1. Proper name-use the learned art skills of greeting.

2. The tone should be euphemistic: there is a nerve center in the hypothalamus willing to accept joy and joy, so everyone wants to see a warm smiling face and hear kind words. Euphemistic and soft language can leave a good impression on people. On the contrary, a blunt tone will make the other person disgusted.

3. Modesty and taboo:

Modesty: be kind to others, be lenient with others, meet each other sincerely, and exchange hearts for hearts.

Taboo: Don't talk about privacy, indecent things, physical defects, and the pride of frustrated people.

1. Good at deceiving others

When expressing opinions and transmitting information among colleagues, honesty is of course necessary, but sometimes it is not very certain. You can say "others say ..." and "I heard ..." This kind of expression is better if it is false.

2. Don't be sharp-edged, otherwise it will easily become the target of public criticism, and it will be "beautiful in the forest, and the wind will destroy it."

(B) the skills of talking with friends

1. Watch your mouth.

For example, a gentleman visited a friend who had just recovered, and his wife brought a plate with a set of wine glasses and several pairs of chopsticks. Unfortunately, when the host was lighting a cigarette for the guest, he turned around and knocked over the plate. The wine glasses were all broken and chopsticks were scattered all over the floor. The host was embarrassed and others were at a loss. While helping to clean up, Mr. Wang smiled and said, "Look, the host family is going to have good luck. When the glass was broken, all the chopsticks fell to the ground. This is called sadness (cup) and joy, and quick (chopsticks) tears with joy! " You can use one-liners to comfort and make people feel warm.

2. Dare to criticize.

"One fence, three piles, one hero and three gangs." Life is inseparable from the help and support of friends. Sincere criticism between friends is beneficial to each other's progress.

3. Dare to apologize. When people are consistent in their words and deeds, it is difficult for anyone to be perfect. It doesn't matter if you are wrong, as long as you dare to admit it and apologize to each other, you can make the tree of friendship evergreen.

4. Don't say snobbish things. For example, Mr Mei Lanfang, a famous China opera master, once studied painting with Qi Baishi. As a disciple, he often grinds ink and Xuan paper for Qi Baishi, and his painting skills are also appreciated by Qi Baishi. Later, Mei Lanfang entered the play, with superb acting skills and great fame. At the same time, Qi Baishi, who used to be his teacher, lived a simple life, dressed in ordinary clothes and was often ignored. But Mei Lanfang does not despise Qi Baishi, because he is a famous actor in the field of China opera. In public, Mei Lanfang always speaks respectfully to him, which often surprises the guests present. To this end, Qi Baishi specially painted a picture of "Sending Charcoal in the Snow" for Mei Lanfang, and wrote a poem: "Recalling the peace of the former dynasty, the cloth is noble and touching." Now I am reduced to Chang 'an, thanks to the name Mei Lang. The friendship between Mei Lanfang and Qi Baishi, two masters of art, has been maintained for life and is admired by future generations. There is neither the snobbery of philistines nor the bad habit of "treating others with courtesy". It is a model of treating others equally and getting along equally. Only when the two sides are in an equal position can there be truly successful communication and sincere friendship.

(3) Skills and precautions for talking with strangers:

1, dedicated, pay attention to etiquette;

Enthusiasm and concentration are social etiquette and also the need for the success of social purposes.

(1) Find the * * * similarities of each other and stimulate the interest in conversation.

Never forget understanding and friendship. Friendship is the lubricant of a society. It is not difficult for us to see such a dialogue on the bus: "I'm sorry, I stepped on you." The other party immediately said, "It doesn't matter, there are many people." The storm subsided before the waves surged. On the same bus, it is inevitable that a young man accidentally touched another young man's wet umbrella and his clothes got dirty, so a war of words began: "Where are your eyes?" "It's none of your business." ..... Two men fought and both sides lost.

2. Find a topic skillfully and keep Tan Xing;

Tan Xing: Interested in conversation. Pay attention to constantly changing new topics to maintain Tan Xing.

Greetings; Environment; Interest; Words and deeds; Question and answer; Enthusiasm

3, two-way correspondence, leaving room;

① Interaction; Make way for each other.

4. Pay attention to listening and give timely feedback;

① Listen carefully; Don't interrupt others unless it is necessary. Listen carefully. 2 understanding; 3 in the right way.

5, vary from person to person, avoid sensitive areas.

1 Don't ask about marriage; 2 don't ask about income; 3 don't ask age;

4 does not require privacy; ⑤ Don't ask about experience.

6. The atmosphere is harmonious and flexible. Speak freely and enhance your goodwill.

1 humor; ② Adjust the topic appropriately.

(4) Characteristics and skills of talking with parents:

1. Features: ① blood relationship-face life and death calmly, and when I was afraid of death as a child, my parents answered; When you are pregnant, your understanding of life extension. ...

In Tangshan earthquake, young mother bit her finger and sucked for the baby who couldn't reach the milk. Finally, the baby was rescued and the mother died of excessive blood loss.

This real thing happened in a winter. Early that morning, a residential building in the old street suddenly caught fire. It was an old brick-and-wood house built in the 1940s-wooden stairs, wooden windows and wooden floors, which caught fire as soon as they were burned. The residents fled in succession, only halfway, and the wooden stairs collapsed with a bang. The remaining nine residents had to run to the top floor of the third floor, which was the only floor without burning, waiting for the rescue of the fire brigade. The fire brigade arrived soon, but what they were at a loss was that the old alley was too narrow and dense for fire engines and ladders to pass through. The situation is very urgent, and the fire may spread to the top floor at any time. Seeing that the thick wooden columns used to support the building on the ground floor are creaking and may collapse at any time. The fire chief had no time to think about anything else, so he tore off an old blanket worn by the escaped residents, opened it with three other firefighters and shouted at it: "Jump! Jump down one by one, onto the blanket! Go back to the ground! "

To be on the safe side, he personally demonstrated the action similar to the back jump. It's safest to land on your back, and it's not easy to hit a broken blanket.

The first man jumped down and landed on his ass, but he was not injured; A child jumped down and landed on his back ... people's posture became more and more standardized, at most, they got a scratch when they rolled off the blanket. But there is also a woman wrapped in a coat standing on the roof, hesitating whether to jump.

The fire was getting fiercer and fiercer. A pillar was burning and suddenly it snapped. People exclaimed, and the fire chief's throat was hoarse: "Jump! You jump quickly! " The small building swayed for a while, and the woman finally made up her mind to jump over the guardrail. The people present collectively exclaimed that she used a diving posture with her head down. The woman landed on the blanket like a cannonball. Because the stress area was too small, the old blanket cracked with a snort, and the woman's head hit the ground heavily, and suddenly she was bleeding profusely.

This woman is really stupid. The man in front dances so well that it's time to watch. Everyone present thought so and couldn't help rushing over. The dying woman laughed loudly in the arms of the fire chief. Her coat was open, and everyone saw her belly bulging high. "It has been more than 9 months." The woman said softly, "Hurry and take me to the hospital for laparotomy. It can survive ... "The woman was taken to the hospital later, and I don't know if she survived later. But at that moment everyone was silent and moved. That is the safest posture for a mother, although it is the most dangerous for herself.

(2) the relationship between the young and the old-ethics

Tiger poison does not eat children; It is also said that kangaroos are the most responsible mothers; Several hunters went hunting together.

The last one is to look around and always feel that there is prey. Gradually, he fell behind. At this time, a leopard really appeared. When the leopard pounced, the hunter pulled out his gun and hit the leopard in the leg. The leopard still pounced on the hunter. Finally, the hunter strangled the leopard with his fist. No one believed him when he caught up with his companion. He killed the leopard alone. They retraced their steps to see the leopard. As a result, the leopard disappeared, followed the blood and found it in a cave, with its back to the hole motionless. The hunters pulled it out hard and were surprised to find that four little golden leopards were nursing. The mother leopard used her last strength to climb home just to nurse her baby ... The hunter buried the leopard heavily.

I suddenly remembered a painting by a nursing student in Feng Zikai: Someone cooked an eel, and found that when cooking, its head and tail were bent into an arch shape, and the middle was stuck by boiling water. I opened it and found it was full of caviar-all mothers are the same, they are the safest in their hearts and always give it to their children.

(3) Equal relationship-the new concept is that everyone is an adult, and it is necessary to repair the contradiction between the past and parents.

2. Talking to parents skills:

Respect parents and listen to stories: people will always be nostalgic; There are many old sayings; People are always lonely.

Kong Ziyun: "Parents are here. If you don't travel far, you must swim well." But there are many travelers in modern society.

Learn to comfort and understand;

2 understand parents, speak considerate words, and learn to understand and empathize;

Give menopausal care.

Your mother is about 45 years old and your father is 50 years old. Menopause is something that every middle-aged person must go through, just as you must go through a rebellious period. 40-60 years old is the peak of cancer. Why? It's stressful.

(3) Consulting parents and solving problems through consultation: coordinating their relationship;

Harmonious relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law

The choice of school major; Work; You don't have to listen to your parents completely, but parents have the right to know. Parents' opinions and suggestions should be considered.

(5) Discussion:

1. What kind of friendship do you think is the most precious in the world? Briefly explain why.

2. How to deal with parents' divorce and remarriage?

Guidance: ① The decision of blood relationship will not change parents' love for their children;

2 learn to face pain with subtraction; When family conflicts are irreconcilable, the father, mother and children all suffer. When they have to divorce, it becomes the pain of one of the children.

③ Learn to empathize. The average age in China is 7 1 for males and 74/for females. How long have parents been alive? How many days and nights did you honor them and accompany them?