People are often dominated by the negative mentality of "I can't do it", resulting in most people being half poor and half rich all their lives, neither too poor nor developed. And what is the actual situation? Success is always accompanied by people with a sense of self-success, and failure is always accompanied by people with a sense of self-failure!
"Man is the product of his own thoughts." David Schwartz, a successful American scientist, said, "People who believe that they can' move mountains' will succeed, which is the driving force for success inspired by confidence; And those who believe that they can't do it can only do what they believe. "
An American gentleman confirmed David Schwartz's conclusion with his own personal experience.
This gentleman used to be an ordinary worker and lived a very ordinary life: the house was too narrow and the money was tight. Although his wife seldom complains, she is obviously unhappy and has just resigned. He gradually became dissatisfied and felt deeply guilty that he could not let his family live a comfortable life.
Later, after listening to David Schwartz's speech "Let your thoughts help your work, not hinder your work", he was moved and decided to "use the power of confidence" to contend with fate.
So he applied for a job in a big company. The night before the interview, he was sitting alone in his hotel room, suddenly feeling down and out, miserable, middle-aged, but still a loser living at the bottom. Thought of here, he felt very disappointed and bored with himself. He asked himself, "What made him like this? Why do I just want to find a job that can only make a small step forward? Am I incapable? "
On a whim, he wrote down the names of five friends who had known each other for many years on the note in the hotel. They are all more successful than him at present. He asked himself: Besides having a better job, what advantages do these five friends have that they don't have? As far as intelligence is concerned, I am not worse than them; In terms of academic qualifications, they are not better than themselves; As far as character is concerned, everyone is the same What makes you lag far behind them?
Finally, he finally found the key to their success-motivation. They work harder than each other, but they are disheartened.
Although he is very reluctant to admit this, he still has to admit that he has the problem of shrinking and hesitating in everything, which has always been the case.
Further analysis shows that motivation is only a superficial phenomenon, and the deeper reason is that I lack motivation, because I never think I am very valuable.
As soon as I found the root of the disease, I looked back on the past. It turns out that this sense of self-degradation is manifested in everything I do: I am afraid that I will not find my ideal job when I am looking for a job, and I will not get satisfactory results after working. He couldn't help asking himself: since when did inferiority begin to dominate everything for me? I used to sell myself cheap! If you don't believe in yourself, no one in this world will believe in yourself.
After realizing the harm of inferiority, he immediately warned himself: I no longer think I am second-rate, and I no longer sell myself cheaply.
The next morning, he went to the interview with this confidence. At first, he intended to apply for a position with a lower salary. In order to test his newfound confidence, he confidently promoted himself and explained his value. As a result, his self-confidence experiment succeeded and he got a well-paid job. After going to work, he still has this confidence. The harder he works, the happier he is and the greater his achievements. After two years of reorganization, he was also allocated a lot of stocks and more wages.
Five years later, his life has completely changed, surpassing those five friends in many ways. He not only owns a beautiful new house on two acres of land, but also builds a luxurious villa in a place where the seasons are like spring. Children can receive better education, and wives can enjoy shopping at will; Every year, the whole family can go anywhere in the world for a holiday.
This shows that mentality changes everything!
Thought determines action. Positive thoughts determine positive actions, and negative thoughts determine negative actions. And action determines success or failure: people with low self-esteem fail and confident people succeed.
Confidence is omnipotent. For example, human beings have the belief that "we will conquer space", so there are really spaceships; Man has the belief of landing on the moon, so he really realized this ideal; Human beings have the belief of eradicating smallpox, and smallpox will never infect human beings again ... I believe it will succeed and human beings will have the motivation to create miracles; Believe that success is the secret of the success of all great men; I believe that success will usher in more friends and better opportunities.
People with low self-esteem can find reasons for hesitation in anything. They have failed in everything, such as "How can that be done?" "I'll try first, and it's estimated that it's hard to get any results." And "I am not qualified yet." ... the result must be failure, because he has never worked hard in the direction of success.
"Not confident" is a negative state of mind, which leads to negative actions. When you disagree and have doubts, all kinds of negative reasons will sprout to support the idea of unbelief. Doubting your ability, not believing that your subconscious mind will succeed, or not demanding success very urgently will hinder your progress. PS, for reference only.