1. Learn to understand

Understanding is a virtue of human beings and a noble quality. Some people describe it this way: understanding is a warm spring breeze, which can melt the hard ice condensed in people's hearts; Understanding is a pure spring, which can wash away the sludge in people's hearts; Understanding is a burning flame, which can remove the cold in people's hearts. This vividly illustrates the important role of understanding in interpersonal communication. Therefore, a great man said meaningfully: understanding, support and friendship between comrades are more important than anything else!

Indeed, understanding is very important. The sages have long realized this. The sage Confucius once said, "Don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you." It means that no matter what you do, you should put yourself in others' shoes, take care of others' feelings, understand others' feelings with your own feelings, and infer others' situation with your own situation. This idea of pushing oneself by oneself contains the profound meaning of understanding others. In the Tang Dynasty, Han Yu said in "Mourning": "The ancient gentleman is responsible for himself, but also pays attention to Zhou and treats others lightly." The emphasis on self-discipline and tolerance also reflects the spirit of understanding in interpersonal communication.

Understanding has always occupied an important position in our traditional ethics, and it is an important principle to treat people with things.

Li Shimin, Emperor Taizong, understood and reused the story of Wei Zhi, which was passed down as a much-told story. In the battle for the throne with, he made many suggestions and got into trouble. After the change of Xuanwu Gate, Wei Zhi became a prisoner of Li Shimin. At this time, Li Shimin appreciated Wei Zhi's talent and personality very much, so he understood and valued him, made him prime minister, and helped him realize the famous "Zhenguan rule" in history. Although there is Li Shimin's respect for talents as a generation of wise men, we have to realize that this is also inseparable from his generosity and understanding of others. Looking back at the historical picture, Qi Huangong understood and reused Guan Zhong who almost shot himself, thus achieving hegemony; Lin Xiangru forgave Lian Po for humiliating himself many times, leaving a beautiful talk of "making peace" ... On the contrary, can those narrow-minded and haggle over every ounce achieve something?

The ancients could still do this. In today's increasingly complex social life, people need to understand more. So, how can we learn to forgive?

Understanding requires communication. The objective things are complicated, and the individual's ideological understanding often has certain limitations and one-sidedness, which will inevitably lead to misunderstandings and conflicts between people. Therefore, when you have conflicts or misunderstandings with others, you should take the initiative to talk to each other and listen carefully to their complaints. Only in this way can we communicate with each other's thoughts, thus eliminating misunderstandings and estrangements.

Understanding requires putting yourself in others' shoes. Take the initiative to put yourself in others' shoes and put yourself in others' shoes, and we will forgive others more easily.

Understanding needs forgetting. Forgetting is the best way to understand. Restrained understanding is not real understanding, it can't get rid of pus on emotional wounds and heal emotional wounds. Only the kind of understanding that does not remember or investigate is the real understanding.

We advocate understanding, but understanding is not unprincipled indulgence or concession. We must bravely stand up and fight resolutely against those acts that are harmful to the interests of the nation, the state and the collective.

Let us learn to forgive! In this way, the relationship between people will be more harmonious and people's lives will be better.

Two.

Learn tolerance and understanding.

Life is a helpless stage, and there are always good or bad things happening, as if every pain is one's own suffering. In fact, any pain will fade away with time, so why compete with yourself!

According to psychological analysis, try to give the sad party some space, put yourself in the opposite chair and think in the opposite direction. Maybe one person, one thing or one thing will change completely, and we won't be too sad and get more from it!

Tolerance is really valuable. If everyone wants to be tolerant, the world will become much easier. Just like the king in the story, he desperately created the world, while the virgin who loves him is wantonly destroying mankind. It all comes from a feeling. This completely selfish love makes her crazy, so love is doomed to be full of tragedy. If everyone put themselves in other's shoes and increase their feelings of tolerance and understanding, the king may.

Many things are helpless, but if you try to think from another side, you will find that you can always say it from a breakthrough, so your thinking will go in the opposite direction and you will not gather too many annoying things in your heart.

Everyone will always have their own reasons, just as criminals will never admit that they have made a mistake, whether they are death-row prisoners or recidivists. In their minds, thinking reflects the other side of things from another angle. In this respect, maybe they are really not wrong. In this case, all laws and all forms of bondage may never solve their innermost problems, and contradictions may exist for a long time. If the law can be from another side, and one day, if the death penalty can really be abolished, I firmly believe that people will sing and applaud it from any angle. Life is the most beautiful, and no one has the right to kill life casually and deny human rights. What has passed away can only be sighed, but more importantly, how to reflect and take the next step is the real solution. It is not cruel to punish a person who is full of remorse and determined to change. If we really think from another side, that is, dialysis the problem itself with a tolerant heart, things will really happen.

Nobody is perfect, and sages are no exception. People who grow up from mistakes are smarter and can be role models. It is most respectable to make mistakes and correct them. How I wish to give those people a broad place to think and start over. At the beginning of life, human nature is good, there are few people who are really evil, and there is not much difference between people. The difference is that the acquired environment changes people.

Everyone sometimes can't predict what will happen in the next moment. Sometimes mistakes and virtues are only one step away, and heaven and hell are only one step away. It seems that it is really fate that waits for people. But if there is more tolerance in the world, people will not be too tired, life will not be too depressed, and some things will not happen.

Tolerance is very important, which is reflected in the size of our lives. A touching report published in bosom friend in 2005 left a deep impression on us. The story is about a driver who accidentally killed the boss's sister while driving. The glorious life ended like this. What was left for his relatives? Faced with the difficulties of the driver's family, the boss tore up all the compensation forms without hesitation and returned them without hesitation. ......

Such a touching event happened in today's high-speed social development, what will it make us think? What should we really think about in the face of many snobs and honors? What can we do today to keep up with the pace of society and really benefit the people? What should we reflect on some long-standing alternative ideas?

I think it takes a long time to change a thing, but it won't take long to treat it with tolerance and think with love. After China's entry into WTO, we should have a brand-new psychology, not too vulgar and superficial.

The stories around us instantly gave us profound enlightenment and heavy thinking. What is the most important and how to do it with the most dignity? I believe that there is no fixed standard and there is nothing the law can do. Only with a tolerant heart and a grateful heart can we be open-minded and have a more harmonious and perfect life!

Tolerance is hard to achieve. Personally, I think it is really difficult to be tolerant to the greatest extent. Sometimes I really want to forgive those people's mistakes and forgive them! I just can't do it at the moment. So tolerance sometimes requires a lot of patience and courage!

In college life, other problems really can't make us forgive and understand, so we can only silently bless! In the beautiful stage of life study, it is our students' most basic responsibility to focus on the overall situation, be cautious, handle life well and do it with heart.

In contemporary life, we seem to be in a transitional period. We really don't know what to do to qualify. Are we criticizing or acquiescing in some things around us? I think in such a special period, our generation can only face it with a normal heart on the road, and it is the best state to repay it with tolerance. Everyone has the right to control his own life, everyone has his own living standards and moral standards, and everyone is different. In contradiction, you and I are mutually exclusive, and each has its own principles. In fact, there is no universal principle to follow in everything, and only a normal mind will encounter problems.

Today, we are still wasting time complaining about some dissatisfaction. Please put everything down and face the problem with a tolerant attitude. This is our consistent duty. When we give to each other, we will get more.

The person who has hurt you may be your best friend. Please face them with gratitude, so that you will be more mature and wise. Look down on everything and believe in the power, tolerance and time of life.

Please always remember that a caring and reassuring word is the most precious and can bring more and more space to each other!

Don't be too sensitive and care too much about many things. People should exercise themselves with patience, treat life with the greatest tolerance and understanding, and resist those evil thoughts with the best mentality.

Sunshine will always be after the storm, please believe that there is a rainbow!

Never resent, give yourself peace, tolerate others, and believe that life will be better.

Three. Learn to understand

Love and hate often coexist and are inseparable in daily life. Sometimes, couples really love each other, but they hate each other to death; Sometimes, misunderstanding suddenly leads to irreconcilable differences. Once the misunderstanding is released, it will be reconciled. Lovers complain that their lovers have bad hobbies, and loving mothers hate their children, which contains deep and touching love.

A generous person often loves more than hates; He is optimistic, cheerful, open-minded and patient, but he is not sad, depressed, anxious or angry. He comforted his partner and relatives with love, explained with reason, moved with emotion, and made the listener tempted, admired and respected. In this way, there will be no emotional estrangement, action opposition and psychological resentment between them.

However, in daily life, annoying things happen from time to time. Sometimes, whether you like it or not, it will suddenly appear in front of you, leaving a short impression in your heart, making you feel unhappy and bored; Sometimes, something important happens suddenly, which may cause heavy damage to your mind and even threaten your life. And the person who caused these catastrophic events, if you are the one who gets along with you day and night, how should you treat him?

In life, understanding can produce miracles and recover emotional losses. Understanding is like a torch, which can illuminate the road paved by anxiety, resentment and revenge.

The function of life calling forgiveness lies in that it can arouse the yearning and nostalgia of disappointed people for life, and it can urge those who make mistakes or even commit crimes to turn over a new leaf.

Understanding is also a kind of encouragement, enlightenment and guidance, which can urge people to abandon evil and do good, and make people who have lost their way on the right track and give full play to their potential.

Four. Learn to understand

One day, a young Jewish mother took her son to visit a friend. On the bus, a young man with a big bag on his back squeezed into the carriage and his mother was hit by the big bag.

The son asked with concern, "Mom, are you all right?" At the same time, he glanced at the young man angrily and shouted, "What a nuisance!" " "

The young mother looked at her son and said, "I can't say that this uncle didn't mean it." At this time, the young man also apologized to her again and again. Hearing this, the son bowed his head in shame.

A few days later, my mother got off work early. She came to school by bike, ready to take her son home. As a result, she found that her son's hand was skinned and blood was dripping down. Mother was so distressed that she quickly found some gauze to bandage his wound. Then she asked the teacher what was going on. The teacher was puzzled because she didn't see him report or hear him cry.

Mother asked inexplicably, "Why didn't you tell the teacher?"

He smiled and said, "Mom, the children didn't mean to hurt me!" " He has been deeply uneasy about this matter. If I tell the teacher again, he will blame himself even more. "

Mother was very happy to hear that. He touched his son's head and said, Good boy, you have learned to forgive others. "