"Tiger Mom" just left, and "Wolf Dad" came again. Chua Meier, a Chinese-American professor, was named as "Tiger Mother" after "forcing" her two daughters to enter Harvard and Yale by high-pressure educational means such as curses, threats, bribes and connivance. Xiao Baiyou, a businessman who calls himself "Wolf Dad of China", adheres to the concept of "scolding every day, and children enter Peking University" and sends three children to Peking University by corporal punishment. (Dahe Daily 165438+1October16) Not every mountain can become Mount Everest, nor can every child be admitted to Harvard or Peking University. The author believes that there are not a few parents who think corporal punishment is reasonable and effective, but "tiger mother" and "wolf father" are only gimmicky cases after all, in their "legends". Let's not say whether being admitted to Peking University is the "greatest success" for children, whether corporal punishment has any effect, or even the scary meaning revealed by "Wolf Dad". "Beating children" is the "most wonderful part" of family education. It is debatable to talk only about the leading and dominating role of parents in this kind of high-pressure education, and the premise that parents are better than their children in everything. In the past, China was an experience society, and the knowledge and skills information was mastered by the previous generation, and generally passed down from generation to generation, and spread in one direction. A master teaches his disciples, and parents pass on their children. The older generation is indeed stronger than the younger generation, and it also plays an absolute leading role. However, modern society has entered the information age and digital age, and the younger generation has more and more ways to acquire knowledge, and the gap between generations of knowledge and information is getting smaller and smaller, and even the younger generation has surpassed its predecessors, such as the "digital gap" between generations. Now many parents are at a loss in the face of computer technology and online consumption, but children are experts; Parents haven't mastered the essentials of using smart phones for a long time, but children can feel at home for a while. Neil Neil Pozmann, an American scholar, believes that in the electronic and image age, children and adults have lost the intergenerational differences in accepting knowledge, and claimed that "childhood has disappeared". To put it bluntly, parents are not much better than their children. Anthropologist Margaret? Mead also pointed out that there are three kinds of intergenerational cultures in human society-pre-figurative culture, parallel figurative culture and post-figurative culture. Obviously, in today's society, information is changing rapidly, and new technologies are emerging one after another, which has obvious characteristics of "figurative culture" and "post-figurative culture". In some aspects (such as computer technology, intelligent technology, etc.). ), seniors should learn from the younger generation, which is called "cultural feedback". "Tiger Mom" and "Wolf Dad" come and go, but it is the inertia of "pre-metaphor". Now so many parents are anxious about their children's education, but they often don't get to the point. In a sense, I'm afraid it's because of the deep-rooted pre-metaphor thinking that they can't adapt to or even accept their decline in grades, and they haven't found a way to "combine metaphor" or even "post-metaphor" with their children, so they are anxious and even desperate, so that "tiger mother" and "wolf father" board. According to the statistical probability, among the parents of excellent children, there are definitely more parents with spring breeze and detachment than "tiger mom and wolf dad". Why is it the turn of a violent parent to preach and talk about "parenting classics"?