Our family was born in June 5438 +2009 10. Now she is almost four years old. She is thin, but full of energy. She is cheerful, outgoing and a little naughty. She's like a tomboy. She's very likable. When babies learn English from babbling, they can express themselves clearly. From toddler to running and jumping; From being opinionated in everything to having one's own opinions and listening to parents' opinions ... We parents are very excited to watch our baby grow up happily day by day.

The kindergarten teacher called and said that she would write something about parenting. I'm a little nervous. Although I learned some knowledge, I learned little from the paper. In practice, how to raise children is really a process of continuous exploration. When I think of it, there is nothing special about my family's education. Just let nature take its course, and I am willing to share it with you here.

First of all, our ideas

Before the baby was born, we reached a tacit understanding: after the baby was born, try not to impose too many constraints on her, let alone impose the expectations of adults on the child, try to return to the original appearance, keep the child's nature and give the child a carefree and unrestrained time.

Childhood is short, but it affects life and is full of memories. Children should be allowed to enjoy the happiness and happiness brought by sunshine in the unrestrained and free sky, which is the greatest pursuit of children and the best gift we can give them (in fact, what we adults pursue all our lives is happiness)!

"Children come to this world just to see the sunshine!"

Second, our method.

1. Strive to create a relaxed and friendly family environment.

Our family is a big family. Because of her work, Ye Ye lives in the countryside with her conservative grandmother, aunt, casual grandfather, aunt and uncle, and her parents who work in the city and receive some modern education. The birth of Ye Ye added a lot of fun to the family. Everyone loves children, especially the elderly, and gives them whatever they want, to the point of being very spoiled. A loving environment is very important for children, but doting is very unfavorable. Our generation and the previous generation will have some differences in the concepts of life, work and parenting. We often discuss and even argue with our parents about these differences. Sometimes we will seek common ground while reserving differences when our views cannot be unified, and even know that some practices are wrong, and we will not interfere and quarrel. For example, if the child is sick, our idea is to take it to the hospital, and the mother may use rural soil first. We will discuss such things openly, and if we can't reach a consensus, we will put them aside, and the atmosphere of the whole family will be relatively relaxed and harmonious.

2. Learn to listen and communicate and feel the inner world of children.

Because the child went to kindergarten, he followed his grandmother to the county and lived with his parents. As parents, no matter how busy we are at work, we will spare at least half an hour every day to communicate with our children, put down our posture, find our innocence and enter their inner world.

Let your child regard you as her older friend and partner, pay attention to what you are used to, but she is very interested in. You may have the patience to invest, so as to learn from your child, stimulate your child's desire to explore, listen to your child's voice more, laugh with your child, laugh at yourself together, and guide your child to look at things positively, easily and happily.

For example, if a child learns "The Little White Rabbit" in kindergarten, he will recite "The little white rabbit is white, its ears are pricked up, it loves to eat radish and vegetables, and it is so cute to jump and jump". At first, she will recite her mistakes and encourage her to praise her, or her parents will imitate the movements of the little white rabbit when she is reading, so that she will be very happy and confident. Later, when her father made a mistake on purpose, she held out her thumb and little finger and said, "Ye Ye is the best, Dad milazzo" to teach us. Full of confidence

Now children often knock on our door when they get up at half past six: "Get up, big slacker, get up, little slacker."

3. Multi-party interaction, family education

Children's growth is inseparable from family, kindergarten and society. After Ye Ye went to kindergarten, most of them were picked up by her grandmother. My mother comes from the countryside and can't read. It is not particularly easy to communicate with kindergarten teachers. As parents, we know that the growth of children needs to strengthen communication between the two sides of the family, and information sharing between them is very important. To this end, we subscribe to the news and information of kindergarten schools, actively participate in kindergarten parent-child meetings and various parent-child activities, and pick up and drop off children when we have time, communicate with teachers, tell teachers about the situation of children at home, and grasp the various situations of children at school. Let the information between home and home interact and share, and promote the healthy growth of children.

4. Get close to nature and get in touch with society-life is the best education.

Any education for children, in the final analysis, is to let children return to society, adapt to society and accept the test of society. Moreover, children have a strong natural curiosity about this vast world and a strong desire to be close to nature and contact with society.

Nature is a school under the blue sky, and there are very rich things for children to discover and explore. Ye Ye lived in the countryside since childhood, where there are rivers, mountains and navel orange orchards. Later, when she came to the county to enter the park, we would often take her to parks and farms to broaden her horizons, cultivate her interest, and let her feel this grass and trees, a flower and a world.

For example, once our company organized a trip to the highest peak in our county. Although it was a little far, we still took foliage. Although we are very tired, we are still very happy, because Yeye actually walked a long way with our help and saw a different kind of scenery.

Now most families are only children. Giving children more contact with society and participating in some social activities can promote their ability to adapt to society and make them face this complex world more calmly in the future. In the interaction with parents, colleagues, classmates, relatives, aunts, uncles and even neighbors, children understand everyone's concern and love for others and become more polite, friendly and modest. ...

Although Ye Ye also has such shortcomings and deficiencies (so do we adults), we know that educating children is a long-term process, and we should not rush into it. What we want to give is to provide children with a happy and free environment, cultivate their ability to perceive and capture happiness, and let them grow up in a free and happy sky!

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Let children grow up freely and happily

Children are the center of every family, and children's education has naturally become an issue that every family and teacher should discuss from time to time. Almost every parent is looking forward to the success of his son and his daughter. So, how can we educate our children, make them grow up happily and healthily, and become useful talents for the country? After more than ten years of practice, we have also accumulated some experience.

Our daughter is thirteen years old. She is healthy, lively, generous, kind and helpful. Although it is not outstanding in learning, it has always been among the best in the class and has the stamina for rapid growth. Looking back on the adopted daughter's heart sutra for so many years, there is actually nothing ready-made, and most of them are summed up in practice. But one thing we have always insisted on is to create a good educational environment for our daughter as much as possible, and at the same time give her a free space to grow up so that her childhood can be spent happily. We fully respect her opinions on major issues such as study and exercise, let her talk to us on an equal footing, and cultivate her ability to think and solve problems by herself. When my daughter was in the second grade, she had the opportunity to transfer to Chongwen Experimental School. At that time, she was a little afraid to go to the new school. None of her classmates know her, and the teachers are new here, for fear that she will not adapt. We gave our daughter a detailed introduction to Chongwen's small class education, wonderful computer classes and good teaching facilities, and specially took her to the school to have a look, so that she had a full understanding and began to like this brand-new and beautiful primary school. Facts have proved that after her daughter decided to go to Chongwen, she made rapid progress and soon became the monitor. Moreover, she got straight A's in all subjects for several years in a row, and won many honorary titles, such as "Three Good Students in the District" and "Model of Civilized Little Haiyan". This shows that our decision to choose a school with our daughter is correct. We always believe that a good school education is beneficial to one's life. Only because I was admitted to Hangzhou No.2 Middle School did I have a chance to be admitted to Peking University and Oxford University. Therefore, when our daughter went to junior high school, she did not hesitate to choose Wen Lan Middle School, which is one of the best junior high schools in the city, and her daughter herself agreed. Although it's a long way to school and she has to get up at six o'clock every morning, her daughter is still very conscious and arranges her studies properly every day. However, when my daughter insisted on not going to Oxford with her mother for one year this year, considering the continuity of her junior high school education and the difference between Chinese and English education models, we finally respected her personal opinion and let her stay in Wen Lan to continue her studies. We believe that one day my daughter will be like what she said: I will be admitted to Oxford University on my own.

In fact, my daughter is not always so confident. Sometimes she flinches when she encounters difficulties, even afraid of competition. At this time, parents need to point out her mistakes in time, actively encourage her to participate in the competition, and highlight her own advantages. When I first entered Wen Lan, my daughter gave up the opportunity to sign up for an advanced math class without consulting us. We were very angry when we learned about it, but blaming her alone can't solve the problem. We had several conversations with our daughter on this issue, and told many real stories to make her understand that the competition in modern society is very fierce and she can't give up without a fight in the face of important opportunities. Giving up is the most shameful thing. Opportunities must be reserved for those who are prepared, so we want her to learn to analyze her strengths and weaknesses, foster strengths and avoid weaknesses, actively participate in competition, and never give up any opportunities to improve herself. This kind of dialogue will continue, and my daughter will grow up and make progress day by day, bringing us unlimited hope and happiness.

We always think that children who study alone will not achieve much. Children's lives should have all kinds of fun. When my daughter was very young, she began to learn to draw, play the electronic organ and receive badminton training, all of which she chose according to her interests. Later, I gave up painting because I didn't like sketching, but the electronic piano and badminton persisted. Now, two hours of electronic piano lessons and badminton training every week have become two fixed activities for my daughter after school. The electronic organ has reached level 7, and badminton has become a young athlete. She won the championship in this year's foreign language summer camp competition. We usually take her out for a trip during holidays. On the one hand, we can appreciate the great rivers and mountains of the motherland and enrich her knowledge of geography and history; On the other hand, we can broaden her horizons and improve her ability to communicate with foreign countries and adapt to the new environment. We usually pay great attention to talking with our daughter. We often use a few minutes before she goes to bed to talk about things that she thinks are important or interesting, to help solve things that she doesn't understand or can't figure out, and of course, to encourage her to do some useful things, such as actively participating in various competitions, helping students in trouble, being a teacher's little helper and so on. Let our daughter regard us as her trusted friends and be the first person she wants to find when she encounters problems and difficulties. This is the best evaluation for us. Although our daughter's life depends on her, what we can do as parents is to create a good environment for her to receive education, and at the same time try our best to let her study life freely and happily, lend a helping hand when she needs help, and become a mentor and friend in her life. This is our greatest wish.