Relevant surveys show that interpersonal communication accounts for more than 50% of college students' psychological problems, and love troubles occupy the first place in previous statistics. The trouble of communication is greater than the trouble of love. Careful analysis shows that the confusion and discomfort in college students' interpersonal relationships can be divided into the following five categories:

The first category: lack of intimate friends.

This kind of college students usually have normal contacts and good interpersonal relationships, but they feel that they lack intimate friends who can talk to each other, treat each other sincerely, cooperate tacitly and share joys and sorrows. Therefore, they sometimes feel lonely and helpless.

The second category: difficult to intersect with individuals.

This kind of college students communicate well with most people, but not with individuals. It may be a roommate, a classmate, or a close parent. Because you can't get along well with these people, it often affects your mood and becomes a "heart disease."

The third category: dull communication with people.

This kind of college students can communicate with others, but they always feel that the quality of getting along with others is not high and they lack influence. They don't have close friends, most of them are nodding acquaintances. No one is worth caring about and no one will miss him. It is difficult for them to maintain and develop good interpersonal relationships. Most of these students will feel empty, confused and lost. Grade 06 students in a university felt lonely and depressed because of their bad relationship with their classmates, and finally left the school. After wandering around several small and medium-sized cities near the school, they returned to the school and met Chen Mou's parents who arrived at the school on a starry night after receiving the notice. At this time, Chen Mou and his son, both sad and happy, were faced with the punishment of being ordered to drop out of school because Chen Mou was absent from school for more than 50 hours, and the sympathy of all the teachers and students. No one could give Chen Mou more comfort.

The fourth category: I feel difficult to communicate.

This kind of college students are eager for communication, but due to limited communication ability, improper methods or personality defects, psychological barriers in communication and other reasons, their communication is not satisfactory and their successful experience is less. They often feel distressed and hope to change their social situation. Xiao Zhang, a freshman girl, has been spoiled at home. All the housework is arranged by her parents, and her self-care ability is not strong. After entering the university, the intense study made her feel uneasy. She began to become unsociable. Gradually, she had a strange feeling. It seems that all her classmates look down on her. When the water boils, ask her to go and sweep the floor. She felt that she had become the target of others' "running errands", becoming more and more unhappy and her grades plummeted.

The fifth category: social phobia.

This kind of college students are particularly sensitive, afraid of interpersonal communication and try to avoid contact with others. When they have to communicate, they will be nervous, afraid, their hearts will beat faster, their faces will be red, and they will always be in a state of anxiety. They are afraid of being the center of others' attention, making a fool of themselves in front of others and being observed by others. I am always worried that I will make mistakes and be laughed at by others. I am always under an inexplicable psychological pressure. Communicating with people, even appearing in public places, is an extremely horrible task for them.

Social phobia is a very painful psychological obstacle, which seriously affects the life and work of patients. Many things that ordinary people can easily do, but people with social phobia are afraid. Patients may think they are boring people, and others will think so. In this way, patients will become too sensitive and even unwilling to disturb others. Doing so will make patients feel more anxious and depressed, thus further worsening the symptoms of social phobia. Many patients change their lives to adapt to their symptoms. They (and their families) have to miss many meaningful activities.