People are gregarious animals, and to survive, we must first adapt to society. Instead of forcing society (even the surrounding small environment) to obey itself. We now see too many things that overemphasize a person's subjective will to require the environment to adapt to oneself, such as: overemphasizing self-struggle and personal heroism, deliberately cultivating them to express and publicize their individuality without restriction from childhood, cultivating their strong competitive spirit (the author does not object to the general competitive spirit), and often using encouraging (suggestive) words such as "You are the best" to children regardless of occasions and conditions. As a result, such children often do not adapt to setbacks when they grow up, and so on ... Practice has proved that self-confidence helps people overcome adversity, but excessive self-promotion leads to blind self-confidence, which is not conducive to people winning in adversity.
We should emphasize the connection between personal development and social goals, so as to show the characteristics and advantages of advanced culture in contemporary China.
We must admit that the value orientation of collectivism is correct, but if it exceeds a "degree" and emphasizes this tendency to the extreme, it will suppress the enthusiasm and creativity of individuals. Society is not a "machine", and it does not run by an engine (country) driving a gear (individual); Society is organically organized by living individuals, and it is an organism. Only when individual cells maintain vitality can the whole society be full of vitality.
Similarly, we must also understand that it is undoubtedly correct to advocate the liberation and publicity of individuality, but we also need to abide by a "degree". If the publicity of personality is not properly brought into full play, it will greatly harm the overall interests of society. Any cell in a "social organism" will live forever and become a cancer of the social organism if it is not arranged and organized organically. Therefore, the ultimate goal of personality development must be to meet the needs of society.
People attach importance to the ultimate goal of personality cultivation, and of course they also intend to pursue success.
However, what are the criteria for success? To what extent should a person succeed?
However, the ultimate success does not mean that it is absolutely measured according to the contribution to society. But that is an objective condition after all: a person with high IQ and good opportunities should reach any height he can reach, just like Einstein or contemporary Yang Zhenning, and the brilliant height they can reach with high IQ. However, there are also many people with high IQ, who should be able to reach the peak of glory, but often there are many obstacles because of their improper handling of the environment, and they cannot reach the height they should reach. The reason is due to the personality problems of these people. A conceited and boastful person (at least on the surface) is bound to bury hidden dangers for himself in many places he doesn't know, and these hidden dangers will eventually appear in the form of "environmental obstacles".
Therefore, when people are blocked on the road to success, they often complain about the "unfairness" of the environment unilaterally without checking themselves, which is obviously wrong. In fact, the "shun" and "reverse" of the objective environment are still caused by their own subjectivity. At first glance, "environmental obstacles" seem to have nothing to do with themselves, but careful analysis will reveal that they are inextricably linked with a person's personality. As the saying goes, "full of losses, modest benefits" is very reasonable. A self-righteous, self-centered, always regardless of all occasions and conversation objects, while showing off his knowledge, he also leaves hidden dangers for his further development everywhere. Isn't this a very sad thing?
In the business world, some people have summed up that "small wealth is rich in wisdom, and great wealth is rich in virtue", which is also very reasonable. Naturally, "super wealth" is not only backed by virtue, but also by IQ. If a person's success is not properly compared with the acquisition of wealth (explanation: wealth is not the whole of a person's success): if the amount of wealth is simply compared with the height of a person's success, we will see that many smart small businessmen will soon acquire some wealth, but most people will stop there and they will not be able to continue to expand their careers; Only a few businessmen will make their enterprises bigger. The difference between the two lies in the operator's own "virtue"-this is a comprehensive social quality, and people who use it well will create a "calm" development environment for themselves.
In the past, I complained about the "injustice" of the environment several times, but I never thought about checking the impact of my mood on the environment. Now that I think about it, the reason is still on myself-but when I understand, everything has changed.
I hope that young people on the road ahead will not complain too much about the objective environment, but should always check their "state of mind" and "wipe it often and don't create dust", which will certainly create favorable conditions for you.