There is room for argument. 1 cut the road, the nose is the same size, and the eyes are the same size. Nose can be big or small, but small can't be big. The same is true of events.
The sky said: Leave a space for Baiyun to fly freely, so that I can reach higher.
The moon said: Leave a space for the stars to twinkle at will, and my world will no longer be lonely.
People say: leave room for everything and leave a way out for others. Also open a window for yourself.
I remember when I was a child, my grandmother often told me to buy clothes with an extra button. At that time, I didn't understand what grandma meant, and I didn't care much. Until one time, my beloved dress was missing a button, and I couldn't find it after rummaging through the closet. Finally, when all the tailor shops couldn't find the buttons of the same style, my heart began to ache. Finally got the news of grandma. It turns out that one more button means one more way out. One more choice, one more hope. Similarly, there will be one less regret.
Adolescence is a rebellious period. Looking back on those years, I feel a lot. In adolescence, I became inexplicably impetuous and at a loss. The world doesn't seem as satisfying, comfortable and relaxed as I thought. In my life, my parents' nagging and restraint disgust me; In my study, my parents' harshness and harshness suffocated me. In the face of parents' reprimand, I slammed the door angrily; I turned a blind eye to my parents' expectations. Life seems like a mess. Solidified into glue, every step will be entangled, and every time you want to talk, it will become heavy.
Fortunately, an emotional exchange after dinner made me know myself and understand my parents. My parents adjusted their attitude and gave me a more relaxed study and living environment.
Learn to communicate and understand, leaving room for yourself and your parents. Family will be more harmonious and life will be happier.
In life, every moment. We should all learn to leave room for everything. When we have an argument with our friends, there is no need to win or lose for you immediately. This time is running out, and it will only become a lose-lose situation. "endure a calm moment, take a step back and broaden the horizon", this sentence should not be used only for composition. When we begin to look back, we will find that the so-called dispute at that time was just a little disagreement; When we learn to be patient, the bridge of friendship will become stronger and longer.
Leave room for friendship, and the flower of friendship will bloom more brilliantly. If you have studied sculpture, you must know that when you first started carving. The nose should be big and the eyes should be small, so it can be modified later. Let our works be better.
A small way of carving contains the great truth of life; There is room for everything. We will be more handy.
Leave some room for argument 2. Be a man, leave more space for yourself. Leave room for yourself and leave room for others. Leave room for others, and there will be more room for effective communication when dealing with others.
Effective communication means that harmony is the most important thing. For example, a quarrel between colleagues and friends should be considered temporary at first, and should be reconciled after all. As soon as there is a contradiction between the two sides, they immediately start to scold each other, dare to expose anything short, dare to say anything ugly, and dare to scold anything ugly. This is not to leave room, but to cut your own path.
In Caigen Tan, there is an example of "attacking people's evil, not being too strict". In other words, in interpersonal relationships, in the spirit of tolerance, rationally eat some losses, others will owe you, so that you will have the basis for establishing good interpersonal relationships. If you want to punish someone and make yourself emotional and grumpy, and think about how to punish that person all day to get back at him for hurting you, then you have a good intention. However, it would be foolish to do something that harms others and does not benefit others.
Many people have experienced the taste of being offended to varying degrees. You may be so angry that your lips tremble and your face turns pale that you want to punch the person in front of you, but in the end, you managed to suppress your anger and didn't make any exciting behavior. It's just that you have a grudge in your heart and you can't forget the moment of humiliation. You want to be a generous person, but you don't know how to erase unpleasant memories. As the saying goes, "adults don't remember villains." It's a pity that you still can't reach the standard of "adulthood" and you are at a loss between "wanting revenge" and "forget it". That's suffering! In this kind of suffering, you forget to leave yourself and others a little more room to enjoy the realm, so you didn't break out in this kind of suffering, just waiting for failure in this kind of suffering!
Nervous emotions will bring you invisible oppression, and your mind will become narrow, suspicious and jealous; Unpleasant memories will evoke all kinds of evil thoughts, and your pain will not disappear, but you will be fooled by yourself. However, in the room, the people you hate will also have a lovely and respectable side. Who is the enemy and who is the friend? This is a very narrow dichotomy.
The same is true when arguing with others. It is pleasant to refute the other side with a rigorous debate, but there is no need to refute the other side to pieces. Because as long as you think about it a little, you will know that it is actually stupid to do so. Not only is it not good for yourself, but sometimes it is even counterproductive. Without the recognition of the other party, one day it will eat its own fruit and be attacked by the other party. When we have friction with others, we must first understand his thoughts, and then state our opinions on the premise of taking into account the other party's face, leaving room for the other party. This must be kept in mind when dealing with interpersonal relationships.
"Everything is done wrong" said: "Long Fu is an ant and can ride lightly, but he has scales under his throat. Whoever gives birth to a child will kill someone. " Life is measured, and few people say that they can live without children! "Legend has it that when the dragon is tamed, people can ride on its back, but there is a lamella about a foot in diameter under its throat. If someone touches that counter scale, they will definitely eat you. Just like people attacking each other, if you reprimand each other on the pretext of their fault and make them feel ashamed, then you should be careful, because the other party will retaliate against this arrow one day. Therefore, even if we have to reprimand each other, we should leave them a little way out. People who have no retreat and no room are doomed to failure!
There is a passage in Han Feizi's On the Forest. The second part ":"Huan He said: "The way of carving is that the nose is as big as eyes. The nose can be big or small, but it can't be big or small; Small eyes can be big, big eyes can't be small. "The same is true of the incident, because it cannot be repeated, and it will be defeated."
The main idea of this passage is: the moral of craft wood carving is that the nose should be big, the eyes should be small, and the nose can be reduced if it is carved big. If the nose is carved from the beginning, there is no way to remedy it. In the same way, eyes should be small from the beginning, and they can be enlarged when they are small. If you enlarge your eyes at the beginning of carving, you can't shrink them at the back. Doing things for people is the same. Leave room for everything and leave a way out. Only in this way can we avoid failure.
An experienced woodcarving artist pays attention to from top to bottom, from front to back, from surface to inside, from shallow to deep, and it is difficult to leave room after easy. In folk jargon, it is well said: "If you keep fat, you can change it into a small one. If you worry about a thin spine, it will be difficult to get fat again." "The internal distance should be small, but not too big. Remember that carving is subtraction. " Being a man, isn't it?
There are many sayings among the people, such as "raising children to prevent old age, storing food to prevent hunger" and "taking an umbrella on sunny days and eating enough", all of which say that we should plan ahead and leave room for tomorrow. There is also a saying in Minnan dialect: "Leave a little favor and meet again in the future." It means that when you get along with others, you should never do anything. Remember to leave room for each other, and you won't be embarrassed or embarrassed when you meet in the future.
Only by leaving room can we achieve balance, symmetry and harmony.
Only by leaving room can we advance and retreat calmly and bend and stretch at will.
Leave room for argument 4. Leave room for everything, leave a way out. Those who say that "only by cutting off their own retreat can they win a better way out" are desperate or decisive. It is undeniable that sometimes if there is no retreat behind them, people will concentrate all their energy and go forward bravely to win a way out for themselves. However, this is a rescue. Under normal circumstances, no one is willing to cut off the retreat. On the contrary, it is best to have more space and a back road.
Leave room for things. Plans are not as fast as changes, and changes are not as fast as telephone calls. Leave room for your daily work, for yourself and others, but you must carry it out as planned. For example, to catch the train, we should arrive at the station ahead of time to leave room for some unexpected things. For example, some things should be prepared in advance so as not to be rushed temporarily-a few more minutes of preparation last night may have saved hours of trouble today.
There must be room for doing things. If you keep getting fat, you can get smaller, but you can't get any fatter. For example, don't talk too much, so as to accommodate some accidents and not be unable to step down; It doesn't matter if you take risks, but when you take risks, don't gamble all your property; You can't do things too well, so you can leave a way out for yourself and not get out of hand. Don't slam the door, because you will probably come back.
In fact, whether there is space or a way out cannot be measured by quantity and size. For example, carving, experts know that the inner distance should be small but not big, and the outer distance should be large but not small. Remember that carving is subtraction. Han Feizi talked about the truth of carving in "Talking about the Forest-Part II". "The way of carving is that the nose is as big as eyes. The nose can be big or small, but it can't be big or small; Small eyes can be big, big eyes can't be small. " The same is true for an event, because if it cannot be recovered, it is a failure. "This passage means that the main point of craft wood carving is to have a big nose and small eyes. The nose can be made smaller if it is carved bigger. If you carve your nose small from the beginning, there is no way to remedy it. Similarly, the eyes should be small at first, and they can be enlarged when they are small. Doing things for people is the same. Leave room for everything and leave a way out. Only in this way will we not fail.
When dealing with people, we should leave room for ourselves and others. Our hometown is a mountainous area, rich in persimmons. One year, when I went back to my hometown and harvested persimmons in late autumn, I found persimmons scattered on the trees on the hillside. I thought it was the negligence of my fellow villagers, but later I learned that it was the fellow villagers who deliberately didn't pick it clean, and the few persimmons left on the tree were for magpies to eat. Because there was a lesson before, one year all the persimmons on the tree were picked, and it coincided with the snowstorm that year. Magpies starved to death because they could not find anything to eat. The persimmon tree was attacked by insects in the second year. It can be seen that everything can't be done to the extreme, and giving up the retreat for others is to clear the way for yourself; To leave space for others is to leave a world for yourself. People don't live in the present, and they don't have only one contact with people. Smart people know how to leave a retreat for themselves and space for others. On the surface, it is to forgive others, but in fact it is to pave the way for yourself. Otherwise, you will fall into a dead end, leaving yourself with no way out, no way back.
We should leave room for ourselves and others. To this end, we should: where the path is narrow, leave a step for people to walk; When the taste is strong, subtract three points and invite people to taste it. Knowing people doesn't have to say everything, leave three points for others, and leave some lip service and self; Don't be harsh on others, leave three points for others and some tolerance for yourself; Don't sell yourself short, leave three points for others and some connotations for yourself; Don't be sharp-edged, leave three points for others and some deep convergence for yourself; Don't ask for credit, leave three points for others, and leave some humility for yourself; Don't argue, leave some room for others, and leave some tolerance for yourself; Don't lean on the situation, leave three points for others, and leave some kindness and self; You don't have to enjoy wealth, leave three points for others and some blessings for yourself; You don't have to do everything yourself, leave some room for others, leave some virtue and yourself. Life can't be too full and life can't be too crowded. Leave more room for yourself when you do things, so that you can turn around calmly. Leave some benefits for others, leave some way for others to walk, and leave some time for yourself to think. Remember to leave some room for your life at any time. If you get it, you won't be complacent, if you lose it, you won't be unhappy, and you will be calm between gains and losses.
Leave room for arguments. 5 Sometimes you have to leave room for yourself when you speak or do things. In interpersonal communication, there is no need to strive for everything. Everything is your own good. Being strong is of course a good thing, but we must be measured and never go too far. When we were students, we probably didn't realize that at work, you who are competitive and different often suffer.
Many things everyone thinks they have done right, but sometimes don't say too much, just say that they are right and others are wrong. Some things are just personal opinions, and there is no right or wrong at all. When you want to express your ideas, you'd better be tactful. Don't take an aggressive attitude and think that you must be right. It's disgusting, but sometimes people don't want to talk about it. Even if two people really don't get along, don't force the whole life and death. If you get along, talk more; if you don't, talk less.
When someone speaks ill of others to you, you should pay attention unless you are a good confidant. He will speak ill of you behind your back, so don't dare to talk to him more. Sometimes something bad happens, believe it or not? This kind of thing has happened to me. It is better for such people to be careful what they say, but there is no need to argue.
In addition, I also heard a classmate tell me the secret of being cheated, which made me feel exaggerated. In fact, sometimes she just wants to break up your relationship and make you feel sorry for others. In fact, there are some things, especially personal privacy, which we don't need to care about. Don't care about things that have nothing to do with yourself. This is my opinion.
Leave room for argument. As we all know, tailors are most afraid of cutting clothes thin, because the material is thin and cannot be fattened. Everyone who cooks knows that when cooking, put less salt first, because it tastes light and can be supplemented with salt; When sculptors carve faces, they often carve their eyes a little smaller and their noses a little bigger, in order to leave room for further improvement.
Being a man and doing things are all the same, leaving room.
However, in real life, we often encounter things that are full of empty talk and absolute. Husband and wife quarrel frequently. "This day can't pass, divorce!" The friction between friends and colleagues is often "Let's make a clean break from now on!" Examples of embarrassing yourself because you talk too much can be seen everywhere.
A boss often beats the table and stares at his subordinates. He often has three sentences on his lips: "What do you do? ! ""Do you still want to do it? ! "Toads with two legs are hard to find, and people with two legs are everywhere. If you can't do it well, you will be laid off and leave! " Unexpectedly, one of his subordinates was promoted to his boss, which made the boss very embarrassed. Because he reprimanded his subordinates too much in the past, he was forced to resign and find another job.
Another subordinate received a difficult task. His boss knew the difficulty of the task and wanted to introduce it to him in detail, but he boasted and said, "I'll take care of it and make sure to finish the task in three days." A month passed and I heard nothing. My boss asked him how the task was going. He had to say, "It's not as simple as I thought." Although everything is expected by the boss, I am greatly disgusted with this subordinate's style of patting his chest easily.
There will always be accidents, and leaving them room is to resolve these "accidents."
In short, we should leave room for ourselves when we speak and do things, so that we will not go to extremes, and we can handle affairs more flexibly and solve complex and changeable social problems in the future. At the same time, leave room for others, and don't push others to the wall under any circumstances. In this way, it is good for yourself and people.
Being a man and doing things, leaving room for others means leaving room for yourself. If you leave room, you won't do everything and you can turn around calmly. Leaving no room is like the end of chess. Even if I didn't lose, I couldn't go on.
Leave room for argument 7. My parents live with my brother's family, and they are good at managing life.
Mother likes to plant some green vegetables or spices such as peppers and onions in flower beds or flowerpots. In the yard full of spring, there are not only colorful red flowers and green trees, but also colorful vegetables, which not only beautify the yard, but also improve life. Eating vegetables is both fresh and convenient. Father likes to plant several fruit trees in the flower bed, including oranges and kiwis, and the one that was not too big last autumn. Only one orange tree bears about forty or fifty big and round oranges, which adds a beautiful scenery to the flowers and attracts the admiration of many guests, including our family. The Chinese New Year is coming soon. My mother picked the ripe oranges for everyone to taste, peeled them and tasted them as sweet as honey. We are all admiring this orange tree!
More than half a year has passed in a blink of an eye. In the summer when the orange tree blooms, there is not a bud on this orange tree. Now is the fruitful autumn. One day, I remembered the oranges that were full of trees last year, so I gathered under the orange tree to see how many oranges were hanging on the branches. I felt very strange when I saw it. There was not a shadow of an orange. I asked my parents, "Why are there no oranges this year?" My father said, "There were too many knots last year, so it won't happen this year. This is the truth that things must be reversed. You should not go too far and leave room for everything. "
After listening to my father's philosophical words, I mused: life is like an orange tree, not every stage can be fruitful, not every wait can be realized, there will always be a gap, just as there will always be tides in the sea, the sun will always have sunrises and sunsets, and everyone will always have successes and failures; When the moon is full, it will lose money, and when the water is full, it will overflow; Gains and losses are always in samsara, so be modest and calm; When there is no fruit, it is a process of accumulating energy and adjusting. Don't be disappointed and pessimistic. The coming year will be fruitful and fruitful. At the same time, it reminds me of the golden mean: "The golden mean is just right." I also thought of the principle of "moderation, steadiness, rationality, tolerance and harmony" advocated by Confucian golden mean and the way of dealing with people. ...
Life is always interpreted and interpreted between gains and losses, making life more beautiful and charming. Facing the gains and losses calmly is not only a kind of emotion and reason, but also a kind of mind and tolerance, and it is also a positive attitude towards life and a healthy art of living.
Leave room for argument 8 to "take a step back and broaden the horizon" and "make great plans if you can't bear it", which is the best interpretation of tolerance. In our life and work, if we all learn tolerance, then we will have a harmonious interpersonal relationship. But at the same time, we should also know that we should endure when we should, and we don't need to endure when we shouldn't.
A hundred rivers are full of tolerance.
"A hundred rivers, tolerance is great." This is a wise saying that we should all remember firmly. Tolerance is a virtue. It forgives all right and wrong that it can or cannot accept. Learn to be tolerant, and our life will become happier and richer.
If you want to change, you must learn to be flexible.
Everything is changing. If you want to change, you must learn to change. Only change makes sense. In the face of endless contradictions and changes, in a sense, flexibility is the best way to solve the problem.
Be a man and leave room for things.
Be a man, leave room for things, leave three points for others, that is, leave three points for yourself. If you leave room, you won't do things absolutely, and you can turn around calmly. Leaving no room is like a chess deadlock. Even if I didn't lose, I couldn't go on.
When you can be confused, be confused.
"Hard to be confused" has always been regarded as the best way to be a person. Anyone who can achieve great things in the world has the ability to be "rarely confused" more or less. As long as you know how to play the fool, you are not a real fool, but fools are always smart.
Don't be angry for more than 3 minutes.
Anger is to punish yourself with other people's mistakes, which should not be. Anger won't hurt you: it will make you sick, make you lose your mind and make small things worse ... When you are angry, don't wait for more than 3 minutes, be sure to treat it coldly and tell yourself: this matter is not worth being angry at all.
Sometimes giving up is better than supporting.
Persistence is a necessary condition for success, but if you come to a dead end, you should give up and turn around if necessary, so as to find a way out, otherwise you will only hit a wall.
Always think of others.
It is a golden rule of interpersonal communication to consider the problem from the other side's point of view and think more about others. For the sake of others, you don't have to give him some property or some practical actions. Sometimes a little skill and a sincere word will also become an opportunity for others to cross the rough road. I also know that I always think of others, and others will think of you.
Don't ask for trouble unless trouble comes to you.
In real life, everyone has everyone's troubles, and we are also troubled by some troubles. In fact, troubles don't exist, they are all found by themselves. Keep an optimistic attitude, take things lightly, and don't think too far, then naturally there will be no so-called troubles.
Be the master of desire, not the slave of desire.
People can't live without the desire to pursue beauty (such as the desire to succeed), but they can't be slaves of desire. They must be masters of their desires, controlling and controlling their own desires. Desire must not be endless, desire should be enough. As long as we let go of some unnecessary desires (such as excessive greed), we will get real happiness and happiness.
Keep a calm mind.
Don't be happy with things, don't be sad with yourself, don't be humiliated with yourself, and be calm when things go wrong. This is a calm attitude. We should not be proud of success, nor should we be discouraged when dealing with setbacks. On the long road of our life, if we keep a normal mind, we will have an open mind and a detachment, and we will not be obscured by our inner desire for peace and tranquility, and we will understand the true meaning of life: plain is true.
If you can't show what's inside you, then what you don't show will ruin you; If you can show what is inside you, then what you show will save you.
Leave room for argument 9 Danes release small fish with insufficient size, and Mencius once said that they cannot be eaten without catching small fish with fine nets. It can be said that leaving room is the unique wisdom summed up by human beings in the long evolution process and the long-term way of survival.
Leaving room is the profit principle that people learn in getting along with nature. If you can't count it, you can't eat it, leaving room for creatures to grow freely. When you achieve natural harmony, people also get inexhaustible delicious food from it. As we get farther and farther away from farming, this principle is also used for commercial profit. Song Qing left room for people who were unable to pay their debts, and some even made him rich enough. Leave room, stay close and seek far, this is the way for the wise to make a profit.
Leaving room is a compulsory course to explore harmony. In the process of pursuing internal harmony, we should leave room for both satisfying our desires and being strict with ourselves. Uncontrollable people indulge their desires, leaving no room for morality, leaving no room for the people, and finally dying; And those who are too hard on themselves, leaving no room for happiness, will one day fall into the abyss of pain. In the pursuit of social harmony, we should leave room for others and tolerate others, so as to win mutual respect and move towards understanding. People and people, groups and groups, leave room for differences, and then make friends with differences to avoid conflicts leading to war and achieve harmony. (always start with the material itself, and then expand and extend, don't grab the camera or even digress. )
However, with the progress of mankind, the room left seems to be disappearing quietly. Since the industrial revolution, the rapid development of productive forces and people's fanatical pursuit of capital are expelling this slow concept. People are impetuous, and society is in urgent need of profits. There seems to be no room left. The relentless oppression of workers and the endless demand for environmental profits have become chips between competitors. There is no time to raise profits, and the eyes are good. No one can afford a room that is still unprotected to suffer huge losses in the future.
In fact, while human beings are gradually abandoning their houses, the world is also warning people that glaciers are melting, air pollution, many animals are on the verge of extinction, and the demand for nature is almost squeezed, which eventually leads to the threat of nature to human resources and health, prompting people to remember the ancient wisdom and transform sustainable development. However, the two world wars have dealt a heavy blow to human civilization, and now conflicts of interest and ethnic conflicts are constantly threatening people's safety. All this is a warning that it is time for people to make way for tolerance.
On the road of bringing back room, we should follow the golden mean internally, leave more room and seek spiritual harmony; External, more inclusive, regardless of short-term interests, development is more important. For the society, it is urgent to weaken all values that are impetuous for the benefit and leave room for development, which is the cornerstone of eliminating fierce conflicts and pursuing sustainable development.
Leave room, it's time to return to the throne of human norms.