Rationality is to look at things around us with an objective world, and rational thinking is not absolutely rigid. Its thinking stems from the event itself.
For example, your emotions are divided into sensibility and rationality, and sensibility is an emotional emotion that you express from your own feelings; Rationality is to express rational views and make rational behaviors through objective external analysis.
The word "rational emotion" comes from an ancient Roman philosopher, that is, what hurts us is not the thing itself, but our view of it. The following is the influence and scope of personal understanding on the event.
For example, if the child next door breaks a bowl, you will only say "It doesn't matter if you break a bowl". If your child breaks a bowl, it is easy for you to get angry. "Why are you so careless?" "Why are other people's children not like you?" "It's really outrageous!" Wait for the content.
The object of the same thing will have such a big emotional fluctuation on us. Why? For the former, you will feel that it is none of your business, so why care? For the latter, you will magnify the event itself with your own subjective emotions.
Of course, if we can treat our own affairs with a "bystander attitude" like other people's affairs, we may not be depressed or furious because we can't control ourselves.
At any time, we can choose our own behavior and develop in the direction that we think is "good". This also shows that it is not others but our own cognition that affects our emotions and behaviors, that is, your inner beliefs determine the influence on your emotions and behaviors.
How should we simply deal with what has happened? As normal people, our emotions can't be quiet at the moment, and we can't be angry if we don't say it. However, we can break down events and separate them from emotions, that is, I am in a good mood when the sun comes out. These are two things. (It can also be said in popular terms that "seeing mountains is mountains and seeing water is water". )
It's hard to be rational when things happen, especially what happens to yourself and around you, but we also need to know that your emotional expansion itself has no effect on the outcome of the event, but when you try to create another event, you will naturally treat what has happened more rationally.
Of course, a beautiful philosophical theory doesn't actually have much substantive guiding significance for our real life, so we should understand and apply it according to our own actual situation, instead of following the book, which may backfire in the end.
In real life, it is easy for us to magnify what happened. In fact, the occurrence of one event does not determine the whole result (for example, your fate is not caused by one event, but by your inner cognition). We should look at it separately. After this subdivision, we will enter every phenomenon field to seriously analyze the inevitability of this event, and we don't have to blame ourselves too much for the occurrence of one thing, which will lead to a series of "associative consequences".
For example, if a child steals, he thinks that the child is a heinous person. As the saying goes, "thieves steal gold with needles." First of all, let's not deny the quality of this sentence. Let's analyze the event itself first.
How old is the child now? Why do children steal from others? What is the child's understanding of "stealing" and "taking"? Why do children steal from others? Wait a series of questions.
In the case of children stealing, the analysis itself should start with the cause and process, instead of grasping the result and starting to criticize the right and wrong view in self-belief, which is unfair to children at least.
For children whose values have not yet been formed, your words are more or less suggestive or reinforcing. Good hints and good reinforcement have positive guidance, while bad hints and bad reinforcement will only destroy a child.
What we are afraid of is not the event itself, but the feeling. We can try to start from our feelings and go deep into our subconscious to find the source of fear. This is the treatment of dynamic psychology, starting from the subconscious to find the root.
Of course, this actually requires individuals as insiders to have strong self-cohesion, in order to help us understand the real inner essence behind the incident more effectively.
Many times, what really affects our destiny is actually our cognitive schema. Your cognitive structure determines that you will have different understandings and reactions when you look at the same thing. It's like a note you wrote in a book ten years ago, and it's the same today ten years later.
Rational treatment is not a rigid application of the "truth", but a reflection and analysis based on the actual situation and the event itself. To discuss rationality here is not to deny sensibility. Everything has two sides. Only by looking at it objectively can we not walk into a dead end, embarrass others and embarrass ourselves.