One aspect is the father himself. My father is very busy. I remember that for a long time, my father didn't come home until about 12. When I was half asleep, I heard a series of doors open, then my parents' voices, and then the sound of water in the bathroom. I think everyone's growing experience is similar to mine. My father is often away from home. The first thing I see when I go home is my mother, and the person who chats at dinner is also my mother. Therefore, when I was young, I was always close to my mother and distant from my father. And as the saying goes, "Father loves mountains". A man's personality is not destined to be as friendly as a woman's, and he doesn't care too much about you on the surface, so it really seems that the father is absent when the child grows up.
On the other hand, it's yourself. I remember when I was a child, my father did all the beatings, and my mother advised me. There are red faces and black faces in the play. Who do you like better? It must be a bad face. It is because of the pain of childhood that I have been afraid of my father, so I have never been close to him. So, when I was growing up, I snubbed him. I think many people will have the seeds of fear of their father.
In fact, in the process of children's growth, the father has never been absent. When I grow up, I listen to my mother, and my father often talks to her about my education. After I went to college, my father often talked to me. Teach me some life experiences. A person needs a mother when he is young, because he needs care, and he needs a father when he grows up, because he needs to learn to be a man.