lot of tough boys and beat Cai together. Later, a tragedy happened and Cai was beaten to death.
If they are willing to take a step back, will such a tragedy happen again? Why in this society, when problems arise, they are not solved in a civilized way, but in such a reckless way? Why can't everyone take a step back?
"Let" is a civilized way to solve problems; "Let" can make society better and more civilized.
In life, hours can usually be solved by "letting". For example, when there are many hitchhikers, we have to stand aside and let the old people get on first; When friends are in conflict, as long as they take a step back, they can roll with the punches. Sometimes, "laissez-faire" can also prevent some big accidents. As the saying goes, "Take a step back and broaden the horizon."
Students, have you also achieved civilized comity in interpersonal communication? Think about it: a small word "let" can derive so many great principles of dealing with people. This is enough to show that a civilized society can never be separated from the word "let". Please remember: you let me let you be civilized and fashionable!
You may not be unfamiliar with such a set of shots: in the canteen, there are always many people rushing to jump the queue; Waiting at the bus stop, although there are enough seats on the bus, people are pushing and squeezing to the door; The two cars met head-on on the narrow road, and the drivers gave way to each other, causing a traffic jam. ...
Too many competing scenes have made me see the lack of people's indomitable spirit.
Mencius said, "The heart of resignation is the end of ceremony." The story of Kong Rong letting pears, has long been known to women and children. Young Kong Rong gave the big pear to his brother, but he regarded the smallest and obedient virtue as an eternal beauty talk.
This is just a small concession. I believe that as long as we can control our self-awareness, everyone should be able to do it.
Besides, Bao in the Spring and Autumn Period, Qi Huangong wanted to appoint him as the phase, but he resolutely gave up, saying that his talent was not as good as Guan Zhong's and recommended Guan Zhong as the phase. His resignation not only saved Guan Zhong from jail, but also helped Qi Huangong compete for the Central Plains and achieved success.
This is a big concession. How broad-minded Bao is, and he has given up the position that ten thousand people are vying for!
In 9. After the "1 1" terrorist attack, people in the World Trade Center Building kept a modest manner, which made the scene orderly and won them time to evacuate. The most touching thing is that a blind man, with a guide dog, successfully escaped from danger with people's humility and care. People are like gentlemen when the Titanic sank. Let the blind go first.
This is a life-and-death resignation. People give the hope of life to the weak and leave the danger of death to themselves.
Obedience is the greatest, noblest and most beautiful character of human beings, just like a shining diamond embedded in the dazzling necklace of human spirit.
However, resignation is not just unprincipled concession. The corrupt Qing government signed a series of treaties that humiliated the country. This was not resignation, but cowardice. Facing the threats and inducements of Japanese imperialism, Wang Jingwei grovelled and established a puppet regime, which was not resignation, but greed and betrayal.
Resignation is caring for others in life. On the Shidun Bridge, I will meet a pedestrian head on. At this point, I should stand at the other end and wait for the other party to go first. This is resignation.
Resignation is respect for others in life. When you see a person with limited legs and feet shopping at the shopping window, you should slow down and let the other person go first, thinking that he should go shopping first, which is resignation.
Resignation is the baptism of self in life. When others accidentally dirty your clothes while cooking in the dining hall, when people are crowded on the bus, when students in the dormitory recklessly break your open water bottle, learn to make concessions and learn to reason, just like you plant a flower for yourself in the spring breeze, which will make your heart fragrant; Learning to be polite, reasonable and forgiving is like lighting a lamp for yourself in the dark, which will light up your soul's way forward and become a noble person.
Resignation is the end of the ceremony.
Some people say that comity is the virtue of humility; Some people say that comity will make everyone live in happiness; Some people say that comity will make the black and white world better.
Politeness often happens in casual little things. Politeness looks easy, but it's hard to do. Friendship makes my memory sad.
It was noon on a hot summer day. The sun was scorching the earth, and cicadas were chirping impatiently in the trees. My mother and I are waiting in line to take the bus.
Look, here comes the bus. People who have been waiting at the station for a long time are flocking to compete for seats. At this time, an old man with white hair and wrinkled eyes staggered on the bus, but his appearance did not attract much attention.
He was squeezed into the innermost compartment by the constantly shaking crowd, and almost fell down because of the violent shaking of the bus. At this time, a pair of strong hands grabbed him, and he turned around and saw a strong young man. I saw his bright eyes and a pair of dark blue thick-rimmed glasses on his high nose, which was quite literary of scholars.
"Grandpa, be careful, don't fall!" The young man said with a smile. "Thank you!" The old man said gratefully. "It doesn't matter, grandpa, you sit here with me. I'll get off at once. " After that, he got up slightly, stretched out his hand to hold the old man, slowly helped the old man to his seat, and carefully helped him sit down. The old man smiled faintly after sitting down, and the old man responded with an old and deep smile. The old man and the young man smiled at each other and deeply touched my heart. The bus arrived at the station and the young man got off. Looking at the distant figure,
I have a deeper understanding of what comity is.
There are countless young people on the bus, but why are only young people willing to give their seats to the elderly? ! This is not only an accidental problem, but also a social phenomenon.
In our present civilized society, friendship is an indispensable noble quality. What is comity? Politeness is etiquette, concession is humility, and comity is a kind of humility.
Etiquette will turn a vulgar person into a refined person. Etiquette is everywhere, it goes hand in hand with you, it can show a person's noble quality, but also show a person's noble quality.
Politeness is our indispensable friend. Without it, what would society be like? This is really unimaginable.
From this little thing, we can see that comity will make people respect, comity will always serve you when you need it, and it will also expose your shortcomings when you don't need it.
So, please let us all learn to be polite! Because comity can make you a noble and elegant person! Let's cheer together!