"Your son was born in poverty" is a wise saying that people summed up from practice. With the continuous improvement of living standards, it is of great significance to review this proverb.
"Your son was born in poverty" is the embodiment of environmental education and the crystallization of wisdom education. We all know the truth: "Being determines consciousness." It is not hard to imagine that what people in the palace think and do is absolutely different from what people in the hut think and do Environment and living conditions are very important for the formation of a person's ideas, especially for children with immature world outlook and outlook on life. What is gratifying now is that more and more smart parents have a deep understanding and cognition of "poor children are born" and attach great importance to the cultivation of children's comprehensive ability. No matter how superior the family conditions are, they pay special attention to cultivating children's independent ability, practical ability, communicative ability and psychological endurance, and consciously let their children suffer hardships and exercise, just like a rich man has achieved it.
However, a considerable number of parents have neglected the cultivation of their children's comprehensive ability. They are eager for their children to succeed, and they are "overprotective" and "overproductive". As everyone knows, "dragon" is not a pet and is not used to it. The real "dragon" is exercised in stormy waves. The ancients said: "Heroes have suffered many hardships since ancient times, and they are not arrogant or impetuous"; There is also a saying: "Heaven will have a great responsibility to the world, so we must first suffer from its heart and bone." Regrettably, some parents have not understood these two words of wisdom left by ancient sages. Some parents treat their children as flowers in greenhouses and feed them as birds in cages, and their children are completely deprived of their free space. Whether it is necessary or not, they will make up the calligraphy for their children today and the art for them tomorrow; I have to repair the piano for my children in a few days; Whether it is necessary or not, give the child a car all day; Give the child whatever he wants, whether it is necessary or not; Some children don't wear famous brands, some children don't eat fluently, and children are used to being "little emperors" and "little princesses". At home, this is the biggest and supreme. Even the ethics is reversed, and the son becomes the "father" and the father becomes the "son"; Some parents also regard test scores as the only criterion for their children to become "dragons" and "phoenixes". As everyone knows, high scores and low energy are fools! Because of the doting of parents, children live a life of food and clothing, food and clothing. There is no pressure to survive, and I don't know the hardships of life, and I don't know where wealth comes from. In this way, it is very easy to form a bad habit of laziness, greed, selfishness, vanity, greed, and not recognizing family ties but only recognizing money. Once the character is formed, it will ruin the future and destiny of the child's life. If children are brought up to this extent, it cannot be said that their parents are ignorant, nor can it be said that they are sad and sinful. From the children of the Eight Banners in the Qing Dynasty to the children of today's rich and powerful families, there are many examples of "pampering children like killing them". When you think about it carefully, you can't help but wake up.
Why are there so many poor children? A simple understanding is that children from poor families, as soon as they come to this world, are faced with pressure and lack, not only material lack, but also dignity in the eyes of others. A decent and rich life is their greatest wish. Surpassing poverty and living a decent life are their motivation. This kind of motivation can produce great tension and make people burst into amazing energy in the face of difficulties, challenges and opportunities. Overcome difficulties and achieve success with a positive attitude and tenacious endurance.
Mr Li Ka-shing, the richest man in China, was born into a humble family. He hasn't studied for several days. When I was a child, I poured tea for customers in a bar. Now I'm a tea teacher. Later, he came to my uncle and became a wage earner. The vicissitudes of the world and the hardships of life have created a business mind for him. When opportunities and challenges came, the wisdom and courage endowed by the poor showed incisively and vividly, and he became a business elite with both ability and political integrity.
Doesn't mean that rich people can't produce talents. A wealthy family can also produce more talents. Bill Gates, the richest man in the world, is a good example. Bill Gates was born in a wealthy family, and his parents attached great importance to the cultivation of children's comprehensive ability. When I was a child, I never gave him any superior conditions and often asked him to do some hard work. After he went to college, his parents asked him to take a part-time job to maintain his study and life during college. As far as Bill Gates' family conditions are concerned, hundreds of college students are not a problem. But why let him work-study, self-reliance? This is because his parents want Bill Gates to be an adult. It is said that this kind of education is the same in almost every family in western developed countries, and it is also on the rise in economically developed areas of China. I heard that there is a rich boy in Beijing. His school is six or seven kilometers away from home. He has been walking to school every day since the first grade of junior high school, and his academic performance is very good. He was rated as a top three student every year and was admitted to Tsinghua University last year.
From this, it can be seen that the fundamental problem of "a poor family produces a noble child" and "a rich family produces a talented person" lies in the concept and effective methods of educating children. At present, there are two popular sayings in society. One is "no matter how poor you are, you can't have poor children" and the other is "no matter how rich you are, you can't have rich children". The former expresses parents' simple love for their children, while the latter expresses parents' rational love for their children. "No matter how rich you are, you can't have rich children", which is a wise man's incisive opinion. Not all parents can understand this sentence, some do, but they may not be able to do it. Whether children can be really cultivated is very important for parents' cultivation, quality and ideas and methods of educating children.
There is a sketch that says well: "If you want to destroy a person, give him a crutch and let him rely on it slowly." After several months and years, he can't walk without crutches. "This is such a profound and vivid metaphor. Do our parents really want to give their children a crutch?
The ancients said, "Poverty is the hammer to train heroes. Those who can be exercised by it will benefit both physically and mentally; " People who don't exercise by it will be physically and mentally damaged. "Another cloud said," Without severe cold, how can plum blossoms smell sweet? "Poor inheritance wind, very familiar with, right? Is it cooked wrong? Is it stupid? Is it wisdom? Let's explore and understand in practice!