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Ants rely on dead leaves to cross the river safely; Birds thrive on their mothers' unremitting feeding; Warm sunshine can make seeds germinate quietly. All through moderate dependence, survival of the fittest, or heavy or new.

We can borrow some foreign things in time to rely on, knowing how to rely on is the guarantee for us to do a good job.

Learning to rely on is an accelerant for our growth and an engine for our progress. And over-reliance will only lead to over-dependence and over-indulgence, leading to failure.

Excessive dependence leads to the reaction of things and leads to heavy failure.

Over-reliance, so failure. This should arouse our vigilance. Just as parents should not spoil their sons too much and reduce their dependence on their parents, it is very helpful for children to learn to live independently, go out of society and accept tests.

Excessive dependence leads to failure. This also requires us to know how to rely moderately. Moderate dependence can save us time, energy, money, etc. But in the face of success, you can get twice the result with half the effort. Just like track and field athletes with the help of high-tech sports shoes, they can run faster, fly farther and hit the target better.

Relying on is not a shortcut without a way out. Dependence is an instinct that we use when we do things. We should fully grasp dependence, rely on it when it is time to rely on it, and give up when it is time to give up. For dependence, we should stop at the right time and stop moderately.

Only by relying on ourselves can we get closer to success.

Relying on external things will only be infinitely far from success.

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Excessive dependence leads to failure.

Don't regard dependence as stability.

Depend, like the other side of the ship; Rely on, like a harbor where goods run; Rely on, just like the roof when the storm comes. Dependence always brings warmth and comfort to people. When people encounter joys and sorrows, they always want someone to listen. Obviously, you have to rely on it, but don't blindly rely on it, regard it as stability.

Why don't we just rely on it and regard it as stability?

Because of excessive dependence, it may become your achilles heel. People always take it for granted to stand on the shoulders of their predecessors and enjoy their achievements. Liu Chan is a good example. Unintentional learning, slow response and untraceable became people's sigh for Liu Chan, and later people called him "A Dou", which is probably the case. Otherwise, how could it end up ruining Liu Bei's future? Li Longji had no intention of running state affairs, and regarded the achievements made by Emperor Taizong as the basis of his career, and pushed down the landslide according to the spirit of the prosperous Tang Dynasty. They don't think about their old jobs, because they rely too much on their ancestors, and eventually they don't succeed and ruin their family business. Isn't overdependence their achilles heel?

Being independent may make you independent and self-reliant. Just like Hong Zhanhui, his mother left and became a hated person. His father became the person he needed to take care of when he was sick, and his sister became a greater burden to him. In a poor family, he has no one to rely on; In a loving society, he also resolutely refused to accept dependence. The tough environment honed his strong will and set an example for the people of China to learn from. Although he is short, his spirit is more noble. If there were more reliance, there might not be such a strong person. Not relying, but making him more independent and self-reliant.

In fact, dependence and non-dependence have different effects on people. How should we make independence our guide?

Perhaps, dependence is the most stable medicine for the soul. But not relying on it may make you more successful.

Time flies, a person's life is long, but very short. There are thousands of pains hovering around them for decades. If you want to live a smoother road, with less twists and turns, more light and less darkness, you must rely on yourself and build a bridge to success for yourself.

By yourself, success is just around the corner. Cao Xueqin was originally born in a wealthy family. He could have spent his life happily on the wealth of his family, but he didn't. On the contrary, he spent ten years traveling around every corner of the people, lighting lamps, and with a sharp pen tip and anger at feudal rule, he completed the world-famous Dream of Red Mansions. Isn't he the best witness on his own? Gui Youguang failed eight times, and none of them recovered. He relied on himself, so there was the publication of the Collected Works of Yingchuan. Madame Curie suffered from blood cancer, but that didn't stop her from loving science. She finally discovered radium by herself. Relying on our own strength, we can fly to the other side of success despite many difficulties.

You can't rely on yourself, so you are doomed to fail. A woman who is not fat has become a big fat woman after tasting all the secret recipes and weight-loss equipment in a few years. Why is she getting fatter? Because she has the secret recipe and equipment to lose weight, she began to rely only on them and indulge herself, without her own perseverance to lose weight, so she was doomed to failure. So are many things. Relying on others is doomed to failure. Liu Chan, the monarch of Shu, was always cheerful, regardless of Zhuge Liang's good intentions, and he ignored him, thinking that Zhuge Liang was enough for the country. Shu is doomed to ruin in the end. Does it have the reputation of "an irresistible dou"?

Then, since self-reliance is so important, how can we rely on ourselves?

First of all, you should have confidence in yourself. Zheng Banqiao, an eccentric in Yangzhou, is ugly, but he is full of confidence in himself and strives to become a historical celebrity. Hawking, an ordinary person with severe disabilities, was full of confidence in himself and didn't believe in fate, and eventually became the most successful popular science writer.

Secondly, don't say that difficulties are invincible. A true wise man can regard difficulties as a driving force for progress. Madame Curie said: "Success is not only flowers and applause, but also blood and sweat."

Difficulties are not terrible, what is terrible is that you have no determination to overcome them; Success is not far away, the key is whether you rely on yourself or not.