What were you doing all night?

Chasing drama, chatting, reading, Weibo, playing games, brushing small videos ... passed unconsciously 12.

A patient who stayed up all night himself said, "Although I am sleepy, if I don't do what I like at night, I feel that there is always something missing this day."

There is a word called "staying up late", which means that some people are too busy during the day and work overtime until nine o'clock at night. Although I am very tired when I get home, I still can't bear to sleep.

Staying up late is to make up for the depressed entertainment needs during the day, to silently resist the occupation of life by work, and to try to find my sense of control over life.

After twelve o'clock, today has passed and tomorrow has not arrived yet. This is a time and space isolated from the past and the future.

At this time, turn on a desk lamp, get rid of all social relations, don't wait for others, put on a mask and let yourself slip out and breathe in the dark. This has become the last ceremony of the day.

After completing this ceremony, we can finally believe that this is my life, not just a screw life, and then sleep peacefully.

Second, resist anxiety.

Some special people stay up late not for fun, but because they don't work hard enough during the day and are embarrassed to sleep at night without doing something serious.

"An aunt asked me why students sleep so late. It's hard to say that they are inspired only at night. No, aunt, learning skills is not based on spiritual senses, but on guilt caused by doing nothing during the day. The same is true for programmers. "

I asked a programmer, "Are you really efficient at night?" She said, "Some people are, but I'm sure they are not. This is a kind of psychological comfort. I'm so tired. If there is another bug, I will ask my heart. "

Young people have a lot of troubles, such as being laid off in the middle of the year, not being able to buy a house and get married, worrying about their parents' health, worrying about food quality and air safety, and worrying about tomorrow ... These are all worries brought by reality.

There is also a part of anxiety, which comes from the requirements of superego: I am worried that I will be abandoned by my peers, that I am not good enough, and that I cannot give my children a higher starting point. ...

All these worries can be summed up as "I'm not working hard enough."

Staying up late to work is to give superego and strict parents a confession:

Look, I've tried hard enough. Don't punish me.

Third, drive away loneliness.

There is a saying that spreads widely among people who stay up late: I stayed up all night, but I was lonely.

This sentence is not a complete joke, but it makes sense.

Some people find it easy to fall asleep when their partners or roommates are around. I often stay up late when I am alone, and I have to play with my mobile phone in bed for a while until I am very sleepy.

Parents may have had this experience. Even if the baby is asleep, he can feel his mother leave and wake up crying. Babies need to feel connected with their mothers before going to sleep.

Adults don't need their mothers around, but they also need a stable relationship. This relationship can exist in reality or in the heart.

Adult mobile phones and children's bears have played an alternative role in stabilizing relations. Once you fall asleep, you can only put down your mobile phone, disconnect from others and lose something you can rely on.

Stay up late when you are alone, and play mobile phone before going to bed. To some extent, you want to keep in touch with others and guard against inner loneliness.

So it is difficult for us to put down our mobile phones, because we are not staying up late, but lonely.

Whether it is for self-defense, resisting anxiety, or driving away loneliness, the reason for staying up late is that the current generation can't bear great pressure.