The long summer vacation passed unconsciously, and we ushered in a brand-new semester. Today, I am busy with school work, arranging time and arranging classes, and I have no time to ask about the work of teaching classes.
In the morning, I am busy with my work. A parent of a teaching class came to me and said that his child would be transferred to another class. Come and tell me, thank you for always taking care of my children. In fact, the child likes me very much, but there is some misunderstanding with the class teacher I teach, which leads to the estrangement between them and gives her a different environment. what can I say? Is the contradiction between students and teachers good or distant, or lifelong enemies? Since ancient times, the enemy can turn hostilities into friendship. Besides, what can children and teachers be inseparable from?
In fact, I know this child very well: he is exquisite and has aura. We only need to educate individuals about their living habits, study habits and behavior habits. We often say: Fiona Fang cannot live without rules. However, she often ignores the rules of the class and goes her own way. Naturally, she often violates class discipline and can't escape the teacher's care. Ordinary children can get education from it and change bad behavior habits. However, she didn't reflect on her behavior, but went home to talk with her parents about various school things. Parents think that they have been "wronged" at school, and naturally they will know the situation from the class teacher. As a result, their parents not only didn't put themselves in the right position, but complicated the problem. This has happened to her several times. Slowly, the small friction between students and teachers has become a barrier between parents and teachers-it can only be solved by changing classes.
In my opinion, this is by no means wise. First, children's behavior habits still exist, and they will still face the same dilemma in other environments; Secondly, this trend must not be encouraged. If everyone is like this, is the school still a school?
Looking at my parents' expressions in front of me and listening to their complaints, I have a sad feeling! I just nodded my head to show my understanding, hoping that the child can become better in the new environment. As a teacher, I deeply reflect on myself and our educational work: What can we change for our children? What can we leave for the children?
What can we give our children? -Respect and understanding. Children often feel that we don't understand them, that we control them with the demands of adults, and that this makes them lose their freedom. They want to be birds flying in the blue sky and free fish in the water, but the reality is that they can't have their own free and carefree space like birds and fish. So they often make some mistakes involuntarily to relieve their pressure. What do we adults do when our children make mistakes? Naturally, we should understand the reasons and then educate our children to correct them. Like my class teacher, I try my best to help students. We can understand his mistakes, and we hope that she will correct them and grow up healthily.
When a child comes home complaining, as parents, we should understand the child, and at the same time let her learn to reflect on herself and calmly think about what went wrong. This is not only a respect for others, but also a responsibility for yourself. Everyone loves his son and daughter. If parents only look at the problem from the perspective of their children, it is not just love for their children, but a kind of "poison." I think it's wrong to just try to change the environment and hope that changing the environment can change my children. Although the environment can change a person, when you don't change yourself, you can only "complain about others" forever wherever you go. So I think: this should be the truth that parents should tell their children the most.
What can we leave for the children? -introspection and self-esteem. If a person never respects others, how can he be respected by others? If you can't even get the minimum respect, how can you build your confidence? Therefore, when our parents meet their children's "grievances", don't get angry in a hurry, let alone criticize others' mistakes in front of their children. If you are anxious as soon as you listen, the child will know that he has found a "grievance" to rely on. As a result, as long as there is anything unpleasant, right or wrong, I will make a noise when I get home, hoping to find comfort from you. As everyone knows, this is just a way for children to resolve grievances. As us, we must first learn to listen, and calmly listen to children telling the ins and outs of things. I think, after listening to things clearly, you will know right and wrong. Secondly, it is necessary to analyze with children and let them reflect on themselves. At this time, parents should be rational and emotional. Let the child know his behavior clearly, don't avoid his mistakes, face up to his mistakes bravely, and let the child know that this is a really brave child. Only such a person can get respect and understanding from others wherever he goes, and you will be full of confidence and sunshine.
When I write here, I feel relieved-sadness is not there, but more wishes. I hope my parents can read the simplest truth from it now and in the future!