How do college students deal with the relationship between love and study? When I saw this topic, I immediately thought of Teacher Cai. Cai, a teacher in the Music School of Hangzhou Normal University, is my music and life teacher. He once introduced his college life to us. Among them, he mentioned that when he was in college, he made a girlfriend like guerrilla warfare, which caused us to laugh at that time. However, when he finally said that his girlfriend was his lover, we were very envious. I once heard an "elder" say that if a university doesn't talk about a vigorous love, it will regret it for a lifetime! It is nothing new for college students to fall in love. But are college students suitable for falling in love and can they handle the relationship with their studies? Is falling in love really a compulsory course for college students? For the topic "How do college students deal with the relationship between love and study", I want to talk about two examples that happened around me first. The first example is in Jing Hengyi College of Hangzhou Normal University. Jinghengyi College is the signature college of Hangzhou Normal University. There is a famous couple in Jingheng No.1 College. The man is the president of the student union in the college, and his grades rank second in the class. He is enthusiastic about sunshine. Girls are the first in the class, and they are naturally generous and approachable. Because the couple are excellent, students often call them: Chairman and First Lady. Their love story has also been praised by many teachers in the school. A teacher said: college students should be like them when they fall in love. The second example happened to one of my classmates. In high school, my classmates studied hard and got the best grades. He is a role model for students, teachers and parents. However, it backfired. During the college entrance examination, he missed the ideal university for some reasons and went to an ordinary first-class school. In college, he made a girlfriend, so he got lost in the world of love. Living expenses are often borrowed from friends. I didn't go back to the dormitory until about eleven o'clock in the evening. I also use my mobile phone to chat with my girlfriend and send text messages during class, which seriously delays my studies. At the end of last semester, his three classes were all red. I cite the above two examples to show that college students' falling in love may make both of them develop positively, or people in love may not handle the relationship between their studies and love well, leading to academic neglect. In my opinion, the main reason is not others, but the parties in love. Next, I will contact what I learned this semester and briefly talk about how college students should deal with the relationship between falling in love and their studies. Theoretically, the so-called falling in love should be a mature person's thinking and attempt on his future feelings, marriage and family happiness. In reality, although most college students are over 18 years old and meet the legal adult standards, they are not necessarily psychologically mature. Many college students, in primary and secondary schools, are bound by academic pressure and the concern of teachers and parents, and have never had the opportunity to consider what love, marriage and happiness are. In this case, falling in love is mostly just seeing a heterosexual feeling good, or just seeing that everyone around you has a boyfriend/girlfriend, and more is just an impulse after the body matures. In this case, falling in love is not necessarily true love, although there are no worldly distractions such as money and sophistication (of course, it is not excluded that individual college students are doped with these). Therefore, it is particularly important for college students to handle the relationship between love and study. First of all, we should concentrate on our study. Parents use their hard-earned hard-earned money for us to go to college. Even if it is not for ourselves, even for our parents, we must finish reading the book first. During school, most of the time is spent on study. Couples should always urge each other to complete their study plans during this period and finish their homework in time. The two sides complement each other's advantages, learn from each other and explore each other; Couples seldom feel tired after being together for a long time, which can greatly improve the learning efficiency and ensure the steady progress of their grades. In student life, good grades are undoubtedly the most delicious bread, and love with bread will be more attractive and lasting. Second, cherish friendship. It is a great fate for two people to meet in the world, and it is a greater chance for them to become lovers again. Couples should trust and support each other, don't give up easily, and cherish the people in front of them. I remember when I first entered school, when the principal gave a report, I asked a question on behalf of all the students present: Should college students fall in love? The two most important sentences that President Ye said are as follows: 1. Most Nobel Prize winners have been in love in college or even earlier. Western education has never opposed college students' falling in love. 2. If you are in this semester,

I met another person in your destiny, please cherish it. Teacher Cai said the same thing. Their words may not be absolutely correct, but at least they can be recognized by most people.

Third, pay attention to spirit. Generally, college students are not well-off, so they can't spend like white-collar workers, and they should pay more attention to spiritual satisfaction. And spiritual satisfaction is to increase more spiritual supply-read more books. The ancients said: The book has its own golden house, and the book has its own Yan Ruyu. Scholars are happy people, who can extend their lives indefinitely in a limited time, feel the spiritual world of sages in books, and have a spiritual dialogue with sages. This is not only of great help to improve one's spiritual realm and expand one's knowledge, but also lays a foundation for finding a satisfactory job in the future. Couples often exchange each other's latest books and share their views on the characters in the books and their feelings about the books, which greatly improves their reading ability and understanding ability.

Secondly, for falling in love, you should also know the following questions.

First of all, find out why you are in love. Relieve loneliness; Hope to get attention and recognition; Lack of parental love transmission; Group pressure, conformity psychology; From some kind of compensation, if you are starting from the above psychology, then it is best not to worry too much; There are many motives behind a banner of love, not entirely from love itself. Have you analyzed it? Love is the most important issue of youth, which will have an impact on your life. It's not worth talking about it at the absurd risk.

Second, is your character mature? Love is a kind of interpersonal relationship, the closest interpersonal relationship; Love is your whole personality state facing another personality state. The success of love is related to personality status. Excessive self-centeredness, disregard for other people's feelings, strong vanity and inner insecurity are all enemies of a healthy personality. When your personality is mature, it will be very smooth to enter love, because mature people know their feelings and those of others, and mature people can confidently grasp the boat of love.

Third, do you have any misunderstanding about love? If you have the following ideas, you'd better think calmly by yourself. Love is all I have! Love can change everything! You love me, you should give me everything! True love only comes once! At the sight of each other's shortcomings, love disappears! Conflict in love is a bad thing! There are many similar views.

Fourth, have you considered the factors related to love? Love and study, love and family, love and material foundation, love and sex, love and marriage, love and children, love and friendship, etc. They are all contradictions in love, and they will be challenged in the process of love. Only when they are handled well can they have a better relationship.

Among contemporary college students, it seems normal to have a girlfriend or boyfriend on campus. The school neither advocates nor prohibits couples from appearing on campus as another landscape on campus. College students should be exposed to some new things. However, on the issue of falling in love, we should act moderately and not let ourselves go and do whatever we want. We should have a calm attitude and a clear mind, and correctly handle personal emotional problems. Don't let personal emotional problems affect your studies. After all, time waits for no one. We should seize all the time to learn professional courses well and lay a good foundation for our career.