Interpersonal communication ability is an indispensable quality for modern people. It mainly includes: language expression ability, listening ability, making friends ability, observation ability and the ability to deal with various problems in life. The problem of communication and getting along with others is not unique to college students, but the performance of this problem in college students is special. The main task of college students is to prepare for the pre-service professional foundation, and the cultivation of interpersonal skills is also a necessary preparation. With the development of society, students pay more and more attention to communication skills and interpersonal relationships, and they have a more positive view and more urgent requirements for interpersonal communication. 1, interpersonal harmony, as one of the standards of college students' mental health, is summarized from their excellent psychological quality. They are willing to communicate, take the initiative to communicate, make good use of skills, coordinate contradictions and have friends. Summarizing successful college students, you will often find: (1) personality traits with affinity, such as honesty, enthusiasm and integrity; (2) Overcome various obstacles and practice bravely; (3) pay attention to the norms of communication behavior; (4) Correct use of communication art; (5) Actively participate in communication practice. 2. The types of college students' interpersonal communication can be roughly divided into three types: first, they have a deep understanding of communication, take active actions, and show great interest and enthusiasm. Most of them are enthusiastic about participating in student club activities and taking the initiative to undertake social work. The second is passive. They are dissatisfied with the closed form of communication in the past, eager for sincere and profound friendship, but feel the lack of intimate friends. Some people are not active because they are afraid of delaying their studies, and more are passive participants. The third type is quiet. This kind of people are relatively small, accustomed to a quiet life, and generally have a withdrawn personality. On weekdays, they don't talk much, are not sociable, and only keep in touch with a few people. It is worth noting that college students have more contact with people with the same level of cultural knowledge and less contact with other classes. According to the needs of college students' own growth, they need to contact people from all walks of life, workers, farmers and so on. In order to find their place in social development. Although some college students come from workers and peasants' families, most of them are less engaged in family productive labor and lack the real life experience of the public. Some problems in college students' communication, such as graduate students being easily abducted, paranoid personality and self-esteem, are all related to their narrow social scope and lack of correct understanding of themselves. Second, the common problems of college students' interpersonal communication 1. Dare to communicate. In the practice of interpersonal communication, people have different degrees of fear, but everyone's reaction is different. Some college students have a particularly strong reaction in this regard. Due to psychological effects such as shyness and inferiority, I am particularly nervous when interacting with people. My heart is panting, my face is red, and my eyes dare not look straight. When talking to people, it seems incoherent and unintelligible. Especially in crowded places or in collective activities, I feel more afraid, afraid to deal with people and afraid to express myself. Serious can lead to social phobia. 2. Unwilling to communicate Some college students, after "crossing the wooden bridge with thousands of troops", find that they are not as outstanding as they were in middle school, thus forming interpersonal barriers caused by jealousy and inferiority, thinking that they are inferior to others and fearing that others will look down on them. People lack the necessary trust and understanding, and interpersonal communication is dull. Lack the basic spirit of cooperation with classmates, and even regard classmates as opponents; Some students are arrogant and look down on others; Some students are weak in group consciousness, self-centered and indifferent to people and things around them; I'm happy, and I'm willing to talk to you if I'm happy, or I'll stay away from people. Students lack the necessary tolerance, and even fight for some trivial things. Some people always avoid giving in when they are in trouble, and they are unhappy all day, lacking the desire and interest to communicate. They are self-enclosed and narcissistic, but they are particularly sensitive and have poor psychological endurance. They are withdrawn, unwilling to show their faces and communicate with others. 3, not good at communication Some college students are not good at understanding and mastering some knowledge and skills of communication. In the process of conversation, they seem too stiff, too bookish and too dull. They are grateful and won't tell, but they can't be understood for a while. Some of them are obstacles to understanding caused by cognitive prejudice. They don't pay attention to the "first impression" in communication, pay attention to the way of communication, and don't pay attention to art when persuading, criticizing and rejecting others. Some college students don't pay attention to communication principles, make jokes on occasions, don't know how to save face, or speak rudely, which hurts each other's self-esteem. Or don't know how to respect each other's customs; Don't pretend to know how to talk. These performances are detrimental to the shaping of their own image and affect the further communication between students. 4, will not be exposed to the loss caused by the ideal mode. After entering colleges and universities, most freshmen have a strong desire for interpersonal communication, but often find it difficult. The reason is that many college students often have a strong ideal color in the process of pursuing interpersonal communication. Taking the ideal model of friendship as the standard to measure interpersonal relationships in life will lead to high expectations and high frustration. Furthermore, some college students often talk about the past, but show strong dissatisfaction with interpersonal communication in real life. I don't know that communication lies in the accumulation of usual communication. Some college students don't understand that communication lies in the accumulation of usual communication, and they always want others to take the initiative to care about themselves and communicate with themselves, but they are always in a changing position; Or "rote learning" once asked. This kind of communication will end when the other party feels that they can't benefit themselves materially or spiritually, or even feel that they are cumbersome. 5. Lack of skills may be a comprehensive reflection of the above factors. Such students are shy, self-abased, lonely, suspicious, jealous and fearful. Or lack basic interpersonal skills. They are generally eager to communicate, but due to improper communication methods, limited communication skills, personality defects or psychological barriers in communication, they neither know themselves nor others in the process of communication, which leads to communication failure. Long-term communication failure has made some students regard communication as a burden and gradually close themselves off. The main factors affecting college students' interpersonal communication are environmental factors, spatial distance, communication frequency, similar background, complementary needs, communication attitude and personality characteristics. From psychological counseling and college students' daily life, it is not difficult to find that some college students lack interpersonal skills and experience, some are introverted or have cognitive biases in interpersonal communication, which leads to interpersonal tension among college students. The common problems in college students' interpersonal communication are teacher-student relationship, classmate relationship, parent-child relationship and heterosexual relationship. I sent you an email, and now you can adopt it!