Our daughter is six and a half years old and has just entered the first grade of primary school. In the process of daily education for children, I think the following points are very important:
First, cultivate children's good habits from an early age. In terms of behavior habits, from early childhood, we asked her to do something independently, such as eating, dressing and bathing. We often take her to nature, let her get close to nature, learn about all kinds of crops and livestock in rural areas, feel the fiery labor scene in rural areas, and cultivate her awareness of respecting and loving labor; We consciously take her to some group activities, go to the park to play, encourage her to play with other children, and teach her how to get along with others in the process, so that she can be polite and honest. Sometimes we are doing housework, and the children want to try it out of curiosity, mop the floor, clean the table and so on. We will not refuse because she is still young and messy, and always patiently guide her to experience the happiness of success. These seemingly insignificant things can give children a good exercise, which is conducive to cultivating their will to be independent, confident and self-reliant, and has positive significance for the formation of their independent personality. In terms of study habits, most children's poor study at present is due to bad habits, such as talking when doing homework or having adults accompany them to do homework. What is particularly frightening is that some children dally with things since childhood, and even if they study well now, they will be very troublesome in their later studies. Therefore, we advocate concentrating on completing homework, cultivating children's concentration, agility and dexterity, and improving learning efficiency. At the same time, when doing homework, we ask children to develop the good habit of checking after finishing homework. For example, if they read their diaries by themselves, they can find out the missing words, typos and punctuation marks by themselves.
The second is to strengthen communication with children. Parents should be friends with their children, communicate with them more, understand their thoughts and respect their opinions. Some parents around us are busy and seldom communicate with their children. They either turn a blind eye to their children's affairs and let them go, or arbitrarily arrange things, impose their wishes on their children and deprive them of their right to choose and judge freely. When something happened, they still felt incredible. In our family, we often use the time of eating and walking together to exchange and ask our children what interesting things happened and what they learned in primary school, so as to catch the subtle changes of their thoughts in time, give positive guidance and promote their healthy growth.
Third, parents must set an example. Parents are the children's first teacher, the most trusted and intimate dependence of children, and the spiritual pillar of children. Parents' sense of responsibility in family life, parents' attitude towards parents, neighbors and friends, attitude and spirit towards social life, parents' way of thinking in dealing with problems, etc. , are consciously or unconsciously setting an example for children, parents' words and deeds will inevitably become the object of children's imitation. We can't ask children to set lofty goals in life when they are addicted to gambling, be honest when they lie, be strong and optimistic when they lament setbacks, and be serious and responsible when they are half-hearted.
Fourth, praise children more. Parents should not be stingy with praise when their children grow up. When the child makes even a little progress, we should also praise him quickly, point out the direction of future efforts for the child and build confidence. Parents should not reprimand their children too much when they make mistakes. First of all, they should educate children to have the courage to bear mistakes, and then help them analyze where they went wrong, why they went wrong, where they will go wrong, what consequences they will have, and how to correct them in the future. I remember a saying: A good boy likes to brag. In life, we praise our children as much as possible. Children will be willing to learn only when they have a certain degree of self-confidence. Let children feel that they have made progress in their studies every day, even if they have corrected a shortcoming. For example, when my daughter is learning guzheng, because it is easy to get started, the harder it is, the more difficult it is, and the children become afraid of it. At this time, my wife and I will comfort her, encourage her from every little progress, help her build confidence and overcome her fear of difficulties. At present, her academic performance in guzheng is far straight, which has been fully affirmed by the teacher.
The fifth is to correctly guide and cultivate children's interests. Interest is the door of knowledge and the engine of learning classroom. How do children pursue things that are not of interest? As parents, what we should do is to discover, cultivate and stimulate children's interest according to their personality characteristics, and take targeted measures to educate and guide them. Some parents want their children to succeed and their daughters to succeed. They like to enroll their children in various classes and interest classes. They want their children to be proficient in everything, regardless of whether they like it or not. Some people even just realize their unfulfilled dreams. The result is often counterproductive. Not only may you learn nothing well, but you may also dampen your interest in learning. From then on, you are afraid of learning and hate learning. I found that our daughter's interest in music, painting, handicrafts and children dance is progressing rapidly at present, because she has a high interest in this field and a certain talent.
Sixth, parents and members should cooperate tacitly. In order to educate children well, all members as parents should cooperate tacitly to form a joint force, and their requirements, attitudes and leading directions for children should be basically the same. If the two people have the same goal and different attitudes, one side's educational guidance for children will often be interfered, offset, even distorted and opposed by the other side. Children will be at a loss in the face of multiple choices, and the hard work of parents will inevitably be wasted. My family and I hope that through our own efforts, our children can learn to be human, do things, get along with each other, learn knowledge, cultivate strong will, optimistic attitude and good behavior habits, and eventually become adults, talents and success.
The above are some experiences of my wife and I in educating our children in our daily life. The purpose is to communicate with parents, explore good experiences and practices in educating children, learn from each other's strengths, promote each other, and better educate children.